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Oh that's great you passed 48 hours! How about you treat yourself when you pass the 7 days? Then when you pass another week and so on. When you complete a week buy something you want, when you pass a month go to a nice restaurant with friends, reward yourself for your willpower and determination. Listen, she may try to jeopardize your progress- but think for a second, maybe right now you feel the urge to talk to her but deep deep on you , you are starting to feel better- don't let her bring you back to zero just to boost her self-ego. In this month of NC my ex have try three times already to contact me, but I learned my lesson -I'm not letting her to get to me. She's block everywhere and I changed my number. Why to keep putting everything easy on them? We need to give them the opportunity to grow apart from us, to learn from their mistakes as we are, to value what they once had. They won't do none of this if you keep having the doors open for them. More importantly, we need to think of ourselves, prioritize ourselves! In the progress; Do something that you always wanted to do, do something that used to make you happy before she came to your life, maybe something you stopped doing because she didn't like it? I also recommend you to start working out, it does help as well. Well in my case, During the first weeks I treat myself buying new clothes (I realized that I only bought things for her and baby son- as I always put them first) Today I'm on day #30 no contact and I went yesterday to celebrate with my best friend. We went to have some drinks we talk about life, I really had a good time. Once I completely over it, I will treat myself with a nice vacation. Keep it up! Trust in yourself!

Day #29

You think she was like the person you "imagined" but this may only be an illusion. She stole money from you, she disrespected you, I don't think this is the person you want for your future. Its hard to stay NC especially when your ex doesn't help you to stay NC. But you need to think of you first, your health, you doing a great job staying NC. How about you do a more drastic move than blocking her? How about you change your number? Close any possible way for her to contact you. Unfortunately the only way both of you will grow up is in separates way. I feel much better after I changed my number and close my account. Im in control if everything and she won't interfere with my healing progres by drunk dialing. Also treat yourself when you pass a week from NC. Tomorrow for me will be 30 days and Im treating myself. Think about it!

I'm on day #28 no contact. It does takes time The first two month were like hell until I decide to stop and start thinking about me. It does takes time and its hard. Even these 30 days have been difficult, time goes slow, but believe me it does get better.

Yes, Forrest Gump is one of my fav movie. Forrest was in love with Jenny and later reunited with her but accomplished what he wanted in life as "life goes on" You can do that too! You Said "I know this has gotta stop. I know its gonna hurt when it does." I understand you feel that it will hurt when you stop communicating with her. But isnt hurting already? Maybe you just afraid of getting out of your comfort zone, you are afraid of trying something new. But it takes time, I do guarantee you that one day you'll be laughing at this and you'll be at a better stage in your life. You are the only one in power to make this happen. Hopefully you get to read the book.

She always has been that way. People don't change they just show you who they truly are. I strongly recommend you to read "Changes that Heal" I just started reading it and provide an example of a man who was an addict. He felt the same, people tell me to stop as if its that easy. As in the book, I encourage you to accept that you do have a problem and that its normal. You need time ALONE to heal, don't use this person. You need to stop talking to your ex. You need to act as she doesn't exist. You cannot expect a change in your life if you don't make the first step. Hang in there.

Hope you are doing better and making wiser decisions. She's not worth your time.

Same here. I can't stop stalking my ex social media. This still brings me down. She's the first thing that comes to my mind. I'm going to stop doing it, let's see how long I last. Good luck.

Oh, you always knew this. The thing is that because she is not with you anymore you are starting to see her negatives side. Convenient isn't.

, she moved in with your friend? as couples?

Oh wow man, what you have done. You are just hurting yourself. You give too much importance to her.

Congrats and Happy V-Day.

DAY 04 The last time we spoke was on 02.07.17 she confirmed that she's back with baby daddy. The following day I sent her a message letting out my feelings. I regret not telling her that I know she's with him for financial stability. But in the end, this doesn't matter. What matter is that she calls me a toxic person when she's the unstable that cannot even manage her own life. The last day I got into her Facebook was on 02.10.17. I'm on day #4 after I blocked her and no stalking as I know is for my best interest. I have this urged of going to her Facebook/Instagram to see what she posts but I think that it would not do me any good. Today she talked to my best friend about me saying that a video reminded her of me. I had this urged of going to her profile, but no, is finally that time to think about me.

I'm going to start no Contact again today. She's back with baby daddy! Things cannot be worst. I want to block her from everywhere but I feel that it will look as I'm angry at her.

During our relationship,Although I tried my best to communicate with her it was all in vain. She never listened to me and everything seemed to be perfect when I was ignoring things that she was doing that clearly bothered me. I wanted us to communicate so we could have. Better relationship but she rather lied and hide things from me. Worst me finding out was her excuse to leave me saying I havent change and that is over. We had plans of moving in together again, I helped her in the process to get her tlc license to be a taxi driver and helped her with school work, woke her up, dressed her son to school so she could sleep. still she only concentrated n the bad things that I had. After a week of leaving me And again not allowing me to see her son. decided to go no contact, I disappeared from facebook and just not posting stuff so that she knows nothing about me. She started process to move by herself and all I want is to start concentrating on me and move on. Christmas holidays just making things worst but hanging in there. Day #3. 12/17/2016.