jobelle

I know how it is to wonder if pride is ruining my love life, I struggle with it every day. However I think it's safe to say that after 8 years he had this wake-up call coming. You did the right thing. You need to ask yourself if you are willing to take him back. If so, I would advise no contact for a few weeks and very low and casual contact afterwards. The ball is 100% in his court at the moment. I would advise against taking him back unless he gives you a very clear timeline on the issues that drove you apart - marriage and children. Do not give him more of you precious time otherwise. I do wonder - have you ever asked him what "just not now" means to him? Did he ever give you a rough timeline or any milestones he wants to achieve before he settles down? What was his reaction to the breakup? Did he get emotional? Did he beg? Did he offer to discuss those issues? Did he just comply with it? If in your heart you think he didn't mean it when he said that he wants marriage and children, the best thing is to just move on and start NC immediately.

Kate, I read your other post where you mention why you broke up with him. Hang in there. I'm proud of you for not taking his call.

My parents were broken up for about a year when they were boyfriend and girlfriend. Now married for almost 40 years.