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  1. Would you want to know if your boyfriend was a cheater? If yes, then tell your boyfriend what happened. I have seen it ruin a relationship when the SO finds out about their past cheating.
  2. Accomplish your goals because you want to do so. It has to be for you or it’s meaningless
  3. She used you knowing she couldn’t go home herself, you were the best alternative to spending the holidays bouncing between different friends. I think you need to read your post through from the beginning. It is eye opening to who she is. Some people will never settle down and I think she is one of them.
  4. Sounds like your the mother figure he is looking for. Someone to take care of him and to pay his way through life. If his only ambition in life is to live off of his mom and play video games then let him. Kick him out of your life. He isn’t worth it.
  5. I am trying to understand why you got back with her. The two of you date for over a year. You break up do to personal reasons, struggling at that time. 5 months later her best friend tells you that your ex is wanting to get back with you. Right after, the best friend’s bf breaks up with her. Then while you start talking with your ex again, she is acting weird and turns around and has sex with her best friend’s ex right after they break up. I am guessing the two girls are no longer friends. When did the half naked cuddling and making out take place? When did she send him all the love messages? From the way you explain it, they had sex then she instantly regretted it. Then got back with you. So, was she cheating with her best friend’s boyfriend? She sounds like bad news, I would suggest ending the relationship and block her. Find someone that isn’t a cheater or the other woman. As far as finding out what went on, you had every right to figure out what was happening if your so called girlfriend wasn’t being honest with you. Don’t listen to those that say it a invasion of her privacy. They are trying to change the subject by making you look like the creep and to take the focus off your girlfriend’s cheating.
  6. This is how it went down at my house. Dday- Oldest son starts feeling bad. He gets a call from his GF that she is feeling bad and her mom was positive for Covid. I drove him to three different locations before we found someone that would treat him (He had been nauseous and throwing up most the day and couldn’t keep anything down. The last place gave him a shot of steroids and Zofan. He was on the mend with in hours. Day later youngest son gets it. He gets a shot of steroids and is doing good. Two day’s later my daughter gets it. Same treatment along with a inhaler. She is doing good a couple days later. The next day my wife and I doth come down with it. Slight headache and low grade fever for both of us. My family is doing pretty good, just mild flu symptoms. You were around him for two days before he showed signs of being sick. You were already exposed before he popped positive. Your young so hopefully you both have a mild case.
  7. Ouch, this doesn’t look good for the relationship’s future. She doesn’t see the two of you as a team at all. She is right that it is her decision, as long as she is single with no long term plans in the relationship she is in. If she wants to make decisions as though she is not in a serious relationship, give her the freedom to make those decisions. Time to have a serious talk about the relationship and future decisions, if she is going to continue to act single or as a couple talking thing out. Especially if you plan on buying a place together.
  8. trco, can you please explain what these retreats are. You stated that they are vacations that the boss takes them on. Does this one have anything to do with work?
  9. It is a location that they have talked about going to together. The boss is a family friend, she could have easily explained that if she wanted to. This isn’t a business trip, it is a retreat to relax on for a job well done. It would not hurt her career if she doesn’t go by what was posted. Nothing was said about it being required. The boss on a whim decided to take his staff on a vacation/retreat.
  10. She just has chosen not to plead a case for her husband/family.
  11. It doesn’t seem your wife wants vacation time with you. Of course she will be enthusiastic about anything you might plan for in the future. She just doesn’t give a damn if you are with her or not when she goes. Seeing how vacations/retreats are 4:1 in her boss/partner’s favor, my point proven. It seems like she has been out enjoying life for the past two years while you stay home and babysit the kids. How many vacations have the two of you had in the past 2 years alone? How many retreats has your wife gone on with her partner, where you had to stay and watch the kids, in the past two years? How many vacations/retreats have you gone on with/without your wife in the past 2 years?
  12. Those that sit by and watch are soon left behind. Relationships take work and actions, neither of which you seem to want to put into it.
  13. I think this is BS. The boss/friend isn’t yours. You wife should have said something about Hawaii and the fact that the two of your were talking about going as a couple and declined to go. I would never go somewhere like that without my wife, even if it cost me my job. Seeing how they have done retreats like this often, declining to go on this one shouldn’t have been a problem. Your wife doesn’t care if you are with her or not. What a great wife you have. You have every right to be put out by this. Your feelings of *** are legit and you need to talk with your wife about this. Not whining about it but telling her to do what she wants but it’s kind of F’d up your going with your boss to our talked about romantic getaway. Enjoy your trip. Then schedule a trip of your our where ever you want the day after she returns. Same number of days. It would be different if this was something that happened once a year and wasn’t a couples destination. There was a thread back in 2012 I believe where the couple went through something similar. They had been together around 20-25 years and had teenage kids. The wife’s company did a yearly retreat. That year it was to some nice resort in the Bahamas. The husband couldn’t show up until the next day. When he got there he found out 2 things. First one was that she went to the local nude beach with most her coworkers and wives/husbands. Seeing how this is something she had never done before or even talked with her husband about doing, he was taken by surprise by it. Second thing was the fact that she shaved herself bare below the waist. This is something he had asked if she could do for him every now and then through their relationship. She had always refused, say it was gross and she didn’t want to. So her boss and coworkers saw her clean shaven before her husband ever did. This lead to him repacking his bags and heading home mad as hell at her. Also wondering who she might be cheating on him with. She shaved herself for someone that wasn’t her husband. He posted this a few months after it had happened. There relationship was tanking, they went from sex 5-6 days a week to nothing for those few months. He did state that he would have loved to have gone to a nude beach with her if she had talked with him about it. It’s the fact that she did it behind his back that pissed him off. His thought was why she couldn’t of waited til he had gotten there and then gone with him. Then being so adamant about not shaving her privates to clean shaven for her coworkers. Sorry, but this just doesn’t fit right. There have been way to many people that cheat under these circumstances. Have there ever been any red flags between your wife and her boss?
  14. Dump the girlfriend. She isn’t worth the headache.
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