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  1. I agree with you, but I follow some of these girls, not the naked ones, insta models with good sense of fashion style, or hair styling, girly stuff. But tbh my problem is I believe that I was born and live in a wrong era. I am an old-fashioned girl. I dont know where I got my values from but I have a way of thinking which doesnt help me to find a decent person to have a relationship with. For example this guy, he behaves like a very loving, caring, respectful person in person but once I check his social media account, I dont wanna see him. It puts me off. Why? Because to me, following nakes girls once in a relationship with me is wrong. I mean, I regret having such a way of tihnking. But thats just how I am. I have tried to adjust myself to fit in, but it doesnt work. I feel left out most times.
  2. I am considering it. But I wanna keep my dignity and value. So i dont know what I should say exactly. And him texting me today how happy he is that I walked into his life and that he cant imagine his life without me now makes me feel even worse.
  3. I could talk to him but even if he is so understanding and stop what he is doing, he might go back to old habits. Becuse clearly, since he is doing it for 3 months openly, he thinks its normal to follow insta models when in a relationship. And its like an obsession to him. Isnt it? And I dont know how should I discuss this topic with him and what to say exactly. I am thinking about asking him if he would be happy if I follwed naked men models who looks completely different from him. How would that make him feel.
  4. He always tells me that he wouldnt do anything to upset me. But clearly he is not aware that what he is doing is disrespectful and upsetting me. Men can say anything to a woman but its their actions which matters. I am not sure now if I should talk or not say anyting and leave with dignity.
  5. I want someoenw who respects me enough to hide this behaviour ofcourse. I am not saying he should go on and cheat on me. But I would love to be with someone who cares enough to hide tis activity. I already know that men loves looking at naked woman. But I dont need to see that, especially when we are away during the weekdays, him texting me how much he misses me, cares about me etc but then following naked woman. It doesnt feel right to me. I dont want to break up with him at all. I am quite upset that I will have to end things tbh. I am also feelng upset bcz I am planing to end things whie he is planing a holiday together for us soon. I just wish he was mature and sensitive enough to not do such thing so we could continue our reltaionship happily (on my side, bcz I know he is happy already).
  6. We are not even having sex yet, because I dont feel ready. I wouldnt mind if we were wathing porn together thats a different story. But looks like I will just end. Thanks anyways.
  7. Thats the thing. I do not want to change his behaviour. That is why I rather just break up with him. But again, does it worth breaking up over something like this? As others said its about clash of values and as LDJ said I need to consider the long term effects on the relationship. Since it has been only 3 months, it is better to cut it off now then later.
  8. Doesnt it effect your relationship? Do you trust your partner? Or dont you feel disrespected?
  9. Hello, I have been dating a guy (28 years old) for 3 months, he asked me to be his gf recently. He is treating me very well but he constantly follows new naked insta models. These girls are people that he cant meet obviously but the problem is I find the fact that he is following and constantly seeking out naked woman very disrespectful. Also, the fact that he told me he will only have eyes for me and I will see with time that I can trust him, but despite saying these, him following these accounts doesnt look good to me at all. I am conflicted. On one side: - I know that guys and girls can look at other people and find otehrs attractive while in relationship too. I follows celebrities and footballers that I find attractive. But I wouldnt follow D... pictures on social media especially when I was in a relationship. It would be disrespectful to my bf and I am sure he would be worried if he saw my social media activity following bunch of accounts with d... pics. I find him following naked insta models on insta totally disrespectful. And He appears as a thirsty guy in my eyes now, who is constantly seeking out naked woman (but again I dont know if this is normal for men). - Indeed, before meeting him i've always wondered how my friends or other girls put up with such disrespectful treatment. I always told myself I would never be with someone who disrespects me like that. (Plz correct me if I am being so harsh). - So, since it has been only 3 months, I am considering to end the relationship by saying something like "we are not compatible" and continue dating and choose to be with someone who wont do that. Because I think that if I try to talk to him about his social media activity, I might appear as a controling person. Also, I dont want to tell him what to do. If he is happy following these women, he should. I shouldnt be preventing him. It shouldnt be a forced decison, it should come naturally from him. Perhaps he is not done exploring? On the other hand: - I am thinking about keeping it very simple and telling him: "I know its normal for both man and woman to look at other man and woman and find others attractive but following these accounts and constantly seeking out naked woman is disrespectful." I will also tell him that I always told myself I would never put up with such activity in a relationship and see what he will say and take it from there. -- I dont know which option is better. I feel that this relationship has a potential if we could get past the insta issue. Also, the reason why I posted here is, I want to get more opinions. Perhaps, I am overreacting and being overly jealous? Perhaps I should change the way I think about the whole thing? For instance, some people might say he is a men and men are visual, so if he is loving and caring and making me feel beautiful, loved etc, I shouldnt worry about social media. But on the other hand, his social media activity is not making me feel respected. Also is it really healthy to lust over others when in a relationship with someone you claim you care about? I would appreciate your opinions, what should I do?
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