Wiseman2

When did he send this?

Agree. The coffee was only two weeks ago and he has your information so when they decide to go out you'll probably hear from him. They may only go out every so often. Agree that when you do go out, please don't drape yourself all over him with touching or lip licking or hair twirling and other regrettable embarrassing behavior. Just have fun with the group. He doesn't need a neon sign that says "I'm available". That's for dates not outing with coworkers along.

Try not to lash out at people with preemptive strikes. That type of defensiveness is consistent with the narcissism you claim you're trying to cure yourself if. Insight and alternative perspectives are the enemy of narcissism. Perhaps a bit of open-mindedness and less lashing out would help?

Even though you enjoy her companionship somewhat for now, you seem very incompatible and have a laundry list of complaints about her. Stop stringing her along and set each other free. The only thing you "owe" anyone, including her is honesty and sincerity, not just coasting along with contempt just so you can have company.

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How long have you been dating? How is your relationship otherwise? What makes you think she's "hiding" something"? Have both of you been tested for STDs? Perhaps she has irritation or discomfort because of that or other problems. Have you even asked her?

How far apart are you? Who contacted who on the app? Why pursue a distance situation if you can't see each other regularly to date or even set up a time to meet?

As long as you're holding a torch for someone else, you'll have trouble dating and being open-minded to the men out there. This seems like armor against being close to anyone at all . Try to focus on why you want unavailable men and reject available men. Perhaps therapy could help sort that out as well as the spinning and ruminating?

It's fine if you want to cut back on porn. However what is the hold up with meeting in person? Is this a distance situation? How can you make anything "official" until you know who this is and meet in person? Please try not to just replace one online habit with another. Make arrangements to meet and date a while.

Basically if you are preoccupied with a fantasy crush, real dates will pale in comparison. So it's understandable you feel like there's no chemistry because you're not giving anyone else a chance. Once you open your heart and mind to others you can free yourself.

How far apart are you and how did you start talking? What is the reason you never met? You did the right thing blocking him when he started flinging insults. Please delete and block him permanently from all your social media and messaging apps. Please consider meeting people in real life through dating apps or social events. This way you can get to know someone by dating and seeing them on a regular basis.

This seems more like getting to know her and her likes and dislikes. Not like getting to know yourself. That seems like a regular part of any relationship. However if you ever part ways all you'll have is what her specific idiosyncracies are more so than any self awareness. Relationships shouldn't bring out the worst in people, if they do it's possible you're with the wrong person. It's also understandable that constantly "working on yourself" is exhausting as compared to living life and being who you are.

That's ok. Maybe they only go out every so often and when they do, you'll hear from him.

Have you met in person? Is this a distance situation? Would you feel more comfortable talking to people in person?