SuzieB

Right now I feel like my symptoms are worse because I am aware of what I am doing and that I have this problem. I am taking Cymbalta for anxiety, too. Who knows maybe the cymbalta is causing things to get worse. Thank you for your reply and quotes.

"DOGS ARE PEOPLE!" ....this is a little bumper sticker that I have on my refrigerator. I have an English Bulldog who is "my child." I love her with all my heart. I can't imagine losing her and she is only a year and a half. You had your sweet puppy for 15 years! Anyone that says "it is just an animal" makes me sad. I wish they felt differently and wouldnt assume that others would buy into their belief. No one knows exactly what it is like to love a pet unless they have been in that situation. You seem a lot like me...sensitive and a big heart. In my guidance counseling internship, I volunteered at a grief camp for kids who had lost someone important in their lives....a parent, sibling, grandparent, friend, etc. What we taught them includes the following: -it is ok to cry. -people shouldnt be encouraged to just "get over it." -they should be encouraged to talk about it and express how they feel. -bond with others who have lost someone special, too. -we created "memory boxes", encouraged journaling, scrapbooking, etc. My suggestions: *Create a webpage "tribute" to your puppy. "Myspace" would be a good one. Its easy. You can put so many pictures up, slideshows, make friends with others, post bulletins, blogs, select music for your page, etc. *Brainstorm the memories you had with her. Reflect on her life in terms of a "celebration." *Does AKC have a Jack Russell Club? If so, maybe they have a "In Memory" page. I know English Bullies do. Hang in there. Its ok to be sad. You have lost someone very important to you. Please keep me posted as to how you are doing.

thanks. we'll talk soon. Dealing with ADD is tough especially as an adult. People are more understanding of children wtih ADD than with adults. I guess it is because when one thinks of add/adhd, they think of a kid who is springing off the walls or the kid that cant sit still or focus. I found a lot of good resources on the following site: link removed. have a focused, restful night!

why don't you have permission? Thank you for your concern. I am at a loss for words right now.

I started taking antidepressants after a break up about 5 years ago for anxiety/depression. They have helped, but they all carry some level of dependency and are difficult to get off of when the time is right. You have to gradually do it. Playing the game I like to call "Musical pills" cant be healthy. I have flip-flopped from several different ones and I would just like to know the real me again. Be careful.

It has been several months since I have been on here, but I'm back. Here is my problem: -I was diagnosed with ADD about a year and a half ago. -prior to that, I had been treated for anxiety, but the anxiety was really coming from the frustration associated with my disorganization, inability to get stuff done, feelings of nonproductivity, 5 million thoughts in my head at the same time, the list goes on. -The Pill-popping cycle: Paxil to Celexa, Celexa to Paxil and then Paxil to Cymbalta which I am currently taking in addition to my Adderall XR. Cymbalta may be aggravating situation because I am worse than I have ever been. -I am a teacher and my administrator has caught to my behaviors: flip-floping from subject, to subject to subject in parent conferences and with colleagues, "not having my ducks in a row," "impulsiveness/interrupting, difficulty with paperwork, staying on task, disorganization. THIS IS ALL VERY UPSETTING TO ME. -Please don't misunderstand, I am a highly qualified teacher with a masters degree in counseling. I have had good reviews since day 1. I am known at my school for my creativity, genuiness, sincerity, and my ability to get along well with parents. My administrator is just concerned about me and I am bothered because I never realized that I was obviously ADD and that I was doing what I was doing. -I am trying to cope with ADD by making lists prioritizing important things and being aware of my difficulty getting from point A to B without taking at least 20 detours along the way. How many times have I been told "get to the point!" -I am not the most punctual person in the world. Getting somewhere on time is one of the hardest things in the world for me. Distractions derail me from my end goal. -I have never really had a successful relationship. -Sex sucks because I have so much going on in my head at one time and I cant climax. Please help. I at least want some friends who have ADD and know what I am going through. Tonight, I was so stressed out I took 2 pain pills to mellow out and I never would do that normally! They were left over from when I was hurt once but I know better than to abuse them. I know this is a lot of stuff, but my point is that I am an Adult female with ADD and am trying to cope. thx, Suzie B

That was really inspiring what you said. I, too, am feeling like I'm in a funk because I am not getting "snapped" up. It is hard to believe when people say "it will happen when you least expect it." However, on some level, I know that saying is true. It is hard to be patient. My friend who is married and has two kids tells me all the time "I would pay to be you for a day. I cant even go to the bathroom without my kids or husband talking to me!!!" Ok, I feel sad being alone, too. It is nice to be in love and to have a new blooming relationship. I miss that. However, we need to look at the positives!!!! The great things about being single: *you can sleep in on the weekends *your schedule revolves around YOU for the most part. *U can live off of Lean Cuisines *If you cook a big meal for yourself, you can eat on it for a week! *You don't have to pick up after anyone...towels, dirty clothes, dishes *You don't have to stare at someone elses pig sty and resent them for not doing something about it. I am sure that I am missing a few other good reasons, but I know others can add to my list. Take care!

I have thought about that, but I don't feel like I should have to pay money to find the right person. I did put my profile on yahoo personals, but I got replies from guys that I would never be interested in. I got really frustrated with that. Thank you, though.

Hi. I am sitting at home on a Friday night and probably going to sit at home tomorrow night, too. How am I going to meet someone when I am sitting in my apt? I work my tail off all week long and am honestly wiped out tonight. I don't think the right place to meet people is at a bar/club. I have lots of friends, but they are all married or engaged. They have children, so they arent exactly wanting to go out all of the time. So, I am wondering how to meet people of the opposite sex who are worth dating. I got out of a serious relationship back in September and have dated a couple different guys, but they didnt work out. My ex's supposedly really good friend has been calling me and asked me out for a drink if I wanted this weekend. My ex hates me so why should I care what he thinks? I just dont feel right about it. I feel stuck in a rut and just wanted some words of encouragement. I need to be working out, but cant get up the energy or motivation. I also feel like starting to go to church again, but the motivation is not really there. I think it would be nice, but I get up on Sunday morning, and start doing other things or I sleep until 11. I need to make some sort of a life change or need to be content with the way things are right now. I just don't know how.

This one is good, too. Yes, it is rough to get over someone...for me it is a series of unsuccessful relationships that were hard on the heart. "Insensitive" by Jann Arden How do you cool your lips After a summer's kiss How do you rid the sweat After the body bliss How do you turn your eyes From the romantic glare How do you block the sound Of a voice you'd know anywhere Oh, I really should have known By the time you drove me home By the vagueness in your eyes Casual good-byes By the chill in your embrace The expression on your face That told me You might have some advice to give On how to be Insensitive How do you numb your skin After the warmest touch How do you slow your blood After the body rush How do you free your soul After you've found a friend How do you teach your heart It's a crime to fall in love again Oh, you probably won't remember me It's probably ancient history I'm one of the chosen few Who went ahead and fell for you I'm out of vogue, I'm out of touch I fell too fast, I feel too much I thought that you might have Some advice to give on how to be Insensitive

I think people are actually attracted to mystery and it is easy to be mysterious with someone you are NOT interested in. That would explain why people whom you are not interested in are so attracted to you. However, my feelings are written all over my face...when I am pissed, sad, excited, happy, nervous, etc.....so when I like someone I am sure I am smiling too much are act too happy....obviously no mystery there! So, my look when I am not interested would be the "indifferent" face. Boys must like that...especially the ones who I don't want. Dating is so frustrating! Thanks for the comments!

Hey, basically, the guy I was seeing for the past 3 weeks proceeded to do the NC on me and I didnt see it coming! I know that is an easy way out of avoiding an uncomfortable conversation of why it isnt working out, but my goodness! All of a sudden, he quit calling (he was calling everyday) and quit e-mailing. I feel so rejected and stupid. I can't play the games that dating requires. I usually am not interested in men that are interested in me. Men that I am interested in may date me for a while and then I get crapped on. My last 3 relationships have been very unhealthy and left me feeling drained and insecure. I would rather not date anyone than to have to get hurt like this. Does anyone else out there feel like they are bad at the dating game? Is anyone else sitting at home on a Saturday night and pissed off? ](*,)

Ok, if you havent followed the Bachelor from the very beginning, you wouldnt know who Alli G is. However, if you have been following, you would know EXACTLY who I am talking about. She's the girl who confronted the bachelor on why he sent her home. She got so mad. The media went wild and people were talking about her how crazy it was. I was embarrassed for her for her "breakdown" on tv. However, deep inside, I really understand where she is coming from. I don't agree with the reproduction thing...I think that is a little judgemental that people get married soley to reproduce. The rotting eggs thing was a little too much...but when she confronted him and asked him what went wrong. She verbalized what many women stress themselves out about when a man doesnt call. Rejection is frustrating and annoying! It hurts. What did I do wrong? What did I say? Did I say something stupid? Could I have done something differently? Instead of being "man" enough be respectful of a girls feelings and tell her why it "isnt working out" many men just blow the girl off (not calling, not returning e-mails) in hopes that they get the hint. The girl is left wondering what went wrong and many times, takes it very personally. I just wondered how other people feel about this.

That is so wonderful that you are able to be happy by myself. I am single now and it is like someone ripped my towel off of me and I am running around naked. I am running from bush to bush trying to "cover" myself or searching for that perfect towel to wrap up in. One of my ex's biggest complaints was that I needed to find a hobby....something to make me happy. We broke up about six months ago....I can say it is for the best, but it sucks really bad...the whole dating thing..getting rejected. I HATE IT! I guess my question to you is what is your advice to someone who isnt content with being by themselves? Congrats on your house, by the way. That's wonderful...I just bought my first last month. I have a great job, great family, friends, pets...but I feel like there needs to be a significant other in my life. Good for you for loving yourself!!!!! That is so important...some of us arent at that point.

Hello. I have been happily dating a guy for about 3 weeks up until this point, or say, since Sunday. I was cautious and surprised myself when I realized that he was 7 years younger than me...I am 28...you do the math. He really swept me off my feet with my valentine's gifts...perfume, flowers, candy, etc. On Sunday, I decided to fix him a really nice dinner and worked pretty much all day on it. Sunday night, he came over late and would have probably cancelled on me had I not told him that I had already put it in the oven. He had a lot of school work that night, so he pretty much ate and ran. I understand that college can be stressful....I have my masters degree. Up until Sunday, he had been calling and e-mailing pretty much everyday. Now, it has been almost 4 days and no communication. I kind of got a bad vibe Sunday night when he left...but what the hell? I e-mailed him yesterday with a light-hearted note, but no response. He has pretty much cut me off....I hate this! I hate it that I don't even get an explanation like "hey, you are great, but...." I am trying hard to not keep pursuing it...I haven't called him...just the e-mail. He said "I'll call you.." when he left on Sunday. Why am I sitting here on Wed. with no communication? I am not a * * * * * * *....I know when someone is not interested....is this what's going on? I know what I do when I am not interested, but I am careful with others feelings. Can someone give me some insight on this? I am also feeling a little strange and depressed because I am 28 and have had dead-end relationships. I am getting really frustrated!