Andrina

How old are you? How long have you been with your boyfriend? Do your parents not like him, or do they think you can't make decisions wisely to be in a romantic relationship? You're under their roof, so you will have to accept their punishment. Most young guys will lose interest in a gf they can't communicate with nor see for an entire month, so unfortunately, that problem might be out of your hands, even if you don't do the breaking up yourself.

Block him. He's not worthy of any further communication.

What do you do outside of your house and off the phone/computer? Do you hang out with girlfriends? Do you have any hobbies or have you joined any school groups? Delete/block him on every gadget. Refrain from any romance for now. You're in a mental state where you'll only be attracted to, and attract, toxic guys. Actually the secret to eventually being successful in romance is to first build a fulfilling life solo. When you have a support system of friends, have a passion for an interest/hobby/volunteer work, then you will be ready to choose a guy wisely and have standards. The guy will be someone to add joy to your life, versus a guy being the sole reason for your joy, which is never healthy. Good luck.

So what do you think is worse? The quote above, or being kept in the dark and all of a sudden find out since no exclusivity has been discussed, that he's been sharing his body with other women besides you. Or that it might take him a year or more to decide to only date you because he'll feel like a caged tiger. You're going to have to embrace, for your own good, putting yourself in the driver's seat. If you would like to be exclusive, because you want to be monogamous, plus he treats you like a priority and he's a prized partner, ask him if desires the same. If he doesn't want this after knowing you this long, it doesn't matter how much it hurts you to break up. You should, because he doesn't match you in your dating/relationship style. Because of what you've written, however, your self-esteem seems lacking so I'm not so sure he is the ideal partner who is worthy of you. The right guy won't have you feeling like this. The right guy makes you feel adored. How often does he ask you on dates (not just to be intimate)? Does he ask you questions about your daily life? Your wants and dreams? What is his relationship history? Have you met his friends? If so, what are they like? What does he do to have fun when he's not with you? How old are you two? Many women have a biological response of wanting to bond with a man when she's having sex with him, even if he's very wrong for her. Make sure this isn't the only reason you think he's a keeper.

Will she be paying for her own plane ticket, or has she asked for that money or waited for you to offer? Just making sure you don't get drawn into any scams of being an ATM machine to someone. It's a common thing for a scammer to pretend they have a connection to the prey's area--either that they've once worked there, have friends or relatives there, or that they plan on moving there for work. It's quite a distance from Ohio to Nevada. I'm assuming you'd be spending $600 or more for every trip, and you plan on going once a month? Are you really that well off that that kind of money is very doable for you? Having done OLD in the past, I'll give my own experiences. Over a period of 2 and a half years, I went on dates with about 30 men. So many times we liked each other's photos, likes each other's messages, and liked the few phone calls we had before meeting. But that had zero bearing on how the first date, or the second or third if it made it that far, went. Because reality doesn't begin until that first meet. The majority of the time, one or both of us did not feel chemistry so that was the end of that. Sometimes, both of us did feel chemistry and went on to one or more dates, but then things happened where everything fell apart. The person had lied about their dating goals. The person was mentally off. The person wasn't enjoyable to be with. I wasn't the other person's cup of tea after all. Thank God I'd never spent much for these dates, and rejected communicating with guys who lived far away, even though they tried to get me to engage after I explicitly wrote in my profile that I dated locally only. Because it's quite a process, sifting through a beach of sand to find the treasure. A lot of things have to match up: Dating styles, dating/life goals, matching ethics, matching relationship boundaries, a relationship leading to marriage or not, if it lasts, kids or no kids. If the person makes you a priority, is faithful, is financially stable, and the list of must-haves and lack of dealbreakers like gambling, drinking, etc., goes on. To me, long distance has so many cons and has a very high risk failure unless a couple met locally, and then had to briefly move away for a career or education. Takes longer to see skeletons in the closet, if there are any. Dating cannot be done at a normal pace, dooming things. You also have to wonder. If she's so pretty and has a nice personality, why hasn't she been successful in dating locally. Does she have something to hide that it'll take longer for a long distance guy to discover? Let's say you had to date 30 people like I did before finding the keeper. With long distance, that might take you the next 30 years and cost a crazy amount of money to achieve. What I recommend is to amp up dating locally, trying different ways to meet women than you've done in the past. Meetup.com is a great start. See which groups are available in your area. Do some volunteering. Environmental clean ups regularly happen in some towns. Volunteer at a zoo or museum. Take dance lessons. If she's paying her own way, then fine, let her. But being exclusive before you meet, which might take longer than you anticipate, might have you passing up golden opportunities locally. You're also emotionally investing in a fantasy, which has been going on for months and will likely go on for many more months, to have everything fizzle at the first meet. All that time and energy spent on a risky gamble could be placed on a safer bet that costs far less, locally. Good luck in finding a keeper. I know after all the frustration and upsets I experienced, that it had all been worth it when I found the right one.

Because I see some of you in how I was in the past--a self-sabotaging reel going on in the brain (I still have to stop myself when I catch myself starting to do this presently), I'll recommend a book that helped me. It's The Secret by Rhoda Byrne. Even if you don't believe in the law of attraction, the book also gives examples of how to change your thought process into changing those thoughts, giving them a more positive spin and calming the soul. My friend gave it to me many years ago, saying it changed her life, and I can definitely say it helped me in many ways. Take care.

To me, what you said in anger is minor. What he said is really telling of his ugly thoughts and his use of words are used to hurt in the worst, toxic way. You can do far better. If calling you names and insulting your character isn't dealbreaker activity to you, you're in for a miserable life, accepting this treatment from a man for a lifetime.

If you've never heard the term "outgrowing the relationship," learn it now because it applies to you. Even if you love him, and you were happier at the beginning of the relationship, that's all irrelevant now. Happy relationships involve a healthy balance of time apart, time together doing couple activities, time on hobbies and careers, and time with friends both together (double-dating and group friends) and apart. You neither like like the balance being unhealthy, nor think his leisure time is conducive to having a good relationship with you. Many people experience many romances before finally finding a keeper. Stop clinging to something that no longer works for you.

If you're saying this has happened 5 times in a year, I'm sure it's not that you're feeling the desire to escape every second of every day between say the 3rd incident and the 4th incident. I'm assuming you feel bad a day or two and then things fade and after another day or two, you've returned to an even and happy baseline. That's the way I look at any argument my husband and I have. I know we each won't feel the best about each other for a day or two, but I like having the faith of knowing "This too shall pass" and feel comforted by that. It's unknown which of us will offer the olive branch, and I like the fact it's never just one of us. That varies. I'd say to feel proud that each time you've felt the need to escape, you didn't. And then you were able to get past it and have good days in between. Maybe now that you've overcome the physical tendency to run, you can try faking it until you make it with overcoming the mental tendency to fantasize about leaving it all behind. How about when that happens, ask her to sit close on the couch and caress her hair? Watch a comedy together so you can laugh, which might drive away the anger? Keep trying new behaviors and activities, using them as tools until you see which tool works the best.

One of the most important relationship rules that should exist is that after there's a discussion/argument to resolve an issue, that issue shouldn't be brought up ever again, rehashing the same argument, over and over. There are two problems here. In your mind, you resolved the issue by cutting contact by getting rid of your app. To her, the issue is not resolved because she's assuming you're a liar. And then she keeps punishing you as if you're still committing a crime behind her back. When you stick around for this punishment, it's telling her your self-worth is in the gutter and she can continue on, since you're not going anywhere. IMO, you need to stop having the spine of a wet noodle. Tell her that you agreed to the boundary of no longer communicating with exes and if she doesn't believe you're honest about that, and if she ever brings up the past about that again, that you're not living like that and you two will have to go your separate ways.

The good thing is that she has a life besides dating and doesn't drop her friends to only focus on a man. The bad thing is that if she ends up speaking a lot about emotional baggage, and making you pay the crime for something past men have done, then how will she be enjoyable company? Instead of focusing solely on trying to read her behavior and what she might be feeling, focus on your own feelings because of how you're being treated. I'm not saying anybody's in the wrong or right. Examine if you're reasonable or unreasonable in your expectations. Examine if you want to follow her lead on how often to communicate and get together, and see if you become satisfied with it, or are left wanting. It sometimes takes time to smooth out the edges and see if two people will mesh, or if the edges stay scratchy and pointy and it's clear this is not a match. I know when I dated my future husband, he spoke of a past romantic interest who told him he was smothering her. She probably liked a lot of space. I, on the other hand, wanted a companion who had a lot of time for me, so we matched in the amount of time we wanted to get together from day one. My point is not to fear you're losing her because if you are, she isn't your match and this frees you to find the keeper. Remind yourself that your needs are important too, and that if you regularly feel anxious or upset, then don't hang on for dear life just because the woman is gorgeous. But as said, these are fresh beginnings so let things unspool and see if you two can find your way to building something special.

If it were me, I'd probably choose send a message, asking how her classes are going, and tell her a bit about the same on your end. See if she's open to a little bit of messaging and wait to see if she makes her own effort without you always initiating. And then if that goes well, maybe mention the time you usually go on campus to eat at a particular place and tell her it'd be great if she's ever free to join you.

Why would you even allow this, if he decided to on a whim, after he's shown you you aren't a priority? As alluded to, why haven't you already blocked and deleted him?

So you're really okay with dating someone, who it seems has been in a sexual relationship with a man for approximately a decade up until a few months ago, and he will continue to be her best friend forever? If so, well, you only have two choices: Do nothing, hope for the best, and get used to being a third wheel since it's obvious they are quite tightly woven. Or: Tell her if her relationship boundaries don't match yours, and that he doesn't stay in a hotel, and she doesn't stay in a hotel when she visits him annually, then the relationship you two have isn't a good match and wish her the best.

No, there is no controlling who another can be friends with. More accurately, you choose, that is if you want a satisfying relationship, a partner who shares the same views on friendships. I know there's no way I'd stay with a partner who told me of being in the same situation as your gf. If I'm reading this correctly, they were in an open, long distance relationship where when they'd visited each other once a year, they had sex. And being best friends, they likely communicate very regularly. I can't imagine anyone being okay with that. As for me, even if by some miracle I had proof that they would never cheat and all of a sudden had zero attraction, I still wouldn't be okay with that closeness. Be true to yourself. Nobody is worth you having a lifetime of upsets.