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It wasn't the smoothest way to do it but it doesn't really matter. If he was interested he would be excited about it. There is nothing you can do.

The other engineer called me to discuss about the new project and team we joined. He does not like the projects nor the people. I thought I was the only one. Stupid projects, not interesting people. They spend 90% of the time documenting things about the actual work. It's exactly the opposite way I like to work. I find secretarial work so freaking boring that at some point I will start complaining. I am getting tired with people in general. Whether it's work or dating and whatnot.

If teachers followed their own advice they wouldn't have been teachers... Unfortunately nothing tangible 🙂 Discipline from intangible.

You are playing with fire! Mentioning age in the context of dating is punishable according to the ENA penal code. ENA article 51 paragraph 2b clearly states this is considered age discrimination against the rest of age groups. You need to write 100 posts stating "I am only allowed to write politically-correct things on ENA" To be honest, I don't believe it. If it hasn't happened this far it ain't going to happen. Unless we are talking about least expecting it when I am 80 haha In the end I will find a mail order bride from Ukraine, have kids and divorce (because chances are we will not be compatible). Half of the guys in the office went to Ukraine to find women. No wonder. Actually it's not that she left. She wanted to come back to my place when I would be back from the US. But I stopped since there is a limit of rudeness I can handle. Imagine someone to be that rude that the guys won't even sleep with her. How low.

Hidden talent! Are your daughters artsy?

I mean it's not pessimism unfortunately, it's always difficult to beat the odds. Like very difficult. I have never experienced this "real and authentic" like the relationship you have with your husband. I don't know how it is. I might never experience it. I guess it does not happen to everyone. All I have experienced is "meh" I don't want to settle but on the other hand I have to be realistic. I can't find something mutual. It's a problem. On the other hand, it's far better to be alone than having a partner who makes me miserable that I tolerate because I had "no other choice". Maybe one day, who knows... Thank you for your kind words 🙂

The Scandinavian woman in Miami was sitting at a bar alone. She was in her late 40s. Naturally I thought Miami/alone = here to have fun. Not at all, she was just visiting some friends. She actually hated the place. Instead of having an upbeat funny conversation she spent an hour talking about how amazing the educational system in Scandinavia is compared to the US and the rest of the world and how awesome Vikings were, ruling the seas and conquering Normandy and England etc etc. On the inside I was asking myself what the heck I am doing so wrong to meet the most sourpuss person in Miami. Actually I approached one more woman. It was a very pretty Russian girl about 30 years old I reckon. She was sitting alone at a restaurant on the outside tables studying something. She glanced at me more than 10 times. I talked to the girl at the door about the menu etc etc to check if she would glance again and she did. I went to her table and I told her with a smile "I noticed you are sitting alone, can I buy you a drink". She said no politely. I should have played it much better. She was studying something scientific, I could have easily initiated a chat about the book but I didn't think of it right there. Rookie mistake...At least I tried, she was far too pretty to let the opportunity slide hahaha

The deep south is like a different country. It has a really bad reputation, it's not for everyone. I liked it way more, I believe you would like it too 🙂 LOLLL I don't want to be single anymore that's the problem. I don't want a bad company either. I feel stuck right now.

We have to be careful to label the normal chit-chat anymore hahahaha I agree. Sure not everything but I would say a good 50-60%. Hope I don't look like an as*hole haha. Sometimes I think I can come across as sad which is not true, it's my melancholic nature. It is as legit as it can get. The sourpuss people. I wouldn't say it's just a bit, it's more like a lot hahahahahaha Regarding this gal, she was rude in general. Who says on a date "I told you one month ago, I won't repeat myself" when asked why she feels stressed. Despite coming from an affluent family she had no manners. Either she was simply an as*hole by nature or she was never rebuked for being rude and abrasive by her parents. I suspect some parents encourage this behavior so their kids can come across as "strong" and "bold" which is neither. It is lack of manners and basic decency. Especially on a date when someone pays for your drinks and gives you compliments, it is common sense to behave like a decent person, at least pretend only for the date. Btw, she made more money than me and she still implied that I had to pay for everything in the future too.

Thanks 🙂 Although I do approach women, it is only under certain circumstances. For example for me it's easy and feels natural to start a conversation with a woman sitting on the next stool at the bar. But I am not good at going to a table where 3+ girls are sitting and chatting. I am bold enough to do it (and I have done it) but in this case it takes better sales skills than I have. You must throw a good line usually and think on your feet quite quickly which is not my strength. Of course everyone can get better with practice but you need to do this everyday which I don't since this is not my lifestyle. It would be far easier for a salesman or a barman to do it smoother than me (and most people anyway). That's why I like the bar where you sit next to one another already.

She cancelled last minute again saying she does not feel well haha. I told her if she is not interested she can tell me and she replied "yeah you know I want to take a break from dating". Yesterday evening she was fine, today she wanted to take a break. Why did she message and made me spent time on planning a "thoughtful" expensive date when she didn't want to go out in the first place only to cancel it last minute I don't get it. Good thing she wasn't in front of me because she would get slapped.

We had very different communication style. I don't like rude people. On the second date, I mentioned to her that I managed to save 6K when I was 24 at my first job which paid minimum wage because I didn't spend much and she half joked "You are stingy, aren't you?". She "joked" apparently but you know how this is. When I paid for the dates I think it's rude to say something like this. Then talking to me like I am her employee just pissed me off. She was extremely clever (way more clever than me which is not something I say easily) and she had a very good job at the bank which might explain the bossy attitude. Or maybe her rich daddy spoiled her a lot. Regardless, if she talked like that on the first dates, imagine how she would behave in a year. I have a date with an American girl from California tonight. I don't expect much, she seems very cold on the texts with one word replies and a little b*tchy. She apparently would consider a date only if it's a very thoughtful one.... I told her to go to a rooftop bar at the city center, she has gone there. I tried three times. I don't get where this attitude is coming from when you are not a Victoria's secret model. There is nothing to support it. Go figure. Although from experience the attitude does not go with beauty necessarily. I have met extremely beautiful women with no attitude. The ones I want don't want me and the worst part is I tend to attract the b*tchy ones. Even when I was in Miami, I started a conversation with a Scandinavian woman at a bar and I knew from the first second she opened her mouth she would be the b*tchy type. And she was. Why I can't attract the ones I like? God, what did I do to you mate and you cursed me like this???

yes 30-40 dollars (I include tax and 20% tip as this is the custom in the US). Everything is over-priced in Miami. I am not sure how the average person makes ends meet there. I think you would like it depending where you go. It's a huge country, you can certainly find a place you like. For me Southern states are the best despite the bad reputation. I wouldn't care visiting NY or California again for example or any northern states except Montana. Not my cup of tea. Lol Ah the weather in the UK, the only thing I can't handle. Nice enjoy your break too 🙂 What can you do, some of us adore the sun hahaha I certainly don't complain about global warming!

When you look it from a distance like in the first photo it does look a bit creepy but when you look at him closely he actually looks happy full of wisdom.

I ceased communication with this girl. She mentioned on her profile she was ok with something temporary so I thought at least we can have a FWB type of thing for as long as it lasts. But I found her communication style so freakin rude I just couldn't handle it anymore. I knew she was abrupt, she made a couple of comments on the second date that was enough to figure out her style but last week while we were texting back and forth and exchanging voice messages she suddenly stopped replying. I texted it her the next day still no answer. Two days later she reached out again but she dismissed all the previous things I asked her/said. She mentioned she was stressed about her work etc and when I asked her more specifically why she replied "I told you on the fist date (that was one month ago), I am not going to repeat myself". Then she said she would have to join a call so she won't be available. Ok. For me, this is extremely rude, I don't even talk to my dog like this. For her it seems it's natural. I deleted her from Whatsapp. A few days later she called me twice on my phone. I didn't answer. I really didn't want to hear from her again. She texted me if she missed something. Then a second text apologizing for being abrupt. I texted her we are on a different wavelength and we should part ways. She sent a voice message that I didn't listen to and a "take care" text. First time I say it's good I didn't sleep with her. She would be even more ***y than now. Plenty of victims to boss around, it hasn't to be me.