destinyshine

i think you are very right.. but u know... thats how i am 2 years ago too... anyway, thank you for giving me advises ^^ i will keep the progress informed

yes.. i will ask her again i asked her if she is vegetarian when i was asking her to go to BBQ or not (i havent ask her again yet) she is not vegetarain, she just dont like BBQ stuff at that time, she WAS a little between not going or going, she is like well.. umm.. hmm.. maybe not... while her best friend is next to her trying to get her to go to... so.. i will ask her again on monday! my friend told me something really important - library really isnt a good place for asking this kind of stuff! so.. maybe i will wait until she is going to class from library then i ask her on the way, since our class is perfectly in same direction. i probably would ask her.. "hey.. you dont have to eat those BBQ stuff if u dont want to.. just have fun you know? ever since u been to USA i bet u havent have some fun like this, why dont you come and social a little with me and my friends? you can also bring your roommate to come if you want to" and maybe add on if u come u would make me and my guests really happy if she dont want to come still... then i will just let it go for this one because some how, i dont feel like its because she dislike me and dont want to come. because me and my some adult online friends talk about it, there are couple points that points out my image in her head isnt so bad: 1. she COULD've do homework at some other classroom, but she now do hw in library everyday because i told her we always hang out in library before (this one could really just be coinsident) 2. she always sit directly at the opposite of the table of where i am sitting - which u can just saw each other when u get ur head up 3. before i was gonna ask her if she want to come to the BBQ, i was thinking about ask her after i finished organizing everything, but then my friend thought i'm embarrassed so he said he is going to ask her for me while i try to tel him to stop. they (the girl and her roommate) saw this argument and her roommate just said: you better be the one who come ask her that (me) because your image is better in her ( i dont know how to translate this well since its in chinese @@ but u should get the point) i dont know.. maybe she is just shy or afraid to trust me since we only know each other for like a month?

ya.. i been thinking about it.. so i decided to make a BBQ event on next saturday with my friends and her. i orginzed stuff but today i asked her if she wanna come that she said: sorry... i dont really like to eat BBQ stuff... although her only friend were trying to like, "u sure u dont wanna go?" i was a little down about it but that time i said thats fine. I then asked my friend maybe i shoudl ask her again, he told me we should give her some time and ask her again on wednesday do you guys think its a good idea?

now i thought about it i start feeling that to her i am probably like a weird boy who just came in to the library everyday and walk up to her and say something boring for 5 minute , froze, and walk away god..

i asked one of my best friend about this... he told me: sure, that could be a good idea. but first before you do that, you got to ask your self are you cabable of buying her lunch, is she the kind of girl that would accept such a semi-date kind of thing so early? suddenly i think he is reallly right. i only met her for like... 2 weeks? and only talked like 5-6 times and each of them is only like 5 min because i just blank out! i nervous and worried too much.. i dont want to rush anything.. or scares her off.. (specially scaring her off, i really dont want that happen @@) so.. what is you guys's opinion on this?

hmm.. that sounds really good idea, but it came with couple problem... 1. I dont think they ever gonna finish studying, they always come in and homework/study until bell ring 2. if i ask her, her friend will problem wanna come too (manner stuff... u just cant drag someone's friend away and left that person alone) and... how do you put it.. she REALLY isnt the TYPE of the girl that i wanna get in to anything with her, not even all my friend want to. 3. my friend is POOR like hell =-= one of them (we call this guy "pervert" because he is such a player he always go to different people's house at night cuz he have no place to live, he messed up his house and too lazy to clean it) have NO money at all... they possiably have NO way to buy lunch... @@ they will probably follow us and pretend drooling over food and fooling around..................................................................... it would be so nice if i can spend some time alone with her, and with stuff that i can actually say which can just came out of my mind... a frozen atmosphere is really what always what happen to me, which so far i am doing a pretty good job avoiding it while talking to that girl

I am 17, a senior on HS, and I really havent have any love experience until resently, there is this new freshman chinese girl (i am chinese too, been only living in USA for 4 years) came to our school... my first instinct is "wow, she really could be the one" even though I am a shy guy, I just go up without thinking and started talking to her... it was a pretty nice chat. After that day, days after days I found her in school sometimes and talk a little to her. JUST alittle. why? because I got so nervous and my mind just blank out.. she is a very shy girl too. couple days ago i told her she can hang around in the library with us (well of course what i really wanted is to hang out with ME) so.. about since 3 days ago she starting to show up in the library with her ONLY friend (since her english is not really well, she only have this chinese girl roommate girl as friend, who always do stuff with her in school) They just walk in. find a table to sit down (always the table next to the table me and my friend are sitting in) and start doing homework together... my instinct tell me, its not the time to be shy! you gotta go talk to her! So.. i walk to her.. and start talking to her with the topic i been thinking every night that I can talk to her.. then after like 5 minute... blank out again.. one of my adult friend from online said i should make a excuse and leave for like 5 minute to calm my self down, find a topic and come back.. but.. its just blank blank blank!! when i go back... all my friend on the other table all came and start fooling around... acting like idiots... and they just sits down at the table where that girl i like is! The My friends part, i can tell them to stay away. But now the problem is... 1. blanking mind... 2. she is doing homework with her friend... do you know what i mean? it is really hard to... chat with her while she is doing homework.. i mean.. I feel like she is answering my question... not to start a chat... and that makes me feel like i'm disturbing her studying.. my adult friend also told me i can ask her what she is interested in... like "what book you like?" (she like book) "what do you like to do?" favorite stuffs.. etc.. but I just feel like, that is something you ask after you know someone more, and got more into a chat..... can anyone help? btw, I dont know how american dating works.. but in chinese teen culture.. its usually saw a girl -> talk to her ->know her more ->friend -> do stuff together -> confess -> girl friend

well... like some people know me before from previous post, i am kind of person that try to get a rl relationship from online (onlien bf/gf first, and maybe rl later) I met this girl she is from canada and.... she look exactly like the girl in my dream... i really liked her and i met her from a online game called Talesweaver. i knew her for about 2 weeks now and... now she is playing another game called Priston Tales. Well.. even i dont like it but because i wanna get near her i start playing it too.. I play really hard just try to catch up to her.. but... she have to say no to most of the stuff iasked.. here is a conversation: me i finally can level with u now wanna level togehter? her its ok me her canot heal me, you cant tank me me i can kill stuff for u so u can level faster her can kill stuff too doesn't this kind of obvious that everyday right when she go on i'm already there waiting for her and say hi to her excitly, and i always try to make up topic just to talk to her...? I really dont know what to do... and i really dont know what she is thinking, can someone that have experience please help me...? its been troubling me really bad these couple days...

well... i already love the girl i met online which is what i'm talking about, i dont want to have real life relation cuz i dont like any girl in my school.. so anybody can help me plz >.

i'm 16.. she is 14... i like online love.. i dont want love to affact my real life till like college lol. but i really love her, i know i'm crazy T-T

well hi again... i had always come here when i have trouble with my love problem... after i got rejected by my ex online gf to come back to me, i was very depressed. then when i was playing the online game "ragnarok online", i met a girl in my guild, and she was kind of depressed too, she talks to me alot, so we start playing game together, and one day i told her i love her. She said she love me too, but she think she is not ready yet, but since she really love me we can act as boyfriend and girlfriend without being in a couple. So i guess its the best, i get to talk to her and tell her i love her and she do the same. But lately she told me that one of the reason that she dont want us to be couple is, she dont wanna hurt other people. because she love alot of other people but alot of them dont even know or some of them just being mean to her. She said she is thinking about it and trying to elimate as many people as she can, maybe only me and her because thats what she want, only 1 on 1. Even i kind of got hurt by this.. i still tell her that i will give her as much time as i can to let her think about her feeling and when she is ready she can tell me and we can finally be a real couple. guys did i do a wrong choice..? I mean, do u count this as cheating..? if i do this, is she gonna take advantage and countiunesly love so many people, or she is really gonna be with only me at the end? She said She really love me alot... she think i'm different then the others becasue when she told people she is depressed and she should just go die, other people always ask her to get help, but i'm the only one saying i wanna share her pain and help her.... Guys... I really, really love her, i love her more then anything i ever loved.. I am ready to give anything for her... but there is always a scary chill on my back when i think about it... how if she choose the other people instead of me? or.. how if she is being a couple with so many people? (she never tell anybody lets be a couple though even me) I mean i really trust her, but i just still have that scary feeling, what should i do >

sometimes i felt that she is too young to understand how i feel about her u_u (i just turn 16 and she is 14)

how old are u? i think that might help the question

sigh i want a friend anyway u_u just dumped and i felt so bad No i live in USA, California CA/M/16

i guess i can ur friend.. just not to meet in real life though