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  1. yeah i live in a smaller city, where most girls are found at schools and clubs.. thing is im not in school no more and when i got to clubs sometimes its hard for me to start conversations with girl because there always with their friends and sometimes become hostile
  2. i agree, i been shy my whole life and i been trying to overcome it since i was 16, i guess i can talk to anyone now, but when it comes to attractive girls its different, i have alot of work to do and im not gonna settle for shy as being somehting part of me
  3. date a few at one ? i never dated more then jus one girl, but if you dont mind telling me how u date many at once id be greatful
  4. i hope this helps: i grew up with both parents, my dad was more liberal, he let me do anyhting, but then there was my mom. she never let me out, kept me in, if my friends came over shed always think they were bad influence... so i was never around anybody growing up, only at skool..so i blame that on the fact that im shy..i could done alot in my adolesense
  5. shyness isnt a good thing, im shy and i miss on alot of thing cuz of it..instead of getting laid friday night im at home playing video games, drinking liquor with my buddies..aint much of a social life, im 22 and i havent had a girlfriend since last year and when i do get a girl its because she comes lokking for me first, but thats rare.
  6. well some old friend of mine invited me to some youth even that was going on in some church, i thought it would be boring cuz it was church, but i didnt wana let em down so i went.. and i saw alot of girls ... i got kina of nervous because sometimes when girls talk to me i dont know what to say or i studder.. well anyways when we all ate during dinner.. i happened to sit by some girl, shes was ok i guess, she didnt attract me that much..but i thought to myself might as well practice by chattin wit her, so i asked her name blah blah and finally i asked her if she had msn. she told me she did but that she hardly went on..then she didnt say nothing after that, so without asking again i took out ap iece of paper and pen and jus asked "so wats ur msn ?" and she gave it to me.. after that we kept talking, but then she left cuz she had to go to that bathroom. i felt sorta happy i took that step not knowing this chick, but i still feel like it was too easy because i wasnt quite attracted to her and i jus wanted to feel how it was to get a girls email... when a girl really is attractive i get nervous and the feeling of being rejected..i guess i have along way to go, what yall think ?
  7. thats what im gonna start doing, because im wasting my time, ill jus become a better me and wok up on my confidence..somehow, because i really do need it
  8. bump that yo, im 22 and im still shy
  9. I dont really know how to start, its been a while since i been on this, been out trying to experiment, trying to hook up with girls, but i jus keep hitting a dead end, or i jus keep going around in cirlcles like a dog after his tail, i feel that way now , it seems every girl i run into gets bored of me, my personality sucks, i have no grace, i feel like a worthless piece of time for everyone.. some people have tried to tell me im unique in my own way, but i jus believe thats bs just to make me feel better, i dont wana keep whining but i jus feel like giving up on the dating scene.. i mean all the girls that im attracted to seem to not even pay attention to me, im bored of myself and i hate myself for this... maybe a few have liked me, but they totally not my type or are either old friends. i know some people in here have helped me by giving me link to sites, ive tried some of the things, but it all depends on confidence...that gift which i dont have...i wish i can jus wake up and be another person ](*,) ... anyways i hope i dont get any negative comments im trying to at least get some last help, my last hope..cuz i think ima jus give up and be single for the rest of my life..i feel that bad. btw im not bad looking just that my personality sucks!!! i hate it, i been through so much that i can hardly laugh anymore, im not fun to be around with.. i wish there was a way out of this shell..if someone can help me id appreciate it...
  10. thats the problem, im having trouble jus approaching any girl
  11. im having trouble with this...i was at wal mart yesterday , i bought a few things..went to the check out and i noticed in the next checkout some nice lookn girl was jus gazing at me, at first i thought she was looking at someone behind me..i looked back and there was no1 there..so i looked at her and noticed she was looking straight at me. i gotta admit, it kind of intimidated me and i got shy right away and turned away tryina not too look at her... right away i knew i did something wrong.. i jus wish i looked at her longer, i wish i coulda said hi, but i jus froze up..i feel l ike i lost a good chance right here, i mean the girl was fine. BTW this isnt the first time i seen this girl, last time i went to wal mart my friend was tryina strike up a convo wit her ( even though hes married) and she didnt even notice me ( although my friend insists she was checking me out) and he was upset because i didnt say nothing to her..... so now this is the second time and i dindt do nothing about it.... how can i be relaxed in situations like this? maybe its because im not use to girls checking me out, i dont know, but i jus wish i had looked at her and smile but i dindt and thats what im regretting right now.
  12. alright thnx Byob...thnx for the advice, ill lookn into everything u mentioned
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