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I wouldnt read to much into her comments or pictures on social media, people dont nomally post negative pictures or comments about themselfs on there. It hard not to look, i still do, and most of the time it sucks,but theres been a few times were its helped me see how they really are and how different they really were. So dont worry to much about what you see, its very typical for the dumper to post those things after a breakup, the high does wear off, and reality has set in. That doesnt mean they will reach out. But the fun party all the time gets old..

Im a broken person because of you, i tried, i wanted to keep trying..im doing better without you. But i still miss you so much. The word ..forever..just is hard to hear, you told me to have a good life. 😟 i still am living my life but i hope someday you may reach out..maybe ill be in a better place by then maybe not...i miss you so much...

Ugg...i hated that feeling of no responce. Thats what happend to me to, we were talking a tiny bit..then all of a sudden no responces, that was a little over 30 days ago..i guess ill keep goin another 30 total of 60 of NC...maybe by then i wont want to reach out anyways...good luck to you..im assuming you want her back..

Just wondering...so did you go 30 and try and contact here...and then start the 30 again...or did you do 30 and now heades for another 30...either way ya im sure it stings. Seems as time goes on the farther down the river she gets... making it seemingly impossible to catch up. I just finished my 30 im not goin to reach out yet...but its hard amd disheartening when they dont reach out.. it definitely puts out the candles of Hope one by one.

I miss you so much, i tried my hardest this time around...you threw a dimond back in the ocean because you would rather look under rocks. I have so much more to ofer then you ever did. I have a completly secure life, job, stable, secure. Yet you didnt want me. You broke me, and you get to live with the fact you pushed a good person out of your life, keeping pushing the good people away and you will be left with mice and rats..im not sure ill ever forget you, your a scar that i dont think will ever go away, you cut me deep. I wish you could see how a saw you..i know ill get better and be over this, im already getting better, but i really cared, i did.

We all miss are exs i think, iv been thinking alot about mine to, maybe i miss the company, maybe i miss the idea of them maybe i miss the habit of texting and calling, label it however you want but i still feel the same way you do. It sucks, i cant say theres been much crying latly from me though, you will feel better one day then you will see or see something that reminds you of them and have a mini breakdown. Around here are summers are short, i had so many plans this summer for us to spend time together..we broke up in april...still doing ok...but was really hoping and looking forward to all the good times we could have had....awwell

Wow good for you...i hope to get to that point....your right it doenst desreve this much attention...

As much as that sucks its true...they know how we feel...they need to come to us. It has been getting easier though..and your right you do get curious...but yano i bet are exs are just as curious...

Well you and me both, theres really only 3 outcomes that could happen if you text him first. 1 he could madly say he misses you and cant live without you, your the best.2 you get no responce what so ever. 3 he answers back but tells you something you dont want to hear. Lets be honest number one probably wont happen..more then likely 2 or 3 would though. I guess if i had to pic maybe number 3. Thats where i am now, i get no responce. It depends on what caused the breakup also..theres alot of variables. Keep in mind though that hes fully capable of texting you if he really wanted to. That alone stops me from reaching out. Somebody who really wants to get ahold of you will find a way to do so. Id stay NC right now. I think 2 things will happen. Your already healing somewhat from staying NC..and yes i do think your ex would miss you. Some do some dont...but assuming the breakup wasnt from cheating or lieing i think its human nature to want what we no longer have. Again,,it depends on so many things. Iv tried all there is to try, my guess is you have also...well theres one thing we both have not done, that alot of us here are doing, and the best thing to do is also the hardest thing to do, and that let it go right now. Let nature do what its going to do. I know that sucks, but givin the choices i think doing what your doing is the right thing. Ya night time i think we all think about are exs, its normal. If you do text him can you handle what he may or may not say? Its a risk. For me it hurt more to reach out,,so i have stopped. Both painful, but out of the 2 choices its less painfull for me to stand my ground then to risk getting shot down over and over. Keep doing what your doing. What caused the breakup.

54 days, good for you..almost 2 months. I would like to think it gets easier,,it does. I think maybe it stays painful for awhile,,you just learn to live and deal with it from day to day.

Ok ill be the weak one to get things started today...does anybody else have the urge to contact there ex today? On day 28 here..feeling it in my gut today as anxiety...Grrr...not gonna do it ofcorse. Just wanted to know if its just me?

Dont be mad at yourself for reaching out..iv been broken up since april..the first 3 months we have had contact..then all of a sudden i got nothing back at all..nadda. I was pissed at myself everytime i reached out and got a one word ans,,or nothing at all, i agree with polaris,,give here what she wants,,and thats NC..the more i think about it the more thats what im trying to convince myself in doing..he doesnt want to even be friends? So be it. But i know all to well what happens after the first text goes unanswered, you send another. Before you know it your all worked up because none of them were answered back...Grrrr..iv been sending texts to myself instead that kinda helps...btw good call on not sending the flowers...i sent my ex 2 dozen roses after the breakup..yup thats 24 roses$$...the responce i got back was im an A-hole..and that he cant be bought..blahblah...i couldnt belive that he sent that..needless to say....swing and a miss...strike 1 2 and 3 all at once lol...never doing that again...so u did good by not sending

( Im a little late to the party but here i am) On day 27 of NC. Altho im guilty of snooping on FB to check. It just confirms what i knew, anyways, it has gottn easier but had a mini breakdown on my way home from work, yesterday first time in awhile though. Like some of you i want to reach out. But id perfer not to throw all my NC down the tubes...so ill keeping moving forward.