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  1. I began talking to this guy who I thought was really great at the beginning of October. He seemed like a great guy. He talked about his ex a lot, the breakup, and divorce. She left his for his best friend a year ago. The divorce was just up in June. He had one girlfriend since that lasted only a couple of months. It was a couple of months after his wife left him. He said he left her because she was talking to her ex behind his back. Granted these are all things he said. His side of events. He is always the victim in all these stories. He talked about all this on our date. We ended up talking talking for a while but he couldn't ever find time to spend with me. He was working in the oil field some crazy hours. I brought up the issue. He swore it was because of his work scheduale and wanted us to keep talking. He got distant a week in October. Came back and apologized and said it was the one year his wife left him and he was hadnling it rough. I talked to him. He swore he was over her and ready to date. In November I found myself initiating a lot of communication so I backed off. He dissappeared for a week and a half. I reached out to find out why he hadn't reached out. Not even to wish me Happy Thanksgiving. I wasn't happy about it. I told him he was being to inconsistent. He told me he was having major depression issues and wasn't talking to anyone. That when he gets that way, he just shuts the world out and wants to be alone. It was also like he didn't really care if I stuck around or not. He said he didn't want to jump into anything. That it wouldn't be fair to me. I tried everything to be there for him. I probably tried to hard to be honest and did all the wrong things. He ended up ghosting in a week. After two weeks and several messages he started talking to me again. Told me why he ghosted and what I did that made him ghost. He seemed really confused about his feelings. I kept telling him if he wanted me gone all he had to do is tell me. I asked him if he wanted me gone. He wouldn't say. I told him I liked him but if he just wanted be friends right now okay. Just something to think about or thingk about later. He never would tell me how he felt about me. I did try to be there this week and do everything right this time. I tried to be whatever he needed. I didn't press for answers that week or anything. I didn't do anything wrong I can think of and then Sunday he stoped responding. He ghosted again. I have no clue why. I told him yesterday after several texts that I liked him. I didn't want to go. I didn't want him to go. I wanted to be here for him however he needed. But if he ghosted this time I was done. I would not be going back trying to talk to him. That he would be making the choice to end it for good this time. That I couldn't keep doing that. That it wasn't fair to me. This was just disrespectful now. I deserve better. I gave him till that night to respond. He didn't. I don't understand why this happened. What do ya'll think? I’ve left him alone now. I’m not reaching out again. It just sucks.
  2. 7 weeks of no contact. It was a guy who ghosted after months of talking every day. He either had a gf or got one while we were talking. It was hard to go from talking all the time to nothing. There were times I missed him and still do. A part me wants him to contact me and apologize and say everything was a huge mistake and a part of me was so hurt I don't know if I could ever go back even though I care about him still. I know though I have to stay no contact. If he cared he'd contact me. I do feel better after having no contact. I know I might not ever hear from him again. I have no delusions. I am just going to keep focusing on other things until I care less and less to feeling nothing.
  3. I actually really liked you. I miss what we could have been. It wasn't some game to me. But you treated me exactly how you saw me and felt about me. Like dirt or a piece of ass. Someone who wasn't even worth a good bye. You stood me up on a date after I bought drinks. You had a gf and lied to me. Cheated on her with me without me even knowing. I've been cheated on and I would never do that to another girl. As immature as this sounds you are not with her because of her looks. But because of her money, family, status, age, and ties. I can't change my past. I can't buy you trips to Nashville. I am me and even if I wanted to I can't be someone else. The sad thing is if the roles were reversed I could never treat you the way you treated me. That just shows that you didn't like me the way I liked you. I've accepted that. I'm not good enough for you. I'll never be good enough for you. I can't afford you. Your family would never appreciate prove of me. You would just end up breaking my heart in the end. But you'll never care because I'll never be what you want me to be. All I ask is you don't treat any woman like the way you treated me. It's not right to leave someone limbo wondering what happened, what she did that was so wrong with a million things going through her head, and feeling absolutely horrible about herself. Disappearing and ghosting someone without giving them some sort of closure is one of the meanest things you can do to someone. You would be really mad if someone treated your sister like that so please don't do it to someone else's sister or anyone in general. Most people deserve some sort of goodbye.
  4. I miss the you who care about me. I finally stopped checking my phone because I realized you were never going to text me. I lie to everyone and say I never think of you. But deep down I know I'm not over you.
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