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If you two really love each other and want it to work you need to talk about what went wrong in your previous relationship and see what imporments you both have done. It will take time to retrust once it is broken but be open and honest and I mean brutal honest. If there is something you odn't like tell him striaght away, don't stew on it and let it build like most women do until it explodes.
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Nice work I'm at 30 days second time round. Feel really good about myself, a memeber on here has listened to me rant and rave endlessly via Fb msg likewise for them too so it has helped both of us. I have just booked a holiday for myself and a few friends to go to Bali for 11 days and just party, my last breakup I went away for a couple of weeks and came back refreshed and a new outlook on life this is what I need again so it is all in place
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It takes time but it does get better. Some days there is nothing others days it all comes back. Find a hobby or something that you used to do before you meet her. Get out, into the sun helps heaps (beach) that is where I have been hitting, got a wicked tan at the moment and my friends have noticed I'm so much more happier. I have been posting again on FB, tonight being Friday here in Australia already going out with a few friends as we all have hotted up cars for a cruise then Saturday (Valentines day) myself and another group of mates are going out for the day then hit the town for the night for a few drinks. Sunday will be xbox day and catch up on stuff around the house before heading out with another group of cars for a meet. I have also been getting up at 4am every morning and hitting the gym, been feeling good about myself confidence is back, smile is back, when and if my ex ever sees me again she will get the shock of her life at the transformation of me
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Best thing you can do is any mutual friends you have just unfollow them on social media (not delete) this waht she will not pop up on your new feeds by mistake. My best friend is my ex's brother so I had to do that as she tags him in heaps and it was coming up in mine all the time. For the first time in ages I have not even thought of her at all so unfollowing has helped me big time. If she was to contact me I'm not one to ignore but this time round the replies from me will be short and to the point. You are doing well keep it up, if you need to vent pm me to get it off your chest
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Day I don't know anymore second time round. Feeling a bit anxtious today as I have a feeling something is going to come up again. Thing is am I strong enough to not respond this time and just leave the past as the past. I have also pushed her brother who is one of my best friends out of my life and have not heard from him or me contact him for a week now. Feels weird not having the 2 most importnat people who where in my life not there. But hey I'm breathing, the sun is glowing and it's another day under my belt. Natmendez, Sorry to heat that you found out the truth, don't you just wish instead of the sugar coating BS they tell you that they just say it out at the start. It hurts more when it all comes out, but I knew about my situation.
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6 days NC for me with my ex second time round. I have not even been thinking of her, I had my 2 boys (no kids with my ex) over the weekend and we went to the beach had a ball playing in the ocean fish and chips on the beach and me checking out the cute chickies running around in not much. Wow I had not been to the beach in ages and the girls that hang out there man why did I not go there more???? Well one girl had a dog that ran away from her and came running my way, well I bailed him up, gave him a pat and grabed his lead. I walked the dog back to her where I had a bit of a conversation with her and found out that she comes down all the time. I said bye and my brother who was with me asked if I got her number... I said "no". He told me she was into me by the way her body langauge, eye contact and the smiling. Me thinks I will be heading back to this beach a little more to see if there is in fact something with this one as she was stunning
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Keep up the good work of NC everybody. Again my ex contacted me and I stupidly answered. So back to day 1, I know she is thinking about me and still asking lots of questions to people we know as to what I'm doing but she also is still hanging out with this guy friend of hers.
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Ok so I had to restart after some more soul searching when my ex reached out to me and started chatting. I have since found out it was for and ego boost for herself and thanks to Brokenhart84 I have made the decision to go NC again. I will not listen to anything she has to say unless it is her saying sorry I made a mistake and I want to try and work stuff out. She has alot of personal issues that she has to work on befoe even that would be an option. It's hard but I know in the long run I will be a better person as I'm emotionally detached from life after her contacting me and giving false hope.
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45 days NC. Then I found out about 2 weeks ago she unblocked me on FB...... I never looked into it, didn't care. I spoke to her bother who is one of my best mates and he said that she was asking a lot of questions about me. It was hard during this time to keep in contact with her brother and not bump into her but we did it by going to the pub...... Well on Sunday night she sent me a msg on FB which I ignored then a few hours later sent me a text (this is after she has told me she wants nothing to do with me anymore and was deleting my number). I replied and we spent the next 2 hours texting each other. Never once did I bring up us, but she did ask me if I was single or seeing anyone??? I told her the truth which is NO and changed the subject. She signed off by saying that she will talk to me soon. Who knows I do still like her, I get the feeling she does but now time will tell. Oh one more thing is that she did say openly to her brother before contacting me is that she will never be another guy that made her feel and treat her the way I did with a smile on her face??