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I wasn't aware of breaking the rules. I was merely curious about the decorum of this site, it was a question since I have been on other forums with different guidelines As I said way back then I was a member of a forum called Ask Men. They kept redirecting users to other sites and this is where I ended up. I understand now thatthis is more of a discussion or a debate forum, Thank y'all, and Merry Christmas!

Not a relationship/ dating question, I have been a silent member of this group since it was " Ask Men". Maybe this is not the same forum. Either way, I find it odd, how some members take over the topic themselves and amongst themselves without the OP participating. Is this a chat room or an advice forum? I just don't see the point of posting on and on between members if the OP isn't part of the conversation. Can someone enlighten me if and why this is somewhat a pattern of this community? I mean, I have seen pages and pages of members discussing a certain topic without the OP being involved. I will post this as a separate topic as well. I am looking forward to your answers. Merry Christmas to all

I have been a silent member of this group since it was " Ask Men". Maybe this is not the same forum. Either way, I find it odd, how some members take over the topic themselves and amongst themselves without the OP participating. Is this a chat room or an advice forum? I just don't see the point of posting on and on between members if the OP isn't part of the conversation. Can someone enlighten me if and why this is somewhat a pattern of this community? I mean, I have seen pages and pages of members discussing a certain topic without the OP being involved. I will post this as a separate topic as well. I am looking forward to your answers. Merry Christmas to all

Well, I dated while I was separated. We were both done and just waited for the time it took to make it final, we weren't even married for most of the year before it, not getting along, arguing constantly, had been growing apart, etc. I don't know about this woman, maybe she is on the rebound, maybe not. Since she usually pays for her meal and also pays for your meal at times it seems she is a bit distanced and perhaps wants to keep things casual. Also, you don't own a car and she does. It just seems like your lifestyles are different from each other other than the interests you share. Is she going to gain anything financially by getting a divorce, how old are the children? What are her plans for the near future? Have you been intimate? How close are you emotionally?

OK, I lost focus on this, it went into some weird pregnancy/ tumor thing, I am just going to reply to the original post. since there are adults involved would you appreciate your parents telling you about their sexual relationship and or adventures? What did they eat and what they didn't eat? I hear you and your concerns but you must move past this. You are an adult and as much as you want to share with them, trust me it would make them uncomfortable. Take it as it is, process it, learn from it, and move on.

sorry, she isn't emotionally stable. She will have these erratic mood swings until she works it out with a therapist. She may or may not need meds for it. You are going to be on a rollercoaster with her for pretty much a long time. You can love someone and all that but it is hard to be with someone who isn't open with you. Best of luck!

I have had some serious and traumatic things happen to me in my 40s. Diagnosed with PTSD etc. My folks, after some time, saw that I had isolated myself. I had profiles on Match and POF only to be contacted by players or men that I wasn't attracted to by profile or looks.. I understand I am/ was older but I had just experienced a major natural disaster so i went along with e harmony. First and foremost there were zero matches in my area or up to 150 miles. I think the selection on there is very limited.

I precieved this as they have never met in RL. Regardless, if he knows about her weight and height and so does she I see nothing wrong with going forward. Attraction isn't always physical. I had a long term relationship with someone who wouldn't be in any way considered handsome by conventional satandards, I became attracted to him per his intellect , wit, compassionate and loving way. I thought of him as a beautiful human being and didn't give a flip as to what society thinks

Well, I agree with the OP. I think he is overreacting. I don't place my phone in immediate distance but close enough to hear my alarm. If it woke him , well, it is what it is. I am a pretty light sleeper but I just ignore texst u nless I have an active convo going on. I know if it was urgent I would get a phone call, not a text. I feel like everything trivial can wait and possibly wait until the next working day. You mentioned you have had conversations around midnight so it isn't crazy for you to do it. Yet, calling him out the way you did was a bit over the top. Usually men don't go gaga about pics. Just chill and give it some time. If you have been together for about a year it will all work out. Its just a minor thing if you otherwise get along. If he continues to make a mountain out of a mol hill i would put some thought into how your relationship would be moving forward.

Sorry, what is agog?

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I agree with the OG. Something is fishy here if she doesn't want to do a prenatal test. Perhaps she doesn;t know who the father is. I think if she were sure about you fathering this unborn child she would consent to the test.I feel she wants to keep you in limbo, perhaps if her supposed other intimate encounters are unwilling to go that route, worst case she may not even really know the person by his full name. I am not shaming the woman, I, personally have witnessed similar issues with one friend and also a relative. I do not know her motive . I unerstand you are reaching out and asking if she is doing okay, I think it is nice you do it. Stash a bit of money away.If she does not contact you after the birth I'd still be on guard as a a DNA test can be done and requested at any given time and if you are indeed the father you may have to pay child spupport and be in arreas ( sp). Keep money tucked away and if you are not the biological father you can keep on saving for a rainy day orspend it on something nice for yourself. If I was you I'd want to know also. Keep us updated, please!

I was just going to post that a 20% chance means an 80% chance there is not. Great news.!

I have a slight extended family just come down to stay with us for about 3 days . They did stay in the hotel because our house has a unique living situation. The relatives all have pets but they all married or have other people to taker care of the pets while they're away.. they literally love my dog and comment on how well behave she is and what a wonderful dog she is. They invite me regularly to their vacation home. I told them I would very much like to visit and spend time I'd be willing to board her. She is a German shepherd Boarding her would cost about at y 50 bucks a day Surprising to me they said my dog wasn't welcome Even she is super dog friendly she loves them she loves kids she loves everyone. I would leave her at the hotel or I would actually love to take her with me everywhere I go. They have brought their dogs to my house. I know I have to respect their wishes but, I don't know I just feel kind of weird so do I have to spend hundreds of dollars to board my dog and go visit them which they desire or just bow out. They say they just don't want to deal with the dog. They invite me on a regular basis so I have been assertive can board her or maybe I can't because of money issues and I told them but I mentioned I just may have to take her along and I was told that's not an option so what do I do?

I got here a million and some years back through AskMen. I usually lurk, I had a few questions back in the day. These days I just see if someone has a problem/ issue similar as mine.I work part time as a caregiver and also board and train all sorts of pets from cats to horses.