tyler711

I just ended a 3 year engagement about 3 months ago. I recently met a wonderful girl and we've been dating for 1 and a half months. I was supposed to leave for a 6 month fire academy last week, but I couldn't because of I hurt my ankle. She just wanted to wait and date around and decide what to do. She just got out of a 3 year relationship too. Well, I'm stuck here till my ankle heals (atleast a month). So she lets out a torrent of emotions. She tells me she loves me. And I say it back, because I feel it more than anything. Well, we're definitely in it for the long haul now. We've talked about getting engaged, married, kids, job, house, even a dog. Well here's the kicker: She's mormon. They never, ever, ever marry outside of religion. They're religion is also very strict. No alcohol, smoking, tattoos, no caffeine, certian way to dress. They have a certain way to get married too. It's not a traditional wedding. I'm in the process of converting. Not just for her, but for me. I used to be a heavy drinker (im irish) and curser. I like how I am when I go with her. Proposal is probably osmetime close to Christmas/January. I'll have a 2 week leave form the fire academy so it would be the perfect time. Any comments?

I am leaving for a fire academy in 6 days. It is going to be very strenuos. I sprained my ankle a little over a week ago. It swole up on both sides (mostly on the outside) and hurt like crazy. It swole up alot and bruised. The bruising is gone and the swelling is way down. I can walk on it now, but it still is very sore. The pain went from about an 8 out of 10 to a 3 now. I can almost walk normally. I still can't squat down on it or do much with my toes. Will this be able to heal completely in 6 days? Is it still sprained or is it just sore from healing? What can I do to help speed up the recovery? I'm taking ibuprofen everyday. I iced it and wrapped it for the first 4 or 5 days. There is still some swelling and minor pain. Thanks

I am usually good at reading people, but this girl I'm seeing is beyond me. We've been dating for a month, and had sex for the first time. We both really care for one another, and are exclusive. So last night, we are at my house. We decide to fall asleep together. We end up kissing and stuff, and then she goes crazy. I tell her I don't have any condoms, and I'm not going to put her in that predicament. She got mad at me! She said "Well just pull out!". I tried to explain that some stuff comes out before ejaculation, and the chance of pregnancy is too high. I told her I also didn't want to because I want to plan it out this time. Candles and music and stuff. She got even more mad! I thought I made the right choice. Why is she mad? I texted her this morning, and she hardly talks to me. She is a very moral person, so this is a huge surprise. Don't know if this will help... Our relationship is rocky at best. Not anything to do with us, our feelings, or our actions. I'm leaving for a 6 month firefighting academy. She says she doesn't know if she wants to wait or not. I doubt this will help, but I want to give the entire story. I really care for her, but she confuses me. Somedays she will have ups and downs. I'm happy most of the time, and grouchy occasionally, like most people. Anyway, not to get pff on a tangent. Why would she be mad at my decision?

Thanks for all the advice guys. I know to go see a GP in a day or two, I was just wondering a few ways to stay hydrated, or reduce the nausea with some kind of "home remedy". My pills don't seem to be working that well. What I meant was that they examined everything and nothing was out of place. I suppose there's a .0000001% chance that I contracted HIV. I've never been in a position to get infected,but anything's possible.

Tests are all back already. Nothing out of the ordinary, and they discharged me this morning. They said to make an appointment with my GP if it doesn't go away, but didn't specify a time frame. I thought maybe a day or two.

Just went to the hospital after 3 days of diarrhea. First two days it was only every 2-3 hours. Now its 1 or 2 times per hour. They did x-rays, blood tests, and a stool sample. Had 2 IV's for dehydration. They gave me some pills to take 8 times a day. How long does this take to go away? What can be done to retain more fluids? How long to wait until I see another doctor? Thanks.

A marriage has a very good chance of lasting long under those circumstances. It's had a 100% success rate for me, because I met the most wonderful girl in the world! I was 20 when we got married, and she was 18, together for 2 years before that. It will work if you find a great partner like I did!

Okay, here's my situation. I just accepted a job offer for a multibillion dollar mining company. The pay is 50% more than what I used to make, along with a full benfits package for my family and I, 401k, paid vacation, and investment opportunities. The work is 12 hour shifts, so I work 4 days one week, three the next, then 4, and then I get one week off every month. I'm not complaining about any of this, but I'm planning on going back to school in a year to get certified as a law enforcement officer. I would have to work during school of course, but that means taking a 50% - 60% pay cut. This is a great job, but I can't see myself doing it for the rest of my life. I know what my plan is, but I was just wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience. That is, sticking with a good job instead of college, or quitting a good job in pursuit of more school or something that pays half the money and benefits of your old job. Thanks!

"Arguing over the internet is like the special olympics; it may feel good to win, but in the end you're still stupid." "General fuzziness" sounds like a condition where you have too much body hair!!! Your doctor is obviously a nut, so the only choice is to get a second, and then a third opinion. Wait for your bloodwork to return then make another appointment with a general practitioner. Eliminate all the crap from your diet like sugar and caffeine, and get some more sleep. Forget taking 2 pills a day for fish oil, 3 for fatty acids, and one for each individual vitamin. Get a good multivitamin and take 1 a day. Drink a half to one gallon of water. And go running or get that heart beating as often as you can! These are things that will HELP you GREATLY even if nothing is wrong with you. Use a psychiatrist as a last resort.

Could be your cold. Have you been exposed to any change in elevation or weather? If it keeps up for a week then see a doc.

Oh no, chatrooms are definitely a no no. Make sure he wasn't there just to look for links to websites. If he was talking to other people that makes a world of difference.

Did you atleast try the hot wings? They're delicious.

It says that because everyone is getting divorced, there need to be books on how to maintain a relationship. Pretty easy to understand to me. There were no books on this decades ago, because everyone who got married stayed married.

I used to watch porn all the time before I met my fiancee. I stopped cold turkey after I met her because I felt it was inappropriate. 90% of all guys watch it or look at it atleast once. He probably means nothing hurtful by it. Believe me when I say that it's just a natural inclination. I would consider the lying a bigger problem. If this bothers you to the point of leaving every time he does it, then maybe it's time for some space. If you can both be honest with each other and can work out a mutual compromise, then stick with it. Good luck!

You are doing everything right. You don't have to abandon all hope of salvaging your relationship just yet. No contact is the best thing to do, because if you pop in and out of his life it makes him think he doesn't have to change because you are still clinging on to him. Show him what it's like without you, and if anything will make him change, this will. It will give him time to think clearly, and the reality of you being gone will sink in. If after all this he still won't change, then you're better off apart anyway. Good luck!