@catfeeder, I can't find the post! It was an older thread from last summer, where the man had been in a toxic relationship and the woman had a threesome with two very young men while they were supposed to be on a break. His daughter posted that he had committed suicide and she found his posts on this forum on his laptop. Apparently he kept going back to the toxic relationship. It's extremely sad.
And thanks for the support. Yes, I am trying to help. I liken it to knowing fire is hot from past experience but wanting to warn someone rather than just standing by while they put their hand in it to find out for themselves.
Have you seen that Anthony Anderson commercial about Type II diabetes, where he shows a photo of a coffin and says "Too much? That's the point!" So yeah, I am trying to help but that doesn't mean everyone will like my approach.