MissCanuck

Here we go again.

Precisely. Best friends don't need to tell each other they are just friends, because they already know. This sort of conversation wouldn't need to happen at all. This would be akin to me announcing that rain makes the street not dry.

Over one message from an ex, a year ago? She clearly does not trust you. Think about what that says: she believes you lack dignity and are dishonest. In other words, she thinks quite little of you. I would stop enabling this, and start re-evaluating if this is the sort of relationship you really want.

This is you making excuses for her. She didn't fall off the turnip truck yesterday. She knows this would be absolutely unacceptable for most relationships. She just wants to continue doing things her way. You know you are in a dubious relationship when you need to explain why having an ex for a sleepover is not alright. The vast majority of adults would not need this spelled out to them. Neither does she. There is a difference between not understanding, and not wanting to hear it. She's the latter.

I wouldn't continue this relationship at all, OP. She is showing you very clearly that she has flimsy boundaries and very different values from you. She also talks out both sides of her mouth and has different standards for you than she does for herself. In short? You two are not a match. I would let her play with T all she wants and find someone who is more emotionally mature to date instead. This girl ain't it.

All of this speculating and ruminating is useless, girl. You are wasting precious emotional energy on a man who isn't going to become your boyfriend. You need to learn when to let it go, and understand it's a dead-end.

Wow, what a crock of equine manure. Sorry Alex, but it is glaringly obvious you are terribly jealous of her and don't like her - and also that you were mad she didn't want to eat your food. Are you also mad at your mom? Sure. But to say you like your brother's girlfriend is rather hilarious since we can all read what you already wrote about her. You re-write history a lot in your own mind.

Hopefully you actually let go of him this time. This is silliness.

I think you wanted this relationship to be something it just wasn't. Sure, there were moments you felt special. But that is not enough when the overall tone is one of feeling unheard and unseen, and when you feel your partner doesn't respect you. You didn't cause him to cheat. He chose that. If he was unhappy, he could have ended it with you before he had sex with someone else. He didn't do that. He is not a quality guy, and therefore you haven't lost much at all.

Whether or not this guy is seeing someone else isn't that relevant, OP. The point is that he doesn't want to take it further with you. You are having a lot of diffculty letting go of this and you are essentially asking the same questions over and over in your threads. It isn't getting you anywhere because the bottom line hasn't changed - he doesn't want a relationship with you. And if it's been 10 days since you last heard from him, you need to understand that someone else probably has his attention now anyway. Being "friends" with him is a terrible idea since it will keep you stuck and hurt you when you find out that he has met someone else and is dating her.

Have you met men before?

I think you secretly like that she didn't eat your food. Why? Because it gives you more ammo to complain and have a "told-you-so" moment with Ma. It plays into the martyrdom approach you take in life.

Stop feeding the troll, my friends.

Well, no, you're not going to have another baby with him anyway. What are you still doing there?

Usual for whom? This is silliness, OP. If you want to get back together, pick up the phone and call her. Have an actual conversation and speak like adults. Forget the teenager-ish social media games and arbitrary No Contact timelines.