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  1. Oh my god they look like they came from the same litter! Yep, that is my big baby...Ashton Winston Churchill. Do you know what kind of cat it is? I've no earthly clue...
  2. I agree with this. Don't be an insecure despot...Yet, always keep your heart open and allow love to come in. Anyways... I am glad I read this thread. It has given me permission to be happy in my single life.
  3. Hey there Pianoguy. I'm good. I just had to cutback on my net time, alot. Now that I'll be graduating this weekend I just dropped in to check out enotalone. How are you?
  4. Well, since I've finally gotten a boyfriend(going on six months)I can definitively answer my question with a resounding....YES. lol
  5. I was never raped or molested. And how does this question account for the millions of heterosexual people who were raped and molested as children? To me this is just another way of trying to prove that GLBT people defective degenerates who were made into what they are.
  6. Oh my god KIDD I am so happy for you! Oy, I can remember the first time I went to a gay club with my boyfriend...I was so freaking NERVOUS! But I had so much fun. I've gone back once or twice, but the club scene really isn't my thing... Anyway, have fun but don't get too caught up in that whole scene, if you know what I mean. Yeah, there are guys there just having fun. But there are others that just want to nail anything with a pulse... Also, as for the debate on effeminacy in gay male culture, I guess this will be a hot topic for ages. Presently, I am in a relationship with a "masculine" guy being that he is a Tennis player and likes sports...however, he can be sort of nelly when he isn't minding his p's and q's...lol. I am sorta turned off by guys who are TOO straight acting now...I don't know. I guess it is because I hate alpha male machismo. There is no tenderness in that. I like a guy who is more masculine then fem though. But not too macho. I am somewhere between the spectrum myself... Anyway, I am so glad you had fun dude. Because you had such a hard time last year...Just have fun and don't look for love in the clubs!
  7. All of the above for me. I felt a tremendous sense of relief when I was able to say it out loud for the first time. Through the years I dealt with severe stress and anxiety simply because of "the closet". And I was still dealing with the overwhelming sense of shame(because I was just getting out of the whole "My sexuality is a sin" mode). Awkwardness immediately moved into mine and my mother's relationship for a time, due to her own insecurities. It is really hard coming out(unless you come from a liberal upbringing) because people see you as one thing for years; but the moment you open up about that part of your life they begin to see you as a label. But Happiness has FINALLY factored in for me. It took tons of therapy and support groups, but they worked. For all people on the cusp of coming out it does get better. Coming out is the litmus test for all GLBT people. And it is a neverending process. Until being gay in our society becomes "normal" then you'll always have to come out, so to speak.
  8. I have ALWAYS been that way. I am just now learning to have fun...lol
  9. Hi PrettyInBlack. First of all, if you want to have a positive outlook on being bisexual then, by all means, do not read Christian literature. That will do more damage to your psyche. It isn't worth it. I've been there and done it. On that note I would like to say that I have felt your pain. All of my life I've been torn between my sexual orientation--something I did not choose--and my religion(something, I feel, was thrust upon me). I grappled with both issues my entire life. I'm in my late 20's now; however, I didn't come out to myself, as a gay man, until one year ago. During the previous years I nearly drove myself insane trying to be straight. Oneday I made the decision that it was no longer worth it, and I owned who I was. Afterwards I got over my fear of eternal damnation pretty quickly. It was my family, upon my coming out, that made my life a living hell. My quest to reconcile my faith and my sexuality led me onto another path. I realized that I did not believe in God. At this time in my life I'm an atheist and happily so. Christianity nor any religion holds no bearing on my life. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not castigating anyone for choosing to have religion in their life. However, religion is not for me because I don't believe there is a god. Letting go of my religious beliefs allowed me to flourish and be my best me. I know some gay people who are still into Christianity, and I honestly don't understand how or why they would want to be. If there is a God then he/she/it would have to be extremely cruel and malevolent to create me as a gay man but condemn for living my life in truth. I don't think that any force in the universe gave me the capacity to love another man to simply be a blight upon my life...It does not compute to me. My advice to you is this. When you are on your death bed do you want to live with the regret of not being true to yourself? Or do you want to worry about a place of eternal torment that probably doesn't exist? Yes, hell could be real. However, it might not be real either. I think you should live your life, right here, right now, and to the fullest. Don't hate who you are just because Christian literature tells you that you should. You should read and do things that will encourage you. There is just as much GLBT affirmative literature out there as it is condemnation. Learn to love yourself completely. No one else is going to do it for you.
  10. I've had cognitive therapy, and it was somewhat effective in my case. I suffered(and sometimes still do)from anxiety disorder. I have phobias of diseases(such as HIV/AIDS, Parkinson's Disease, and Cancer), and sometimes negative thoughts about the diseases would overwhelm me to the point of staying up days at a time(Once, I went 7 days, with no sleep, because I was afraid I had contracted AIDS...until I had an HIV test that was negative. Yet, whenever I wake up sweating the pops into my head)... My therapist really worked with me for MONTHS on that...Now I have a healthier fear of diseases. I won't lie and say it has completely gone away...But I'm not having the anxiety attacks because I've replaced my oppressively negative thought patterns with more positive ones...
  11. I really think he was having a shot at your height, which is a jerk thing to do. Well, you have every right to be ticked off. People think I'm much younger all the time; however, I know an honest mistake from blatant disrespect.
  12. I think attraction grows. I once dated someone that I thought was very physically attractive. However, the more I got to know him the more I found him to be repulsive...He had a really huge ego. Now, I am no longer attracted to him because I know what kind of person he really is. I have seen some of the most handsome guys with very homely wives and girlfriends. However, to that individual they are the most beautiful creature in the world. Attraction grows...If you hang out with this girl enough you WILL be attracted to her, and you won't care if she looks terrible.
  13. Are you, possibly, agoraphobic(I think that is the phobia for fear of leaving the house)? Otherwise, it could be a number of things such as internet addiction or, possibly, depression.
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