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  1. Yes, I think I was! But after posting here, I decided to tell him and I do feel better for it.
  2. Youre right, I’ve just been googling it and some dating experts say that things can be a ‘slow burner’ and I’m just questioning whether 6 weeks is long enough to know?
  3. I recently started dating someone younger than me (6 wks ago). It started off as a one night stand and we both agreed that we wouldn’t necessarily have ‘chosen’ each other (if we were on Tinder for example) but we hit it off in the bar when we were drunk & had good pillow talk, so kinda thought we should see each other again. He’s really great in some areas, thoughtful, communicative, makes the effort to see me & always has ideas of things we could do together. He’s very forthcoming in how he feels about me & says he’s always thinking about me etc. Some areas he’s lacking for me in ways that kind of annoy me & also not massively fulfilling in the bedroom but because he’s so nice, I wanted to give him a chance & try & get over these lil hang ups I have. I like him but I feel pretty indifferent. Last week, he bought me some flowers & asked me to be his gf & I kinda felt like I’d be a huge d*** saying no, so I agreed. I’ve been slowly kind of internally fizzling with him tho. It’s becoming an effort to text him & I don’t know if I really care to see him again. I don’t know if this is just my mind panicking because I haven’t been in a relationship for a while or bc I know subconsciously that I’m doing the wrong thing so I’m backtracking? I really don’t want to hurt him but I just don’t know whether I should give it a bit longer in case it’s a slow burner or if I should cut it off now? 😫
  4. Hi everyone! Please could I preface this post by saying I’m 29 and would love advice from people within my generation? That is no disrespect meant! It’s just dating advice varies wildly with the different generations lol! I go to a gym and for the past few months, there is this dreamy guy. I’ve seen extremely subtle signs that he could be interested but I really don’t think too much into it because we’re at the gym! I’d really love to shoot my shot but I have no idea how. I have no idea if he’s single or even interested and how I’d possibly make him feel by approaching him. I think it’s more awkward at the gym also, sometimes we walk out into the parking lot at the same time because we go to the gym at the same time. I’m leaving this gym imminently and I just feel like I’ll kick myself for not trying but I’m kind of ICK about the whole thing also 😅
  5. Day 7 - nothing much to report. It was a week today that we went for a walk and had a 'closure' chat. Irrational brain kicked in again yday tho. He never goes on fb. We aren't friends on fb tho I can see when he's been on to accept a friend request. He was on yday. Seeing as I kept checking, I know that's the first time in probably a week or 2 that he's been on. My posts are public, for the sake of trying to calm this ego trip that I'm on, it's highly likely he went on my profile. He might not of, it's just coincidental that it's nearly a week without speaking &a he never goes on but knows that I post. I'm being totally honest & I know I sound CRAZY! I've just been on this ego trip for the past few days & I'm hoping now I know he's been browsing fb, potentially to check on me, I'm hoping my ego can crawl under a rock. I don't feel the need to check anymore & apart from 4 occasions where I've logged on to check his profile, I'm still social media free. I guess it's good to document this because I feel like a complete psychopath and an idiot admitting this
  6. Redsox- I really hope you stay strong and don't contact him even if it is his birthday, you're doing well
  7. Update on yday night which was day 5. I withheld my number with the intention of ringing him. Someone answered sounded like a girl but it must've been background noise cause he'd never let a girl answer an unknown call he'd know it would be me. That's why I did it. I was feeling irrational, had no want to speak to him just wanted to let it ring couple times then hang up so he'd see a missed call &a maybe ring me to check if it was me...I just want to satisfy my own ego that he's thinking of me. As soon as I did it I thought no. Why do this? Thank god I didn't speak to him. DAY 6.... I had a relaxing day today. Read, slept then went shopping. Got the new iPhone 7 and traded in my old phone. The phone I got with his company discount, the phone we've had countless arguments on. Something therapeutic about having a brand new phone. Thoughts of him and sometimes his new relationship pop into my head every now & again & im immediately battling them back out. If I let my brain wander, it wanders to him. But I don't think I'd want him back. I really don't. So i duno why he pops up in my thoughts. I feel good tho. I think. I'm hoping by day 14, a good solid two weeks, thoughts of him will begin to fade.
  8. Day 5....I still don't have my social media apps but I logged into Facebook and checked - twice - for any indication he had been online. He's told me once this year he had looked on my profile so seeing as its day 5 I wondered if he got curious and checked. I'm kinda reasoning to myself that he's with someone else only because it didn't go anywhere with me. If I hadn't found out, he would've continued meeting me im sure. We hadnt spoke in a few weeks, met up then he met this other girl on the Sunday & I found out that night & went a lil nuts. Maybe he does like her tho. I still think she's the consolation prize but maybe I just wanna feel better about it all. Still feeling good about NC. Trying to assure myself that I'm not feeling down about him it's just my ego talking. Would I actually even want him in my life. I duno. Enough thinking about it for one day
  9. Day 4 - I feel really good today. Good day at work and my friends want to go out on Saturday. I've temporarily deleted all social media apps that I have to give myself a bit of a cleanse and take some time to be productive in moving on & continuing on the right path
  10. I started NC on 31/10/16 after meeting my ex on 30th. Breakup has been since Dec last year. Tried several times to try to win him round but I kept making the same mistakes. Found out he's dating someone new a couple weeks ago he still is. Won't talk about it to me & said he wanted to be friends. I said I'd only wanna get back together so if I can't have that then I'll cut him out. Feeling okay today, Monday and Sunday night I cried but I didn't last night. Just feel so down about the realisation I'm not his girl anymore
  11. I just wanted there to be no bad vibes in my life, I wanted no animosity or tension. I'm glad you're moving on, 10 months is a long time to have been apart and you did give me chances for us to start again. I feel so lucky for that & it's my bad I didn't make the most of it. I still love you. I think part of me always will & that scares the sh1t out of me
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