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  1. Also to add if i was allergic surely it would irriate skin else where, which it doesn't...
  2. I can see my own doctor. An exam as you put it is not required, ive already had lots of tests and am up to date with screening, which was quite recent.. A sensitivity yes perhaps, but what will they do and how can they tell that? I wont get a referral to the hospital for a gynecology review for that. Routine stuff takes years due to the covid back log. And I cannot afford to go private.. Its not life and death is it..
  3. The health system in the uk is different. Its not a case of getting a different doctor, I have changed my GP and have received the same guidance. In terms of the weight issue regarding fertility then yes it is pretty standard. I was referred nearly 2 years ago for a review for something else, and I have yet to hear. Although that problem has resolved on its own accord.. As stated else where an event that happened 20 years ago, is not the reason for these physical difficulties, given ive never had the problems in the 20 years since, and always enjoyed myself really well when I was using condoms... At my age I cant afford to use condoms, particularly given this is the last couple of years where there might be the chance to conceive... in a few years I will be able to reintroduce them, hopefully..
  4. How is that going to make any difference to a physical problem? Which wasnt a thing when I was using condoms... It was over 20 years ago when it happened and I have had different relationships and satisfying sex life since then, I am not traumatised...
  5. Because I just cant get used to the feeling of incontinence, it feels yucky, undignified, embarassing, and yes dirty. I didnt actually realise that others didnt feel that way. I have often wondered about that, and I have joked about it, because Im damn sure it isnt suppost to burn and gritting your teeth and hoping for it to be over isnt nice.. I have spoke to a gynaecologist some time ago, and they refused to do anything to help me, unless I lost nearly half my body weight and weighed the same as I did in primary school, so there's no hope there. That and the fact that there's probably a waiting list of a couple of years. I know the chances are slim, but I never had any opportunity to try before, so I cant give up yet, no matter how slim the chances. I haven't received any help for it no, and I really don't want to have to open that can up, for what I don't know, and plus where would I go. I'm in the UK, people don't really do therapy, and CBT really don't do jack and is all they offer really, and plus the wait list will probably again be years.. Its ironic I always thought when I ditched condoms it would make sex easier, and more spontaneous, and I spent ages looking forward to getting rid of them. But its really quite the opposite, and I cant wait for when I can think of using them again... Thanks for your replies....
  6. Hi As strange as it may seem I got to my 40s without having unprotected sex, always with condoms, and i always found putting them on a guy exciting and had a high libido. Now im married and theres no need for protection, I really dont like sex without a condom, it just hurts and ends up burning mid way through. I've been tested for stis and theres nothing going on there. I just cant relax and I can only go once a night and then thats me uncomfy for the following day too. We have tried lubes and different positions and its the same. The after math of the event is messier than I imagined and I cant find that sexy at all, and means that you have to plan the where and when, which never happened before, meaning that snuggles that normally come after are taken up with the clean up and it doesnt make me feel great after either. Both these things really have quashed my sex drive to virtually zilch. Its damaging my marriage and we are trying to get pregnant too. I have a history of sexual abuse and I simply cannot just lay there and think of England so to speak because that sets me off to a panic attack.. Has anyone else found this to be the case? Or have any tips to make it more comfortable? Or how to deal with the aftermath better? Thanks
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