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  1. andyg said: What the heck is that supposed to mean?
  2. Do I sense an element of annoyance in your reply? Please know that I'm not discussing this because of any "situation" in my life, just because I felt the quote to be a very apt and humorous one. Regardless: So you mentioned optimism versus pessimism, and also chemistry. Have you ever met a guy and even without having much or any interaction just felt strongly one way or the other for him?
  3. CarnelianButterfly I think your missing the point of my post. I really just want to discuss the mental processes that go on in a woman's head when she decides how to classify a guy she's met. It's possible that you aren't aware of what thought processes you go through, and in that case I don't expect you to be able to discuss them, but I'm still curious.
  4. I really don't think guys and girls can ever be just friends. At least not in the complete sense of the phrase "just friends." Yeah I have a bunch of friends who are girls that I may hang out with and nothing sexual happens, but I know under the right circumstances I could just as easily let something happen. Now the question is that do girl's really think about it differently. Three times now I have had long term friendships with girls suddenly get "complicated" , but then again in these friendships something happened or changed to alter the dynamics of the friendship. In other instances, there were girls I really liked and made my intentions known, and despite all the powers in the world I could never awaken that part of them to be interested in me as more than just a friend. (in a few instances it seemed that they were initially interested in me, that something happened to put those ideas to an end.) Now for me to be honest about my deep dark secret. There are girls that I am somewhat friends with whom I will never have sexual feelings towards. But these are girls that REALLY did something to turn me off, like there special cases. Not sure if that's the same case as with girls that are not interested in guys as anything but friends. Maybe the question is, what is the process or realization that may change a guy from a potential dating partner into just friend material. Also, I find the job comparison to be very apt for the purposes its being used for, but I won't argue that in this already long post.
  5. Oh you crazy woman don't know what you want. Go date the drunken looser guy that mistreats you, that always seems to be the popular approach. (j/k don't ban me for that) I'm calling it a night.
  6. renaissancewoman101, I disagree. Men may have a woman very low on their list of dateable people, but a woman is never completely off the list. Where as woman may suddenly find the only man left alive on the planet is some one she had on her friends only list and that guy will still have a hard time being anything more to her.
  7. aymee_lee I do believe that one can "put" themselves into the friendzone if they dilly dally too long with a girl and she stops seeing them as a man.
  8. The only girls that really keep my attention are girls I had to work for. I'm not sure if every guy is exactly like that.
  9. You have a point there. (though I have miraculously overcome the friendzone before.) I think a part of the problem here is that guys are very challenge motivated, and when a guy is turned down, he only wants to work harder and overcome that challenge to be accepted. I know there were alot of girls I was only somewhat interested in until it seemed that they lost interest in me, then it totally hooked me and I was completely intrigued with them then.
  10. Forget him. He's not man enough to take a single stance on the issue. He wants to be nice to you so as to not burn any bridges in case he is lonely and wants to fall back on you. DON'T give him that. If he wants to be single, then dangit he'll be single. He no longer has the right to have you in his life. I know its hard for you, especially if you were the one dumped, but you just have to move on. If you really want him back the only way your going to do this is by not being on his waiting list and making him realize that he CAN loose you.
  11. Isn't your line of thought their a little treacharous? I may be approaching this from the perspective of a guy here. It seems alot of guys dont' feel its right to try to get romantically involved with a girl until they've earned her trust as a friend. Not saying I believe this methodology, but its definitely out there.
  12. Ah man... I'm not going to lie to you. You're going to be eaten alive by this, its just going to kill you. Key points you need to remember: 1. Right now you feel like nothing. You don't see yourself being happy again or being able to find somebody else or being able to get over her. No matter how hard it is to believe, you can, and you will. 2. While she may make it look easy she has to be going through alot of inner emmotional turmoil herself, no matter what she says. You hold your ground, don't feel obligated to try to comfort her in anyway, and just know that your not the only one suffering through this. 3. It's totally messed up that she's telling you about a guy she's involved with. You may be curious, but don't bite, don't let her tell you about what she's doing. A: knowing only makes it harder on you. B: by not being interested in who she's involved with it makes her question her choice, where as if you panicked at her with another guy it only reaffirms her suspicion that she can do better. 4. No matter what you do, keep your dignity. It's hard to explain, but as best as you can, before you do anything ask yourself the questions "is this course of action befitting somebody who has alot of self respect?" I really wish there was something I could tell you to make things better, but there just isn't. It's hard. The only thing you can do is try to keep a cool level head, and possibly when your calm and not emmotional, try to figure out what happened so you can know for the future more about yourself. I'm not saying there is no hope for you guys or anything like that. But no matter what, you just need to stay calm and try to come to terms with things as best you can. Good luck to you man.
  13. I don't want to be rude, but in all honesty you probably just "think" they're special. Everyone is "special" as in unique from all other's in some way. There is a quality or qualities that appeal to you that you may or may not be consciously aware of.
  14. Well CarnelianButterfly, if he's a nice guy and she wants to hold onto him as a friend but not as more, what's the missing piece of the puzzle? He's lacking something.
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