virgo2311

OK...... this is my problem and I could use some advice. I have been in love with my friend for about 4 years. At one time we had a thing. Of course I wished that thing would have turned into something, but there were problems. Someone didn't want us to be together and started all sorts of problems. So natually her and I started to contribute to those problems as well, thanks to that third person getting involed. Now I am single and she is in the process of breaking up with someone. She told me that we should start having a friendship again, but i can't help how I feel about her. 4 years is a long time to be in love with someone. How do I deal with being her friend even though I am so i love with her?

Hey man, You know the expression " having your cake and eating it too" Well, I think this girl is doing just that. Although there is nothing wrong with being friends with your ex there are just plain lines you don't cross with them, esp. if you currently have a bf. If you can handle it break it off with her before you fall in love with her

About two weeks ago my gf told me that she didn't want to be with me anymore. She said that she doesn't think she was ever in love with me. But the whole time we were together everything seemed perfect. She didn't act out of the ordinary. We were always affectionate with each other. We talked and did normal things couples do. Went shopping together and brought things for the apartment. I never had a clue things were brewing in her head. Once in awhile it would look like something was bothering her, I always asked if she was ok and if she was happy with me, and always the same answer came from her, " I am fine." I try getting her to talk to me , but nothing, she always told me she was OK. All of a sudden she tells me she is not in love with me and can't be with me. She told me was has been feeling like this for a long and the reason she didn't tell was not to hurt me. Am I wrong in being really, really MAD at her? I asked her all the time if something was wrong, she had many, many opportunities to tell me what was on her mind. I can't get over the shock that she was never in love with me. I can't get over the fact that I asked her all the time if something was wrong and when i finally gave in and trusted that everything was fine she tells me other wise. Can someone explain to me what they feel I did wrong? --Virgo[/b]