JohnSimons1901

It sounds a little strange that he messaged to congratulate you, not sure what context that would be in? Sounds like he is confused and doesn't know what he wants and if he has now blocked you on socials it's all gaslighting and a bit of a game, you broke up for a reason you should stick to that. If you wanted to be together you would be and not doing the back and forth. What is the reason you broke up?

Very true, creating new memories is key and improving on your self, I guess this first year apart has been that indeed. Holidays, Birthdays have been the first but I know I feel better for it and sticking to my own path is the way to happiness.

I still think of ex's I had in 2014 but this was my first long term relationship so the feelings are sticking around a little longer and I guess I am older also.

Thank you for your feedback on my comment. Yes it is strange, its been a few months on and on a random day I can get these thoughts and feelings when they are unwelcome but I understand to embrace them and to feel them is what is best to move on. Focusing on my own life is exactly what I am doing, started a new job, fitness, friends and relaxing in my own time. Time heals and light is at the end of the tunnel. 4 years of memories will not disappear over night, maybe for years to come I will get these thoughts as I have in past relationships just not with the feelings.

I broke up with my ex a few months back but I find my self reminiscing a-lot about things. I would not want to get back with my ex nor even sit and have a coffee with her, I wish her the best but I know the relationship is not for me, it was very turbulent. I am M34 she was F36 The thing is if I am dating someone or talking to a girl that I like, I don't think about my past relationship and I focus on my current situation but at the moment I am focusing on myself and can't help but reminisce which is quite frustrating. It was a 4 year relationship and there are reminders and memories which are still a little fresh, I would like to meet some one to create new memories with and focus on the future but I guess this is processing or a feeling of loneliness? I guess has anyone else experienced this or has advice?