My partner has had serious depression/anhedonia for about a year now. This is due, he thinks, to not having the same position at work that he did before and not making as much money, feeling worthless and not good enough because he can't get ahead on as much, monetarily- he is not broke, and makes a decent wage.
We had an absolutely amazing relationship prior to this. Awesome communication, laughter, discussions and planning for future life, taking steps towards our future. Good sex life, he was super affectionate and very kind with his words. He was truly one of the most amazing, impressive, never stressed and always joking kind of people with serious responsibility- would never let himself or others down. We could takle anything serious together with respect and fairness.
It's been almost a year since we had sex. Made out. Since he slapped my butt or told me I look nice. He doesn't call me to talk when I'm away anymore. He doesn't text me anymore. He's going to counseling as of two months ago but I just keep feeling him go further into himself and away from me. Yet anytime I tell him the pain and confusion this is causing and that we might just need to take a break until we can just start over. He won't let me go, tells me he still loves me like he did, and that once he just makes enough money or get a second job doing what he was before, he will feel better. But we aren't planning for a future anymore. Everything is just in limbo.
I know there's some serious self worth/money related issues he needs to work through. But this insane depression- I've never seen anything like this. I've never felt so alone surrounded by another person. I don’t know him anymore, no one does.
Is it possible for people to return to normal after feeling nothing for so long? I feel closer to acquaintances. And I'm about ready to give up, I've been in some dark places but not touching or connecting the person you are supposed to love most in a year- I can't understand.