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Don't worry you can trust me in the fact that I am shyer than your boyfriend here. Because hes shy however doesn't mean hes going to take the suggestion negatively in fact hes going to take it more positively since he is shy, thats just how shy people are. Anyways.. this could be your makeout session.. *random making out* *you kiss me on the neck, I love that...*. I think you see my point.

Yes you can. If he isnt bright enough to take your signals than really what other choice do you have. Just before the makeout or during or whatever the hell just slip in 'I really like it when you kiss me on the neck, you should do it more' and that's about it. You might be turned off for a few seconds, but its a risk you should be willing to take.

You cant. There is no magical way to make him 'kiss you on the neck'. If you really want that so bad than just ask him, it may ruin the mood but in all honesty that's your only option.

It seems so strange and im sure to people older how idiotic my generation is. Not in the sense that our IQs is indeed lower than theyve ever been but in how fickle our fads and attractions are. However I think its safe to say that the stupidity of my generation has reached its point of no return. Yet as much as you can say im just an angsty teen or whatever you will, there is one thing I can't ignore. It seems that girls are only really attracted to what is called a "G" or simply a Gangsta. No matter how you look or what your personality is, a gangsta seems to get all the girls or is considered 'cool'. Why? How is wearing all white, being practically bald and swearing in horrible english while disrespecting women, attractive? Why is it that when you be yourself, you are demeaned and yet when you conform to the standard and normality you are considered a god? Where is justice in this world?

Dont worry, I know exactly what you mean and that feeling of being separated from everyone else, as in everyone ignores you and there must be something wrong with you. However I dont understand, judging by your picture you look like a normal person who is very attractive actually. So what I think this is, is just that your shy and you dont participate in all the (crap) that goes on at school such as the social and popularity nonsense. I would say try to be as outgoing as possible, talk with all your friends if they dont talk to you, go talk in the "circles" of people at lunch or whatever. You know I use to be overwhelmed with these feelings of being invisible but its gotten much better as I have become less shy and more outgoing even if im still ignored quite a bit.

Honestly I dont think theres any point for my life anymore. Ive tried so hard throughout the years just to try and fit in to please people and it never has worked. Constantly ive been ignored or looked down upon to the point in which there isn't any better word than describing myself as being invisible. So I have just given up, I have stopped trying to please people and just done whatever the hell I felt like but than that outsider type of lifestyle in the end can take its toll after a while. Sure I can say ive had the handful of friends or so but then this always varies being that at one point they can be on o.k friend to the point where they are just ignoring you as well. In all seriousness I have no idea what to do, I can't get a girlfriend let alone trustworthy friends. Maybe it is that I am shy, or maybe im weird? I have no clue. But rather than do something stupid I have decided to vent my frustration off here. Who knows sometimes I even feel as if I should be living in a forest away from the ones who do not understand me, let alone that I cannot understand.. Sorry for the rant anyhow

And I thank all of you for your support, but im pretty sure all of you know that it just doesn't work like that. I can't just break my shyness, ive tried. You know... ive tried to have a positive attitude and although it is slowly going away, theres still all the crap I have to deal with, im still a very akward person. For example theres been numerous times when a girl's been into me I guess you could say and being as akward as I am, I do not return the interest. This of course is so * * * *ty when you know you could have had something, but instead you screwed it up. Let's face it, if I can't even talk to girls properly how am I ever going to get one? And about the activites thing, I just am not into that, I like to keep myself as far away from society and normality as possible. I have a band, but that isnt really a way to meet girls.

At the moment, I really feel as if this curse I have known as shyness will never go away. So many times I have passed up a conversation with a girl because im shy and constantly the thought reoccurs, what could it have been like with that girl, if I wasn't shy? Yet not just girls but also how many more friendships could I have had? Then theres the times I get into conversation's with girls. A few years ago I couldn't even talk to guys let along girls without my voice going deep and saying something stupid. Now its more anything I talk about is stupid. Really I just long to be that guy who can make jokes upon jokes and just woo that girl.. Yet its confusing, egotistical as this sounds, I know girls find me attractive. From all the stares and actually hearing girls say this, its pretty evident that it must be true. So how come other shy guys I know have had girlfriend's.. am I just that retarded? And even though my shyness is slowly getting better, there are times that it just comes back... As positive as I try to be about getting rid of it, nothing works. I just can't take being alone any longer..

Alexi Laiho does not look 14, and the guy in the picture does not look 14, unless you have some major condition with your eyesight (may want to get that fixed). So basically you are saying give up your whole integrity and individiuality to conform? Its called getting a hairband and tying your hair back. Theres a reason why god made people grow hair. Besides, im guessing that someone would look much more favorable with their hair tied back instead of a dyed mohawk, seriously? This forum is for advice, so most obviously people are giving him advice. Its just the manner that they are giving it. All I hear when people complain that have long hair is that the person should "Oo cut his hair". This has nothing to do with anything, if your hair is too "Anarchist" for girls or whatever the hell than just tie it back, I know few girls that treat this much the same as having short hair. And you dont have to be old to be wise.. I obviously realize that I am not in a high paying job yet, but I understand that I wouldn't go into a job with a mohawk. You need courage to stand out and be yourself, and in the end it doesn't matter if people dont think that's right.

I see I have failed to really try to explain common sense, it just appears that you are ignorant. When I see long hair, I think Metalhead, Punk, Lumberjack, Movie producer, Musician.. the list goes on and on.. so what, what you see is a reflection back of yourself as they say. And why should you care about society in the first place, society itself is disgusting and laughable. The best action for a unique person to do is negate it, instead of conforming like you have suggested. Anyways a lot of girls do like long hair, why do you have many girls suggesting that a musician is hot.. guess what, that musician which a huge percentage of girls have the hots for.. have long hair! Now lets take this person into example... With long hair: link removed Without long hair: link removed Unless I am actually blind, it seems the guy there with long hair looks 10x better with it. He went from cool, to farmer joe.

I really hope you dont listen to any of these people. You look very cool, in fact very similiar to Alexi Laiho from Children Of Bodom and all the girls love that guy. What I have learned a long time ago is that girls are really more worried about personality than looks, the only problem is the shyness. Maybe im not the right person to talk to since im so shy and I havent even had a girlfriend yet but honestly dude, all you have to do is work on your shyness, our judging of our looks is just a substitute the mind makes up when a person can't get what it wants. And to all you tools who think, OMg hE ShoUld Cut HiS Hair Lolz, seriously just grow the hell up. Long hair looks a lot better than short hair.. it frames someones face and in turn makes someone look older and cooler, it's simply better looking. The problem in a society such as ours that scorns individuality and "being yourself" is that girls have gotten this mentality that short hair looks better because theyve been conditioned to that for so long. Just look at many time eras how many people had long hair and it was considered powerful and good looking (1800's men wore ponytails) and many hundreds of years ago everyone had long hair. Its just basically ignorance id say but than again, the average IQ of North American's at the moment is pretty damn low.

Already off to a good start, since a fellow metalhead here is helping me out! Anyways I think your right in some ways, I do come off a bit needy sometimes, however I try to interact with people but I cant help but sounding needy, its all in the fact that I am trying to interact and reach out since I was shy in the first place. Since im sure you know a lot about this too, it may be a whole discrimination type thing due to the long hair and "scary shirts" that people just stereotype and single out since our groups are few and far between. Then again I might just being paranoid. And the relationship thing I guess im really shy, I dont get to talk to many girls yet even if I do talk to girls it never goes anywhere, it always trails off or they just lose interest quickly... and like I said I have no clue why... Thanks for your help btw.

I really dont want to complain. Ive posted numerous topics here, some out of anger, some out of heartbreak and others out of other overwhelming feelings that draw such despair, to seek out guidance. So first off id like to tell everyone in this domain that they are like guardian angels, always looking out for someone who is need. Without you, well life would be a LOT bleaker than it even is at the moment or in fact, I may even be just a corpse in the ground. So anyways... to get on with this tale or whatever youd like to call it. I think there has always been something that has set me apart from most people I have seen or interacted with throughout the course of my life. Ive never really found something or a definition really to describe this but to me I have always seemed to originate from a different world than everyone else, or somehow I always thought of myself as a different form of life. Sometimes even I would tell myself that I was cursed under some sort of spell. Note however when I say a different form of life, im not being egotistical or I am saying I am better than anyone else, this is not what I meant... The main part of these feelings I really dont think came mentally, I was'nt just telling myself this and thinking I was different in any form. It had came through years of being treated differently than everyone else. Constantly it seems ive been ignored by everyone and somedays it would be safe to say I felt invisible. Yet maybe there was more to this.... Ive always been very shy and somewhate introverted... however ive just forced myself to talk to people but that is the problem that starts these feelings. Ive talked to people and for the most part just been ignored, always ignored... Yet it doesnt matter if I knew these people for a long time, or if I just talked to someone on the bus, all seriousness, only a small reply comes at hand.. why? Not only the fact that I have bouts of dissociation from the overwhelming feelings including hatred and misanthropy, I seriously just want someone who I could hug or anything.. Thats the next part too.. I cannot get a girl. Ive heard numerous times how im "cute" or whatever from girls etc gossip however all the time I must turn girls off because no matter what happens I cannot get a girl. I DO NOT KNOW WHY. I must be cursed...

And as you can see, my post is ignored, just like real life...

How cliche of me to say this but fortunately you really arent alone in this feeling. I always feel this, as if an impenetrable black cloud surrounds me which detracts others away. Constantly do I feel as if people just dont like me, or that everyone just constantly ignores me. I am also generally a nice guy, however no matter how nice or even how mean or any way of acting in between I try, I can never really seem to get along with people as everyone else I see does. Let me admit however that I am not "normal" I guess as its labelled im a metalhead (black leather jacket long hair band shirts), so if this has anything to do with this (which I doubt since im now known really only by my guitar skills) than this might be it (like you said about goths). Anyways like youve done here, youve explained how you seem to detract people and as the normal person sees it, their is just excuses. "The crowd you hang out with is bad", "Your a pushover". However to me from all of my experience with this, I really can only base this on three conclusions... one "low self esteem" which means even if you showcase your personality this just makes you feel as if you do detract people, or really that people like you and me do certainly detract people and only god, odin or whatever thing you worship, knows why. Lastly it could just be situational. Where you live youve created a reputation. I know I used to very shy and introverted and weird (still am a bit) and maybe this has just stuck, I mean you did talk about the constant bullying. Believe me ive always tried to fit in just like everyone else, have all these friends, and associate with people just the same as I see. Of course it would also be nice to have a girlfriend yet it seems we are just different than normal people. Because if you define a normal person, how could you relate it to something that is not associated with anyone normally?