Darketernal

The 'problem' lies in her court. Not yours. This means that if 'she' is gone out of your life, the 'problem' has gone out of your life. All the reason to let her 'stay' out of your life. Close yourself and prevent from having contact with this woman as it only ruins your life. It certainly hasn't brought you happyness. Not in the past and not in the future, so why would you allow yourself to admit to a pathway that brings you misery? She is a gateway to misery in the way she is now. Bringing her back into your life, only means that you passed the gateway and are walking to that same misery. If i where you id let her stay the 'hell' out of my life. I think there are a few wires loose in her head. Now that you are gone i think she is noticing what she is missing. (she just doesn't trust men!!! She is happy on her own!) Ya thats why she calls you and says that she misses you ,lol. These are quite some contradictions. And that said she is 'full' of contradictions. If you want her in your life again then thats up to you, i certainly wouldn't.

A shy guy 'just can't do that' His unhappyness comes from that he isn't able to 'react' to what you said. It doesn't mean he dislikes you, in his secret hidden corner he most likely likes you a LOT. But in the 'real' world he would 'never' fathom to say this to you because he hasn't the courage to speak this out to you. Or to anyone for a matter of fact. Everything stays 'within' the walls of his world. Basically you asking him out is an attack on his solitairy world on which he doesn't know how to deal with, this makes him extremely uncomfortable. The whole thing with shy guys is the following, they would love to have a person in their lives that would end their lonelyness. But you aren't on the same frequency as him, nor should you, but its the reason why you got 'repelled' by him. Basically if you want to go out with him , you'll need to drill a hole into his world and step in. This means the following. -don't give up. -make it very easy for him to date you. -become available. Even if he says No, to you. Just say to him, look you don't have to give a straight answer, i want to go with you to (movie x) on 'thursday(for examples sake)' just let a few days between it so he can think about it, then a few days later just ask him out again. This is important , because it means you will give him 'space' which he will definitly appreciate, also if he says no to your request, just ask him out 2 weeks later another time. If he says no then, well then just say to him ' i give up'. But here's my number (or e-mail) if you want to go out with me , just give me a call. Its only natural that his actions gave you a insecure feeling, i mean a guy that is so shy that he can only say 'no' to everything and everyone that comes into his life. Which gives you the feeling you are rejected, while in reality there is nothing wrong with you, it be just his shyness playing parts on him acting so weird. Just give it another chance as i stated above, after that just drop it then. He won't change or isn't ready to change.

Two guys laying in the same bed eh, for a straight guy such an act would be 'unthinkable' , so in such a situation(that is if he'd be single) i would definitly tease him in a simular way about being gay and such, 8/10 that he's either gay or bi-sexual. You see the problem is he still is in a relationship , and you have no right to interfere between 'him' and 'her', and driving a wig between the love that they share. You simply have to wait (and not at any cost or any price actively take part into making them separate) Watch out for that stuff, if you and him where together you would dislike a 'third' party who ruins what you have too, so don't do upon another what you wouldn't like seeing to happen to yourself. When he possibly breaks up then you can tell him your true feelings, basically it all has taken too much time anyway. I think that this stuff has being going on for quite a longer time 2-3 years mayhaps? The thing is , if 'your wrong' and he is 'straight' , it would make him 'extremely' uncomfortable if he comes to the knowledge that he was laying next to a gay person all those years =\ That's happyness for you but hell for him lol, i hope you can understand that. But anyway his comments are suspicious to say the least, but for now just wait and see.

I gues you can't do anything rather then cheer him up saying something like ' don't worry you'll meet the love of your life soon enough' , just keep on cheering and encouraging him.

She walked over you like a carpet and you let her do it. The person who loves you must accept you for who you are, she was demanding change from you i believe for the wrong reasons. I think she was the type of woman that was simply 'too beautiful' for her own good, making her head go up in space as she could get anything from any guy that she desired. I think that you shouldn't let people walk over you, no matter how beautifull they are. Outer appearance count less then inner appearances. She should have accepted you at the least. I mean this woman who dated other guys while you where with her is just someone who is 'wrong' for you , you need to be weary of these kind of females.

Wanna date me =) lol, i thougth that would cheer you up. Anyway don't be sad, ehm even if your overloaded with work, there's always even a little time in the weekend to go out for a few hours. That is if there is some outgoing life near you, or maby even within a short drive, don't let yourself be the one to stop you. Maby there you'll find the partner of your dreams, and can have a fun time in a simular fashion as your room mate is having. Its good to enjoy life and to let yourself go every now and then. Fun in moderation we call it.

The point is 'DONT' be dependent on your professor and his teachings. Because it will give you the idea that you aren't the one who is in control of your own life. Yes its bad if you have a terrible teacher, but are you letting your life being defined by the bad people around you, take back the power in your life. If you know he's a godawfull teacher , then grab your books and master the materials you need to study by your own means by 10 fold, if he's really that bad, then you have more chance by teaching the materials to yourself. You can't let * * * *heads threaten YOUR FUTURE, you can't let others determine YOUR future. YOU are the one who has to beat the odds and the bad teachers. Even if you are right for pointing the blame game finger at him for bad teaching, that doesn't mean you should allow him to ruin your future. How did it went again, ah yes. Take control of your own lifes destination , or let others control your destination for you. That's the situation you are in.

Your the one who is psycho into making contact with her, sorry bud but this misery you are experiencing something you have imposed upon yourself by calling her while you knew it was over! down:

You my man have been raped. Its sexual harrasment to say the least, and exposing you to sexual acts at your age at the time is considered to be pedofile , yes ,woman can be pedofiles too. Even just posting this here, means that you have been mentally afflicted by this in a bad way. I suggest(not kidding her) seriously to go to see a theraphist and get professional councelling as unwanted sexual acts can create mental devestation for many many years to come. By talk talk talking about it, you can try to find closure and bury the issue. These kind of events will also make you feel uncomfortable with future sexual experiences because you'll be constantly reminded about that 'bad' event, i can tell you tho that 'not' all woman or people are like that at all. Sex is something to enjoy, not to be tormented by. And that is something you will have to 're-learn' by loving your partner to the fullest, and enjoying eachothers bodies in such a way that you can be mentally satisfied with it in a peacefull manner.

This advice is something i got from a woman who had been married for over 50 years. A relationship is about being together, but still being able to do your own thing. Its called 'freedom within boundries' , and if you clamp to hard on her she will have this suffocating feeling that she has now. Everything in the universe attracts or repelles for certain reasons, i would just give her a 3 week break, and cut down on seeing her in half time after that compared to the amount of times that you are currently seeing her now. When she is with you, you need to make her 'happy' not suffocate her. Its delicate but try to find a balance in that ok?

The word 'damage' comes to my mind. You don't want to end up in a situation where 'both' girls come to hate you. Imagine this scenario you go out with jessica's friend, jessica becomes jealous , spreads bad rumors about you to the new girl,the new girl starts to hate you + jealous jessica will hate you + hate her friend. So far all these relationships have only done you damage, because you aren't able to provide continues light and love into the relationship, and because you go into the relationship for pure selfish reasons and desires, even if you fall in love with her do you really 'care' for her on long terms? You are hereby warned that this could end up into total mayhem, it could become very nasty , i also dislike how you put God into charge of your relationships. People have 'free' will to go out with whoever they want, its their individual choice to be with someone or not. God does not,will not and is not responsible to bring people together like that.

Ok the thing is clear for me. Closure is the keyword. You see you can't keep the ex on a leash, this whole 'just be friends thing' is extremely unhealthy for you for him and your new boyfriend. It creates a triangle affair. So END a relationship 100% , before you engage into a 'new' relationship. That way the ghosts of the past won't come back to haunt you. That you allowed 'the door to be left open for your ex to come back in your life and ruining whatever you have' is the reason that things have gone wrong. You must understand that you can only be commited to 'one' partner, any other guy will only hurt the current relationship that you have with your current bf. So prevent this 'mistake' and don't create triangle affairs. Cast the bad people and bad elements continuesly 'out' of your life. THis way you'll only be left with the happy ends.

You have to 'confirm' and motivate him that he is allowed to do 'more'. He seems like a decent guy who wouldn't dare to 'violate' a woman, that's plausible because a guy suffers the possibility that a woman will scream 'rapist, and murderer' all over if he touches her in a place where she didn't want to be touched. Telling him that he is allowed to kiss you is important 4 you 2. That way you can encourage him to bring the relationship to a further level. He likes you for sure, otherwhise he wouldn't have showed interest in the first instance to begin with, thereforeeee just motivate him more. Keyword = motivational communication.

What you have to do in your life is to bring 'order in chaos' Everything is build onto unstable factors in your life, as wel as in his life. Trust me you 'cant' use a life that constantly crumbles under your feet. You want things in life that you can 'rely' on. You can't live from love, nor can he. You have to be honest to yourself both of you have NOTHING to go on futurewhise. K you have all these 'things' in your head, but your not being 'realistic' you need to get your head out of space and come back to earth and 'observe' how things "REALLY" are, and things are looking bleak. You shouldn't give up your life for this guy to begin with because the rule is. SECURE YOUR FUTURE FIRST , read that again. Without that there is no stable underground for both of you to live on. Unlike popular belief , marrying and getting kids is not an automatic ideal for happyness. You and him need a stable furtile financial ground to build on. Neither you are him have any of that. You love him, and you think that comes first, but the thing is he and you have to sort out the 'chaotical mess' and bring it into a financial order before you can do or build up 'any kind' of future together. The only thing you can do for him is 'pray' for him, as there is nothing substantial that you can do at this moment in your life to support him. I advice you to complete your studies, secure your future into getting a diploma and build up something substantial in your life that doesn't crumble in your hands. Maby in the future you two could have something stable together but unless he and you sort this mess out you'll never be able to live a 'substantial' financially secure life.

I would scold him for going on such a long journey with only 20 dollars on him, that's insane because anything can go wrong as he has learned the hard way. I don't see any reason why he would be hurt or anything but, he's probably on some bus ride already not having a phone with him(which explains the no contact) trying to get home. I wouldn't worry to that extend that he'd be murdered or something because he seems like a wanderer kind of type. If you ask me he'll manage and has made you worried for all the wrong reasons. Most likely he'll step of the buss and suddenly appear in your district again, alive safe and sound.