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Basically if you are preoccupied with a fantasy crush, real dates will pale in comparison. So it's understandable you feel like there's no chemistry because you're not giving anyone else a chance. Once you open your heart and mind to others you can free yourself.

How far apart are you and how did you start talking? What is the reason you never met? You did the right thing blocking him when he started flinging insults. Please delete and block him permanently from all your social media and messaging apps. Please consider meeting people in real life through dating apps or social events. This way you can get to know someone by dating and seeing them on a regular basis.

This seems more like getting to know her and her likes and dislikes. Not like getting to know yourself. That seems like a regular part of any relationship. However if you ever part ways all you'll have is what her specific idiosyncracies are more so than any self awareness. Relationships shouldn't bring out the worst in people, if they do it's possible you're with the wrong person. It's also understandable that constantly "working on yourself" is exhausting as compared to living life and being who you are.

That's ok. Maybe they only go out every so often and when they do, you'll hear from him.

Have you met in person? Is this a distance situation? Would you feel more comfortable talking to people in person?

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It doesn't seem like you're being taken advantage of or played, but it does seem like she has other customers and sugar daddies besides you. You are supporting her from afar voluntarily and that's risky business.

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Is this happening at work? If so, it's sexual harassment and you can report it.

Sorry this is happening. Do you live together? Do you two ever go out on dates? It seems you're incompatible if you would rather have a committed relationship and he would rather hang with friends and be a party animal.. Rather than focus on "triggering", fo focus on whether you're compatible. He doesn't seem to want to be tied down to a relationship.

Are either of you scheduled for an arranged marriage? Why doesn't your family approve? Are you from different cultures? Did you meet at University? Do you fight often? If he's insulting you and flights are getting this ugly it may be time to reconsider the relationship. It seems like you "forgive" him too much and tolerate shabby treatment.

Because you're together a lot and tried out sexting she had to draw the line and rein it in. This is just good boundaries on her part. You seem to have a very complicated relationship with her mostly because you want sexuality included and she just wants the companionship. That could be where your frustration and hurt comes from. But it's unclear what that has to do with TMI, vulnerability or being a bull in a china shop as far as others feelings. She simply knows when to draw the line, maybe that's new to you?

That's because she's consistent mature and wants to stay in touch, not because you had to play games to "build attraction". If she didn't want to text you, she wouldn't, so the game theory is nonsense. Try to relax and have confidence in yourself. Anyone you have to play games with to get their attention is not worth it. She is tending to the budding relationship because she knows from experience that jerks play ghosting games and she hated that. When she returns you can figure out a mutually convenient time to get together. Her spa weekend was not a result of anything you did since you're only dating a matter of days and she had a full life and friends etc before you met.

Getting stuck in analysis paralysis isn't going to help you relate better to this older lady friend. She's lonely, you're lonely. It's okay to talk about whatever you want to talk about but she's not your therapist or guru. You may need to get away and go to a new city, but not because someone encouraged you to over share, but because you're in a strange neither here nor there relationship with this retired lady and hiding from life and real relationships. This lady actually is your "armor against equal and real relationships, just like the sugar babies. So you can run but you'll run into the same power struggling.