Wiseman2

Therapy is a great idea. This way you can confide in a professional privately and confidentiality without trashing your family to friends. Please make the best of it. If you continue to sneak around with your BF you're facing more trouble.

Please have faith in your decision to end things. Diagnosing him with all sorts of personality disorders is just obsessing and rationalizing. Please focus on your own physical and mental health and well-being being. Your therapist is there to help you understand yourself, not make armchair diagnoses. Please focus on why you went down this dark path for so many years.

Unfortunately it's not a good match and you're not going to fix, change or teach him anything. He's not asking you out so there's no reason to communicate. Delete and block him. He told you upfront he's not interested, so now is the time to walk away.

If you are seeing each other this long, it's fine to have the exclusive conversation. By "wants to keep you around", do you mean as FWB or casual sex. What you want from a relationship is important so speak your mind. It's better than finding out months later that he's sleeping with others.

It's good you don't live together. You can still walk away intact . There's no reason to throw your life away on this. He's been doing this for years and your entire relationship has been contaminated with his sex addiction from the beginning, so he won't be. "blindsided". You don't have to "out" him to leave. His actions are already outing him. He's responsible for his behavior and especially risk taking behavior. Likewise you're responsible for your life and health so please get to an STD clinic.

Who has family in the other one's state? When you see each other, where will you or she stay? Are you traveling to her or asking her to travel to you? Who will pay for expenses? You seem more caught up in the fantasy of "finding the one" than the logistics of even meeting or getting to know each other. Having difficulty locally is not a good reason to pursue difficult relationships.

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Sorry this is happening. How long have you been dating? Do you live together? Please see a physician for STD testing. At this point you don't know if what you're coming across is the tip of the iceberg or he's acting on these things. This future talk sounds like empty promises. And an unhealthy attachment to someone who lives a lie and a double life. There's no reason to wrap your head around cheating or his pansexual proclivities. You're incompatible at best. Please reconsider the relationship and set your free.

Why did she move away? Work? School? And why would she move back? Please focus on getting to know her and what her goals are.

It's unfortunate you still have hope for this because it's inhibiting finding someone else. If you want to read books on dating, please read "He's Just Not That Into You'. While his reasons are honest, it still doesn't mean he wants to date. If he felt the same as you do, you would know and stop rehashing communication to look for hope.

How old is this lady? Do either of you have friends or family where the other one lives? Just curious why you are pursuing another distance situation when you already know the difficulties and drawbacks? Are you just shifting from one online situation (porn) to another in order to avoid real relationships?

There's nothing wrong with being polite. If you have a more reserved demure personality that's fine. You don't have to become someone else just to get a date. Please continue being true to yourself.a lol of men like shy and demure women so you don't needs classes to be something else. It's better to be a great version of yourself than some flirty juggling version of someone else you don't even want to be and doesn't mesh with your cultural surroundings or personal style.

The next step is arranging a mutually agreeable comfortable time and place to meet. Please don't discuss masturbation and porn with someone you never met. It's sleazy. Wait until you meet in person and get to know each other. It will be difficult with the distance. How do you plan on seeing or visiting each other in the future if your first meeting goes well?

He was trying to let you down easy that he's not ready willing or able to have a relationship at this time. He was being honest and trying not to lead you on. Far from manipulative. You're still rifling through past communication to attempt to relive and undo what happened, which is he simply can't have a relationship with you the way you want. It's up to you to believe him and move forward.

When did he send this?