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hey, i would like to know what ppl out there think...i have a full-blown crush on a female friend of mine (im 17) and ive never told her...everytime i see her i just want to kiss her (it is a sexual/romantic crush). im pretty sure she suspects it (at least i think), but she doesnt know..is it 'morally' wrong would you say not to tell her? (given that she is my friend)...its not that i cant trust her to tell her something like that, but im scared of losing her as a friend or that shell really reject me..im so scared of the words ' i dont feel the same way back' - even knowing that she is very open minded about things like that. is it 'wrong' (if you see what i mean) not to let her know? sometimes i feel like im 'keeping a secret' from her..but at the end of the day, it concerns me more than her...what do you think? i just dont know what the general view is on a thing like this. take care everybody! thank you

I was wondering, since ive heard a number of times that homosexuality and left-handedness are linked (although im not sure I believe it)- who of you are bi/homosexual and left-handed? or, do you know anyone who is gay/les/bi and who happens to be left-handed? what do you think of this theory? also...if you were to be asked why you are gay/les/bi, or the origins of it for yourself, what would you say it is? (im just curious, since i find the whole topic quite fascinating). I know nobody truly knows the real reasons, but say..do you recall a particular experience in your youth after which your feelings suddenly 'changed', or you saw you were attracted to your own sex? even a small thing perhaps - or do you feel you were born that way and have always had those feelings? hey, and who was your first same-sex crush that you recall? a close friend? or maybe an older person that you admired, but it turned into a crush? were you ever 'popular' with the opposite sex? all these little questions that you never know, could affect the way one becomes inclined...(not that theres anything wrong with being gay- in fact im fully crushed on a female myself!)

hey: this goes in two parts..it might ring a bell to other of my posts but trust me, its actually a totally new thing! (that ive never shared). hey, im a normal 17 yr old female and i do all the normal things ppl my age do...school, music..partying...i go to quite a few parties lately which are always great..but lately ive become increasingly wishful for girl/girl experimentation. i dont know why, its extremely weird but its like ive reached a point where i need it badlyyy. like, seriously, and putting actual crushes aside, i could make-out with almost any girl about my age who asked me or was keen- its this irresistible urge that has come upon me to 'feel another female'/to share something - just an experience-not necessarily a relationship w/another girl at all. Its so awkward - my urge to make out with a guy (any guy my age) isnt big at all-moreover it isnt really there at all. guys hardly cross my mind lately (they dont at all, to be honest) in a sexual way. and what frustrates me is to think that i probably know quite a few gays in my year (school)-im sure of it, because with a lot of them its very obvious (mannerisms for instance) and that danng, i dont know any girls who are like me! And yet, there just HAVE to be some - even among my circle of friends! Its just that, like me, theyre all very girly. I always have my little suspicions of girls who are likely to have had thoughts like me - theres quite a good friend who loves to get physically close to other girls- she was chatting to me the other day by the way and she ran her hand down by back, reached the small of my back and lightly surfaced the top of my bottom. shes just friendly in that way, but it annoys me to think that probably someone i know feels like me and there is no way to find out. My question is: (im not some kind of desperate loser by the way, i have to say, and i am perfectly 'harmonious' with myself in all other areas of my life), but, how can i satisfy this need? i mean..honestly, what can i do? how do people find casual hook-ups? (i would never, oddly enough, consider a casual hook-up with a guy). I know friends who have casual hook-ups (opp. sex) every week-end almost (which i believe is a bit exaggerated). Still, if they can manage, why cant I? How can i do that? Im sure that if I had a hook-up now with another girl, more things about myself would become more obvious to me - it would help me see if I truly amm into girls for example. Maybe im just at a very 'exciteable' age - but even my body is asking for it and theres no way i can properly release that other than the way im saying. How do you get same-sex hook-ups? it seems such an impossibility. also, why am i so afraid of letting people know that aspect of myself? i mean, i dont believe in labelling myself or categorizing myself, but i dont see anything wrong in saying to friends: well, yes, im curious and would love to try something with another girl. Knowing my friends, I know that overall theyd be quite accepting and ok with it and they might even see me as daring for saying it, and yet, i cant say it!! a lot of times im on the absolute verge of saying it but i never do because theres always a voice saying that i'll regret it or that it would be a life-time error. But why does that happen to me? What can i do about it??? im thinking of saying these things when i finish school because by then i wont have to walk in the halls and buildings with the 'label' on me. I havent been brought up by really close-minded parents and yet it terrifies me to say that. Even people i dont really know well or who i meet and will never talk to again - theres always this idea that somehow they'll get the information to my friends which is my greatest fear, and yet, im sure some of them suspect it anyways! what can i do? what should i do? how can i get over this fear a little bit? whats happening to me?? im really confused. I hate it i hate it i hate it. and sometimes i hate myself for falling for the wrong people (always girls who wont return the feeling-or, who arent likely to -since i never ask them about their feelings or tell them about mine). ive had too many experiences of secret crushes im on the verge of exploding and while i want the world to know once and for all i cant let it know! do you understand me? it hurts so much you cant imagine. i neeeeed some i dont know. someonee please just understand me. or, i dont know, give me advice please. luv u all. i cant even find the courage to tell really close friends, even though i know they would understand! whats wrong with me??

hey: this goes in two parts..it might ring a bell to other of my posts but trust me, its actually a totally new thing! (that ive never shared). hey, im a normal 17 yr old female and i do all the normal things ppl my age do...school, music..partying...i go to quite a few parties lately which are always great..but lately ive become increasingly wishful for girl/girl experimentation. i dont know why, its extremely weird but its like ive reached a point where i need it badlyyy. like, seriously, and putting actual crushes aside, i could make-out with almost any girl about my age who asked me or was keen- its this irresistible urge that has come upon me to 'feel another female'/to share something - just an experience-not necessarily a relationship w/another girl at all. Its so awkward - my urge to make out with a guy (any guy my age) isnt big at all-moreover it isnt really there at all. guys hardly cross my mind lately (they dont at all, to be honest) in a sexual way. and what frustrates me is to think that i probably know quite a few gays in my year (school)-im sure of it, because with a lot of them its very obvious (mannerisms for instance) and that danng, i dont know any girls who are like me! And yet, there just HAVE to be some - even among my circle of friends! Its just that, like me, theyre all very girly. I always have my little suspicions of girls who are likely to have had thoughts like me - theres quite a good friend who loves to get physically close to other girls- she was chatting to me the other day by the way and she ran her hand down by back, reached the small of my back and lightly surfaced the top of my bottom. shes just friendly in that way, but it annoys me to think that probably someone i know feels like me and there is no way to find out. My question is: (im not some kind of desperate loser by the way, i have to say, and i am perfectly 'harmonious' with myself in all other areas of my life), but, how can i satisfy this need? i mean..honestly, what can i do? how do people find casual hook-ups? (i would never, oddly enough, consider a casual hook-up with a guy). I know friends who have casual hook-ups (opp. sex) every week-end almost (which i believe is a bit exaggerated). Still, if they can manage, why cant I? How can i do that? Im sure that if I had a hook-up now with another girl, more things about myself would become more obvious to me - it would help me see if I truly amm into girls for example. Maybe im just at a very 'exciteable' age - but even my body is asking for it and theres no way i can properly release that other than the way im saying. How do you get same-sex hook-ups? it seems such an impossibility. also, why am i so afraid of letting people know that aspect of myself? i mean, i dont believe in labelling myself or categorizing myself, but i dont see anything wrong in saying to friends: well, yes, im curious and would love to try something with another girl. Knowing my friends, I know that overall theyd be quite accepting and ok with it and they might even see me as daring for saying it, and yet, i cant say it!! a lot of times im on the absolute verge of saying it but i never do because theres always a voice saying that i'll regret it or that it would be a life-time error. But why does that happen to me? What can i do about it??? im thinking of saying these things when i finish school because by then i wont have to walk in the halls and buildings with the 'label' on me. I havent been brought up by really close-minded parents and yet it terrifies me to say that. Even people i dont really know well or who i meet and will never talk to again - theres always this idea that somehow they'll get the information to my friends which is my greatest fear, and yet, im sure some of them suspect it anyways! what can i do? what should i do? how can i get over this fear a little bit? whats happening to me?? im really confused. I hate it i hate it i hate it. and sometimes i hate myself for falling for the wrong people (always girls who wont return the feeling-or, who arent likely to -since i never ask them about their feelings or tell them about mine). ive had too many experiences of secret crushes im on the verge of exploding and while i want the world to know once and for all i cant let it know! do you understand me? it hurts so much you cant imagine. i neeeeed some i dont know. someonee please just understand me. or, i dont know, give me advice please. luv u all. i cant even find the courage to tell really close friends, even though i know they would understand! whats wrong with me??

hey, was wondering..how do other girls 'hit on' other girls? lol...do the same typical flirting signals apply? or..how do two women flirt (romantically-not just the casual friendly natural female flirting)...how do women flirt with one another and how can u tell if another female is flirting with you? do things like hair twirling, for instance still apply¿ cause everyone knws so much about hetero flirting and ntg about gay flirting! - at least, i dont and considering i may be at least a little bi, it wud be awesome to know, from the ppl who know beest lol...im still just in my teens...and hey, what we do at high skool isnt 'official' flirting i dont think. lol. thanx...just something that would be really cool to know. take care everyone!

hey,im a 17 yr old female and this may be a very typical question, but i am seriously curious what does a sexual relationship between two women constitute? or whats the difference between one involving two women and one involving a man and a woman? ive heard all sorts of things but im not too sure lol. im supposing that every single encounter/experience is different, however there must be some general differences. is it true it tends to last longer as well? oh..and just out of curiosity again...how does a girl/girl couple decide that they want to have sex? i mean..like usually (although it shouldnt always be so i think) in a heterosexual couple the man takes the first step..what happens in a girl/girl situation? many thankx and, wherever u are, enjoy yr life! (its shoooort).

yes, i think you should post her a letter - but make sure you definetely wont see her again. Just keep it honest and straight-forward, but keep the tone 'bouncy' and happy rather than extremely 'passionate' or romantic as that could potentially freak her out - and true enough, u may not see her again (in which case it wouldnt matter), but its always better (for you) that she remembers u in a positive light. also make sure only SHE gets the letter/reads it, so think carefully about hw yll send it; deliver it. Good luck

hey!by the way..why get angry at yrself for the way you feeel?? really, ive been in a VERY similar situation and there is NO POINT in feeling mad at yrself. its pretty ironic if u think about it that yr more likely to lose her friendship perhaps by continually 'pulling away' or not showing too much 'interest in her'. plus, shes bound to end up asking u whats wrong..and if she doesnt..these can actually be dead give-aways. Listen, why are u mad at yrself for it? (i currently have a massive crush on my same-sexed friend and im not mad at myself for liking her). I cant afford to be, and if u look deep within yrself, yll see that u cant either. Yre a special person and you have to respect yrself. A great part of that constitutes not torturing yrself for feelings you have no control over. Also, please dont forget that yr feeling a feeling that is natural and universal and NORMAL (a feeling that, u never knw, she mite be feeling tooo!) . Life is too short for u to be getting mad at yrself for feeling the best thing yll ever feel. hey, ive just Pm'd u..with a longer version of advice..do read GL!

hey everyone im a 17 yr old gurl and...here i am with one of my miscellaneous 'wonderings', but i really am curious to knw what yr thoughts/opinions are. Lately ive heard from different people that bisexuality tends to be more common in women/girls rather than in men/guys, and that actually, most women (or all women) are, to a degree bisexual (more so than men). Do you think this is true? why so? (im really curious about it and it would be quite helpful to me..given that i have a tendency to develop crushes on people of the same sex lol). the thing is, like, ive actually seen non-verbal flirting among female friends of mine (or me with them)..very subtle things sometimes...things that wud pass off as more than friendliness...and it is true, isnt it, that women tend to be naturally flirtatious...but still...im thinking...how come guys arent like that? i mean...ok, its also true society is more uptight about men being affectionate w/each other (or, simply gay, versus lesbian women who dont seem to have as many problems)...but still...what do you think? is there truth in the idea that a female body is simply too beautiful to pass unnoticed? (by either gender, that is). thanx ppls looking forward to yr ideas/opinions. have a great daay!!..and remember: life is incredibly short.

hey, im a teenager and im wondering...just as a general question...is there really such a thing as 'feminine' lesbians? - cause the typical thing is to always hear about 'butch' lesbians (i know its true that stereotypes should be ignored and that they arent necessarily true), but i wud just like to confirm whether or not a lesbian/bisexual woman can be as 'feminine' (clothing, 'mannerisms', etc) as a straight woman/gurl. Lately ive been doing a lot of 'questioning' of my sexuality and preferences and ive realised i tend to like 'girly' girls (even considering i am one of them myself! - i always, always pay attention to 'girly' details...earrings, jewellery..and i loove pinks/blues)...which cud potentially mean i prob knw at least someone who is very gurly and lesbian (only they havent told me)...cause 'girlieness' is associated w/'straightness'... what do u think? thank you!

hey, (im a 17 year-old female) and well i wrote in a while ago saying how i was really attracted to a female friend of mine and asking if i should tell her..and u knw its soo weird it overpowers me (maybe its just the age) how all of a sudden i can go from thinking/feeling one thing to feeling another. I have always been primarily attracted to girls for reasons i dont understand - every person ive ever admired/crushed on severely has been a girl. And then; then, like an unexpected gush of wind that shattered every living corner of me, a guy 9 years older than me came along - only for what seemed merely a second - but it just happened. I fell for this man at a special party one of my school friends had recently. It was the first time in my life a man (not just your average teenage boy) showed an interest in me. He said things to me I'll never forget - just straight-forward compliments that sounded more genuine than any other thing Ive ever heard. He had the most gorgeous eyes and for the first time in my life I actually appreciated the male form. He held me close to his body as I danced with him and I felt safe. I havent spoken to him since or shown an interest in meeting up with him...the age difference sort of scares me, and i rather leave it as a beautiful memory. But I know that whatever happens, and wherever I go in life (or with who), that memory (of something so simple like being appreciated by someone I'll wont see again), will never fade - sure, it'll become small, or future instances will get piled on top of it, but it'll be there if i ever need to run to it. What im trying to say, is that )im only 17, and ive learned an important lesson: that experience showed me something about myself...that given the right conditions I can potentially be attracted to men/guys. Heres my issue: he asked me to make-out with him and i said no...i dont know what it was that drove me to say no..because i liked him so much and yet i couldnt bring myself to doing it. I really wanted to in fact, but the 'no' was stronger...why could that be? is it maybe im sort of 'scared' of males, and i find it a lot 'easier' to 'fall for girls' who in reality, are not that likey to return the interest? the more i think about it, the more i realise maybe all my 'issues' have to do with me being maybe underneath, afraid of growing up..because growing up is the equivalent in many respects to having relationships (typically, or so we have been taught, with the opposite sex- in this case men). is it possible that underneath i doo like guys but im suppressing it because girls and the 'fantasy romance' thayt they involve are easier? And then theres this guy in my grade who's started to talk to me a lot lately...its like...i feel giggly around him and i enjoy flirting with him, he's started to show serious 'interest' in me..he makes me laugh BUT..i try picturing him as byf material..and i just cant...like...i cant imagine myself making out with him for instance - although i enjoy his attention. And then, finally, beneath all these very new 'experiences' to me..is the female friend of mine...who i keep speaking to obviously...its just whereas before i used to be a lot more 'affectionate' with her (before this meeting ta the party made me reflect upon myself)...im not any more...i just dont feel the need...i dont know, or... i used to think about her all the time...i dont any more...and i dont mind...like for once i feel 'secure' or 'comfortable' without having an intense secretly-lived crush. And yet, ive dreamt about her a lot recently - in my dreams i can see her incredible hair flying in the wind...when im with her now i dont feel the rush i did before...i kind of miss that, because it was fun and intense...but heres the confusing thing: if she, say, asked me to make-out or something, i would DEFINITELY DO IT! (thats the thing that hasnt changed)... what do you think of all this? im very, very, verY confused and theres nobody i can really talk to ...not because ppl wont understand, or wtvr, but because i dont want ppl in my immediate environment finding out about every little aspect about myself. and another thing...supposing this guy asked me out...what then?¿...i like flirting, im also a flirty type..but im not really attracted to him...but then, maybe i wud be if i went out with him.. thankx.

hey hey, thanks for that. well, she has in the past held my hand, like she just suddenly slippped her hand into mine when we were at a 'social' thing with friends, etc. It took me by surprise and tho i saw it as a friendly move, she did hold on tightly and when she let go she softly gave my fingers a little caress (it was ever so subtle but incredible) - it was a slow pulling-away type of thing. I think yr advice is very useful and im glad u knw how to put yrself in my shoes, and ive decided it wud be rather stupid to stick a note in her locker, and that talking is the best approach (as u say, somewhere private). thing is, what can i actually go about saying? wud u say smtg like 'have u ever liked a gurl b4?' or...oh, and wud u bring up the convo casually, or actually say to her beforehand that u needed to talk to her about smtg....thanks a ton

its long, but its the size it means to me, please dont judge before reading. hey there im 17 and, i have an issue cause i really like a good friend of mine (we're both females) and as far as im concerned, shes straight, tho i do think she flirts w/me sometimes, we have normal than longer eye contact often, darting little glances we give each other in class occasionally..whenever we hug, they last aages, i dnt knw why, but its not yr average 3 second hug..footsie when we're sittin side by side (initiated by her, on three occasions in the past), ive had little joke comments about parts of me like my bottom, (but in a funny, friendly way) and wow, the other week we were at a party sitting on a couch and she was moving closer and closer to me (very slowly and discreeetly, but it was amazing especially since she was talking to me in a whispery (hand over mouth way)-about ntg special really, but the way she did it blew me away. Meanwhile she occasionally straightened herself, but to only slowly cross her legs towards me again (to the point our legs were touching). Lately, (altho she certainly does appreciate hot guys if she sees them), shes very 'anti-guys' saying that they're all the same/superficial, and shes told me a number of times. I really need to knw what i should do, because im feeling extremely curious, and i would like to tell her but i dont knw how...its like we HAve brushed the topic of say, bisexuality but ive never actually been like: 'well, would u ever make-out w/a gurl, etc?" how can i do that? shes open-minded and all, but i dont knw quite how to tell her...shud i do it at a next party im at with her? just during a casual talk during recreation? what should i say? or should i just slowly 'move into a kiss' next time i find myself in a situation (like i was at this party)? i truly felt 'chemistry' of some sort and i cud swear she was thinking the same as me, but then again, i could be wrong...What should i do? What do you make of all this? Y ou knw, our friendship I think sometimes, has a strong element of very subtle romance - like we talk tonnes about slow songs and about how emotional they make us, or certain love lines we've heard...i dont do this with many ppl, just her..thats how special she is. how about writing a note/letter, stickin it in her locker? or is that a bad idea?...any advice appreciated.

hi everyone! this is long; - but its the size it means to me - dont judge by the length before reading pls here goes. this is really awkward..im a female teen and ive been interested in a female friend of mine for quite a while now. I truly get the impression she flirts w/me sometimes. our eye contact is often prolongued, lots of smiling, some footsie here and there and its funny coz its when we're at someones party/house that all this seems to intensify...her body language becomes less 'friendly flirty' and somewhat more 'seductive and meaningful'. i was half sitting/lying on a sofa beside her recently (at a bday party) -we were alone, and occasionally she would straighten herself but then return again in such a slow but i have to admitt, rather sexy way; and each time i noticed she was discreetly moving closer to me. She was talking to me in a whispery and slow manner, her eyes showed she was composed but her eyelids would open and shut slowly but really seductively! And so, her legs were crossed towards me, to the point i could feel my feet touching hers. Even her waist and hips seemed rotated towards me in a way i havent really seen with any other friend. In reality, she was the one to take me over to the sofa to get a rest from all the music. So we spent ages there talking about nothing very specific really, but the whole time i felt this irresistible urge to kiss her..and i promise that there were instances where i could have just done it because i was getting the 'rite vibes'. but was i?? I dont knw her orientation but weve occasionally touched the subject of bisexuality and we both agree we're all slightly bisexual by nature, and she seemed enthusiastic in defending that view-point. still though, she hasnt a clue i like her (altho i do think its obvious sometimes). MY QUESTION is: what do you think of all this? was she thinking the same as me? next time im with her in a situation like this, is there any way i can bring up the subject of my curiosity and suggest experimenting? there are jokes and things she says regularly that really make me think that altho she talks about guys a great deal,deep down she would be interested in a girl/girl thing. advice, ideas...appreciated immensely.

hi everyone! this is long; - but its the size it means to me - dont judge by the length before reading pls here goes. this is really awkward..im a female teen and ive been interested in a female friend of mine for quite a while now. I truly get the impression she flirts w/me sometimes. our eye contact is often prolongued, lots of smiling, some footsie here and there and its funny coz its when we're at someones party/house that all this seems to intensify...her body language becomes less 'friendly flirty' and somewhat more 'seductive and meaningful'. i was half sitting/lying on a sofa beside her recently (at a bday party) -we were alone, and occasionally she would straighten herself but then return again in such a slow but i have to admitt, rather sexy way; and each time i noticed she was discreetly moving closer to me. She was talking to me in a whispery and slow manner, her eyes showed she was composed but her eyelids would open and shut slowly but really seductively! And so, her legs were crossed towards me, to the point i could feel my feet touching hers. Even her waist and hips seemed rotated towards me in a way i havent really seen with any other friend. In reality, she was the one to take me over to the sofa to get a rest from all the music. So we spent ages there talking about nothing very specific really, but the whole time i felt this irresistible urge to kiss her..and i promise that there were instances where i could have just done it because i was getting the 'rite vibes'. but was i?? I dont knw her orientation but weve occasionally touched the subject of bisexuality and we both agree we're all slightly bisexual by nature, and she seemed enthusiastic in defending that view-point. still though, she hasnt a clue i like her (altho i do think its obvious sometimes). MY QUESTION is: what do you think of all this? was she thinking the same as me? next time im with her in a situation like this, is there any way i can bring up the subject of my curiosity and suggest experimenting? there are jokes and things she says regularly that really make me think that altho she talks about guys a great deal,deep down she would be interested in a girl/girl thing. advice, ideas...appreciated immensely.