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  1. I dont think watching porn is a bad idea. It can help "inspire" something new in the bedroom. And I usually watch it with my boyfriend....
  2. I made out with you And in school I did experiment with friends. That is how I learned how to kiss. I have made out with a couple of my girfriends even in the last 2 years. WOO HOO! (Lipstick Lesbians I guess)
  3. haha you should be my boyfriends best friend!
  4. my boyfriend is half thai and half white. His mother Thai, and his father white... I am glow in the dark (i blend into white walls) hahah But we get werid looks at times, when people see us together... but over all our relationship is good....
  5. I would tell her that some of his tactics are a bit well stupid... He gets mad at her for doing something before their relationship...before that was none of his business...This is controlling behavior which might only lead to bad things... BUT BUT BUT BUT if you try and break them up, it will only push her away from you, and further into his arms...trust me been there done that... just talk to her, say you feel that he is a good guy, but some of his behaviors are a bit odd...and let her lead the conversations....
  6. OK how about being married for ten years, kinda gets you out of that deseriable position... Most married women, and men, after a few years, want to know they still have. That they can turn heads, or flirt to a certain extent, and get a reaction. So maybe it rubbed you the right way to know that you can flirt, and get a reaction. Its not really cheating, nor an emotional affair. But it is still hurtful your partner. I have been guilty as this as well.. Maybe that is why you did this...maybe that is why you pushed the flirting envelope... make sense? Just tell your wife, that you love her very much, and that you are sorry that this seems very dishonest. That you think the reason this happened is because you feel undesireable. BUT if you do tell her this it could go one of two ways....one she feels so bad that you feel undesirable, and that she feels like she did something wrong. Also it could go into a bigger discussion of why you need to feel wanted by another women. Either way you need to talk to your wife about this...
  7. You know my father chose a life of the "partying style" He had 10 wives over his period, and had 4 kids of 3 of the women. My parents were married for about 13 years, When I about 6 years old, they separated. It was right before my 8th Birthday, he called the house, to speak with my mother. I asked her to speak with him. I asked him "Daddy, are you coming to my birthday party?" His response "NO I cant." So I hung up the phone and walked away. For years I would think, why wasnt I good enough for him to treat me right, for him to want to spend time with me?? WHY AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH?? I struggled with depression from the time of his death (I was 10, when he passed) til I was about 17. I have gone through 3-4 counselors. To realize that I am worth something. He was just a selfish jerk who didnt see it himself. Granted there were times that he was a father, but more times not. I know you hate the fact that your father verbally abused you. I was emotionally neglected. I am gonig to reference something I learned. God invented forgiveness for a reason. Not sure if you believe in God or not but its good lesson to learn. I forgave my father for the things he didnt do, and I feel so much better now than I did 6 years ago. I am 23 years old now. Being ashamed of your father is not a good thing. Every girl wants to dream of being "Daddys little girl" well sometimes it doesnt happen like that. But forgive your father, and dont be ashamed, he is a sick man, and needs help. Become his friend, and like him. Maybe one day even love him. I can tell you this much, no matter how much you hate or dislike him. The day that he dies, you will remember everything about. The clothes you wore, the expression on your mothers face when she tells you. Then that night while laying in bed, considering if you will cry or not, you loved him because he was your father. But it will drive you nuts, that you never knew him. That he never took the time to know you... Rather or not you want to admit it, your father plays a big roll in your life. You are scared to be around him, ashamed/scared. Its the same thing, when you break it down. Let go of the nightmare now, and forgive him for his past. He is paying for it more than you will ever know. Being deaf, and sick with cancer. And DYING...is the worst punishment a human being can go through. Life is worth living, dont let something like this control you. Which he has a big role in your life. I encourage you to go up to your father and say "Dad I forgive you for everything, I love you." And walk away. If he is going to die, let him die in peace. If someone were mad at me, for things I did. I would want to die in peace, and not have that up in the air the rest of the other person's lilfe. Do the right thing here, and forgive, and forget.
  8. you know its going on 8 months..you have interest, so talk to him. Dont be afraid to go after what you want. If he decides that "he isnt ready" tell him to have fun dating other girls, because its over. Basically what I am saying, you guys have been dating for 8 months, eventually its time to either get together or say goodbye...After dating my boyfriend for about 4 months, I asked him about and he chose for us to get together.... You deserve better than to be "his 2 night a week girlfriend" Sounds like he is a typical guy...but you have to push a little to get results.. Dont be demanding, just be your sweet self.. "honey, I think we should talk! We have been dating and hanging out for about 8 months now, and I want more. I am ready to be exclusive!" And wait and see what his response is. And if he hesitates, and says something like "I dont think I am ready for that" His actions are speaking one of two things 1. He is ready to move to the next level 2. he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Honestly, most guys love a chase...if he comes back with BS of I am not ready, then tell him to step to the door. If not then you basically told him, he can play his games, and keep you along for the ride. I have done that mistake, and I am not gonna go there again.
  9. thanks doll, I am going to go see a movie tonight, and possibly go work out for a little bit we shall see
  10. I live with my boyfriend, during the week, because work is so much closer to his house than to my mothers.... As for college, I need to take the Sats and keep forgetting to check into those. I also have looked at schools, and I need to apply for financial aid so I can start. I do on the weekends take time to relax, and it usually works for the weekend, but then during the week HERE WE GO AGAIN.. I will definitly try to do it more during the week than, just on the weekends I think I may take in a movie tonight...by myself...Thanks
  11. Well this past year has been a trial, that is for sure. I am 23 years old, and lost. Where is my place suppose to be in this life? I could get into school, or I could just stay in my current job for the rest of my life? I have no clue I am lost. I am stressed, and it doesnt seem as if it will end... I need a vacation away from my family, I need a vacation from reality. Basically the last year I have gone through a sister with drug problems, depression problems, me fitting the bill on her insurance, and cell phone. (I could cut her off, but its more complicated than that, her stuff is connected to mine). My step father starting fights, telling me I am a bad person because I decalred bankruptcy. I also had to deal with a bad breakup. The icing on the cake has been my mother losing her job...Oh and my brother who left 3 years ago came back in July of 06. I already work 3 jobs, my full time job I make $300 week at, my weekend job maybe an extra $80.00, and the third job is maybe a once amonth thing. I feel like complete crap, becausde I can not stop the stress for my family. I could work 5 jobs, and it would still be there. I want to be selfish, and say "I am not getting another job" I need to get into school, but have no clue of what I want to do. People close to me are driving me completely nuts, and I am about to scream at them. My boyfriend I love him, but lately its seems he gets more on my nerves, than usual. I dont want to break up with him, but I wish he could be more understanding. BLAH... that is my life right now in a nutshell... HELP! advice.... This is a rant...above anything else...and ac ry for help!
  12. kinda yes...but my best friend who I am calling Hannah, was there but didnt actually hear Mike say those words to Michelle. so again I am confused on how to approach this...
  13. You are right its doesnt make sense? Like I said the whole situation is a bit fishy to me. The girl could have some type of motive to make trouble. Becuase at this bar, my sister really isnt a stranger... and again..thanks
  14. Well basically I had a feeling my sister's boyfriend was no good! Apparently I was right... I am very tight with my sister. I would give my life for her, if it came down to it. This girl is dating a guy who I will call Mike... Mike when I first met him I was aight with him, but something about him was off. My sister had a feeling he was cheating on her, and well she came to find out that he didnt, so I let it go. Normally, I go on gut feelings about people. And usually womens intuition is correct. This guy Mike, this past Saturday night, hit on a girl I know, and who has no reason to lie. Who I will call Michelle. And didnt know Mike was dating my sister. Earlier in the night, (They were at a local bar) Mike was talking to Michelle, and by his body language you could tell he was interested. (This is what I am told) And they were just sitting and talking. Well Michelle has a boyfriend and has no reason to lie. At least from what I understand she wouldnt have a reason to lie... Well My girl Hannah told Michelle to not mess with Mike because he was dating my sister. Michelle responded with, Ok I wont. Well Michelle ended up going out to Mikes car, to get a phone number from him for a friend. And he asked her while they were sitting there talking "You wanna suck my Now I find both sides of the story fishy...I am not sure if I can trust this Michelle girl, and I feel I cant trust Mike. So basically I need advice on how to handle this... Now some of you can say "Let your sister find out for herself" In my family it doesnt happen like that. I have my sisters back for anything, anytime. What gets me is I told this guy not to mess with my sisters heart. And she actually cares about this guy. See I even told him I have resources, to do background checks, to learn about people. And I heard something like this about him before..But I let it be..Cause people change. BUT HELL FREAKING NO... HELP, I need advice on how to handle this. I could just tell my sister, but she is the type you have to have PROOF!! Plan A: So here is my question, I can have Michelle leave with him, and go some where. And we follow her, and with my sister with me, and catch them in the "act" which Michelle wouldnt do anything, but catching him with another girl would be enough. Plan B: Or I could just tell my sister! Plan C: I could let Michelle, "trap" him into going someplace with her, give her a tape recorder, record the conversation, have a video camera, bust him (Like the show Cheaters) along with a digital camera to have a back up. And show the proof to my sister. So what do ya'll suggest?
  15. you are correct....anger issues usually get worse.. This is the first time he has ever said that to anyone...
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