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  1. MY EX TREATED ME LIKE THAT! hes feelings are not sincere i would drop him like its hot.... and ull find ur prince charming...
  2. I must add baby/pastel pink Lacoste polo tops are hot as hell on guys
  3. Surrrreeee you can!!!
  4. If you read in my previous post about this relationship of mine youll see that y'all warned me from the start to run away from this guy but I seem to not be able to let go. This relationship was Like a yo-yo........ He would break up with me and take me back on and off... but this time I made it hard for him to reach me after he broke up with me. I kind of regret it in a way. I turned my cell off went out kept myself busy then I found myself missing him. Ok we did have good times in the realtionship but he was not happy with me he wanted something else... I tear up when I think of the first days I met him when he sais I cant believe such a beautiful girl agreed to date me.. He was very controling and I heard that the Person who is in control of a relationship is the one that cares the least. I know there is never a right time to say goodbye even when I have no justification as to why he treated me the way he did. The reason he gave me was that I let him treat me like S***. I responded by saying why would you treat someone who is nice to you and cares abouit you like S*** for no reason! He said its up to him to treat me that way. Basically external pressures made him hate me I guess.... His parents did not like me much ( I was married for 3 years and now am Divorced and I am older then him by one year, we come from conservative society in the middle east I must add so they wanted a virgin for their son!) So I dont know what to do. He now tried to pressure me for sex saying if you dont let me sleep with you Ill never talk to you again. And he says that not to get my hopes uo if we have sex cause its just for pleasure to him. I think enough said.... I just cant let go.... Ill add that I am moving to boston for a couple of years in Jan. He intially did not want me to leave so I stayed but after this poor treatment i decided to go. So he adds that as another reason for the breakup. I need some help, just needed to get this out of my chest I was scared to post intially... cause I thought that it was something I could deal with alone but this aint no walk in the park . I just dont feel the same about him I feel he has killed something in my for him.... Yet when I see him my heart smiles..............
  5. OMG- So true friscodj Listen to him if u dont end this and go away he will continue to do this..... really.... hell think its ok to treat u like a yo yo. There are guys out there who will chase after u and want u and fear losing you...this guy is not one of them.... move on turst me i have been through the worst realationships ever but then ur skin gets thicker and u become stronger
  6. All I need from my bf is for him to turn his head off and give me 100% trust until I prove him wrong otherwise. You see when you have a reason not to trust her then youll feel more confident to make a decison to stay or not. Just be upfront and tell her I trust you right now and let her know that if she messes up that you will never be able to trust her again because that is the type of person you are. So let her know that she has to think twice before doing anything let her know that thier is another person involved in this relationship make it crystalllllllll clearrrrrrrr . Its a small world so she cant hide everything and youll feel great after letting her know your "guidelines"... so if she messes up at least you know that you told her .. Let her know to keep her phone near her if that bothers you ... If you are a jealous person she needs to help make u life easier by volunteering information, answering the phone etc... do i make sense?
  7. BIG RED FLAG. The woman is a Slag. She is married and she is seeing you and back and forth... She was not faithful to her husband........ you think shell be faithful to you? The minute she gets bored of you and some other guys enters the picture shell dump ur * * *.. Go find yourself a desent woman who has self respect and boundaries and self control you will not regret it... shes a bad egg,,,, STOP SPENDING ON HER IT IS A WATSE OF MONEY AND TIME
  8. And one of both of us smooching eachother on the lips. That in my opnion was wrong and disrespectful to your husband I know your intentions were nothing wrong but .. you have gotts respect that your husband should be the only ... andI say only man in physcial contact with you that way.
  9. I would leave him because thats basing the relationship on a lie.... If he is ahsmaed of things he did okay but honesty is so important... I mean I bet you felt betrayed when your bestfriend told you.... he is part of you and you of him tehre should be no secrets... God knows what else he has not said... sit him down and have him open up if he decides to lie or not say anything or deny.... leave him walk away,,,, Honesty if the key to a long lasting relationship
  10. Oh Look! Perfect example of one not being Honest about the past.... " It is better to know the truth than to say a lie or not say the exact truth! We as humans need to learn to let go of the past... Now if you cant let go of wrong past things she has done to YOU! That would be more important than the what she did when she was nt with you. you feel me?
  11. I know what you mean sarah. Sometimes I feel as though my boyfriend is not there for me. And I tell him if your not here for me to support me when I need you who will be? He usually does not sympathize when I criticise him or talk about our relationship... When he upsets me he is nt there to help me heal the wounds. I guess whaty your trying to say if that he is there for you in every ascpect but your relationship? I feel the same way if thats the case..
  12. Bigs, It is normal to think of ones past but obsessing over it could harm the relationship. For example the lovely (not) guy I am with right now knows everything about my past why? Cause I told him... The reason I told him is because I wanted him to know what I went through and etc.. And if someone were to ask him about my past and I fail to mention it or lie he would get angry and not trust me ( not that he trusts me now cause he is obesseing over it) I just wanted that if someone were to come up to him and say I hear ur gf blah blah blah he would say I know. Knowing about ones past is crucial to help build a relationship that is not based on a lie. People do mistakes and the learn and become stronger. You need to try and focus on your relationship with the girl does she keep her promises? Does she open up to you and volunteer information? Or do you have to interogate her for answers... Instead of thinking about the past I would focus on the present so that you would be able to keep ur eyes and mind wide open to see if this relationship is for you or not.
  13. I hear you... and it gets worse everyday the doubting and he confessed that he talked to a girl on the phone and never told me... I mean its starnge.. One day I look up to him and trust him and the next day I think he continuolsly doubts me because he is doing wrong.... do u get what I mean? I would love to say goodbye if things dont chnage I mean this is the right thing to do but it is not the easiest..
  14. Many things bother me about this relationship!! I always tell myself that realtionships are never perfect and problems happen but this is too much. He is not going to class, he is on probation at college and I call to wake him up... And I tell him that he should know better and that he has to go to class etc... Just because I care.. and he proceeds to say bye and shut the phone in my face and i call back and he says never call this number again and shuts the phone again.. I mean come on where is the love? He always gets angry and then apologizes .... This Hurts so so so much and I dont know what to do it kills
  15. For example I was over his place and then i proceeded to go home and he went to the movies with his brothers. He saw my moms cars at the movies and then automatically assumed i did not go home.. i was out somewhere..... and i wouls say no i went directly home he would be like no u did not... nothing u would say to me would change my mind... goodnessss
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