TheWriter1

Hey guys, I've worked myself into quite the situation here. At the moment I am a freshman in college finishing up my first semester. I play football for my university and am on full scholarship. My problems begin with football. We are bad, 1-21 the last 2 seasons as a matter of fact, we had the longest losing streak in Division 1 football at one point in time this season. We broke it, but it has recently come under fire because we used an ineligible player in 3 games last year, the win being one of them, so we might be back to the biggest losers in Division 1 sports. I've only been here for 1 season of all of this losing, the coaches lied to me on my official visit and told me all sorts of things. They told me that they were graduating the biggest problems and that the kids who were making them lose were leaving. After this season i can honestly say that the reason we lose is the red-shirt freshman and sophomore players. The seniors were perfect in all respects (well, most of them). The problem will not be graduating any time soon. They don't end there however, the coaching staff are 99% idiots. The AD at my school did not care for football, she hired the first new coach that applied for the job (so an alumni told my dad). The team makes fun of him night and day and takes nothing he does seriously, and rightfully so. Trust me when I say this, I've found football hell with this man. In an attempt to try and live up to his dreams of being a good coach he has instigated a 3 strike rule. 3 strikes in your 4-5 year career and you are done. Well, every week on tuesday and wednesday there is a study table he makes us do. I have good grades so i only have to go once. I did not go one tuesday due to a study session my freshman honors english class was having, thinking i could just do it on wednesday. I got called into his office and screamed at because apparently the only day i can do my study table is, "...on tuesday, not wednesday, tuesday because i said so." (his words). Strike 1. I recently got strike 2 because of a missed team meeting that 15 people missed. They notified us through an email. The email was sent to an address i have not used since before i got to the university. I have a UNIVERSITY GIVEN EMAIL ADDRESS, and it was not used. I know this is my fault though, i'm the screw-up here. I've begun to think. I'm miserable. Every day i wake up at 5 AM thinking i missed a weight session (typically at 530) and have thrown up multiple times due to fear. I cannot concentrate in classes for fear of missing things to do with the team and my grades have begun to slip (this is not recent, just a build up over time). My university does not support the football team. We have no jackets, no warm ups, no equipment except for: jerseys, helmets, pants, pads (not all of them if you're an under-classmen) belts (don't get 1 if an under classmen) and shoes. I was promised full Nike sponsorship with gloves, under armor, and many other things my parents are now having to pay for. These things are necessary, playing football in 20-30 degree and rainy weather without underarmour is asking for death...trust me, i know. Some of this stuff other members of the team get (i'd say 70% of the team gets a pair of gloves...not me). People sit and ridicule the football team members in class and around campus because the team is so bad. We even have to pay for our team meals. My dad wants me out, right now. This christmas he says pack it up son you're getting out. But the decision is mine, and there is 1 factor that keeps me here. An awsome girl. We've been together for 4 months and i really like her. She loves me to death, and is not afraid to show it. Shes smart and mature, and very much in tune to my situation. She has told me not to stay here because of her. She knows whats happening to me in and out and still sticks by me. LDR will not work, she said she will get bored and so would I. I don't want to make her cry...and all of this is happening at christmas of all times... My options are few. If i stay, i risk the shame of being kicked off. There is no coaching fire in sight. We do not have the money to pay off his contract so he will stay for another year no matter what. I have an excellent frame to sell myself to other schools (6'7 240) but i absolutely HATE football. I've hated it since the day i put on the pads in 2nd grade. I did it to appease my dad and go to college for free. I am, however, a left handed pitcher in baseball. I blew my arm out my junior year, but up until that time i had 5-6 scholarships from the like of Miami, FL, Purdue, Toledo, Michigan State, and Ohio State. My coach even had scouts from the Reds and Yankees talk to me a bit about my future. My options - 1. Stay at the university and try my hardest not to get kicked out. Live scared and stay miserable, but go to school for free and stay with a nice girlfriend for a little while longer. 2. Leave university, go home and get a job to pay for school. Go to a cheaper school more local. Live at home again (groan). Make ends meet like most of the population. Hope for academic aid. 3. Get EXPENSIVE arm surgery and hope that i can play baseball again. If i can get back to where i was, then 1 year paying for school before being scholarshipped (or drafted) is not too much to ask. However, the surgery is 50/50 and has a great possibility of wasting all that money. What do i do?

we couldn't wait and we had unprotected sex 2 full days into what has been her heaviest period in awhile... i came inside her, she was close and i was close and we just got lost...not too funny but whatever it happened. What are the chances? shes still pretty heavy judging by me being covered with it, but 2 days in...is there a new egg in there?

i make her cum afterwards every single time (oral) but she wants to experience a vaginal orgasm badly now because she says the feelings shes getting in there are 100% different and 100% better than a clitoral one... contracting when shes about to cum...will i get used to feeling that over time?

THIS is annoying, my girlfriend and i started having sex about 3 weeks ago and had major problems getting it to feel good for her... to quote, "It feels nice, but not WONDERFUL like i thought it would" its only nice because every 5 seconds she has to pee...we thought it was the size of my penis (im thicker) pushing her bladder but certain positions took that feeling away. Anyway, we figured out and now she loves sex with me, it feels great...shes breathing heard, shaking alot, eyes always closed, the whole 9 yards. I'm happy to give it to her and try my best to keep up, but for some reason i have an early ejaculation problem. Not early ejaculation as in 2-3 seconds and im done...we usually go 20 minutes or more, the last 3 times i have gotten her closer and closer to orgasm she says. My problem comes when she gets close, i will be perfectly fine when we are going, then she'll sort of stammer, "keep going like that" and all of a sudden it starts to feel REALLY GOOD, i mean SERIOUSLY amazing, i have no idea why...even with a condom on to numb me up a bit it feels so awsome. I cum...right before she does and she ends up not getting off... Frustrating as hell, today she said she was maybe 30 seconds away, its usually 30 seconds to 1 minute... whats wrong with me and how do i get past this? btw we are 18 and 19 and she was a virgin

me and my girlfriend just had sex for the first time on friday, i enjoyed it of course but her enjoyment was another matter entirely... We are both young, shes 18 and im 19, she was a virgin and i wasn't (technically i still am...an in out in out and then she made me quit affair so we were both pretty new) We tried her on top for the first time and she said it sucked, like she couldn't feel a thing...just a pressure moving in and out of her. Needless to say i've been kinda depressed haha. We thought it was a positional thing so we tried missionary today, and it was "better" she could feel it alot more, for the first few minutes she says it felt good but then she started to say she had to pee really bad and squirming around alot. Its been 1 day since we started and man...we've done it a few times haha but we are kind of hoping it will get better, any words of wisdom, ideas, tips...anything?

i've had it with two girls. The first few times with each were miserable, the damn thing would not work...sweaty palms...cold as hell...shaky....i guess it was excitement and nerves....the one girl i did it with over a long period of time gives me some re-assurace. She was my first, and after i got over the fascination of it (lol) it worked great all the time, but if we would not see each other for many many months (yeah i know...hook ups are bad lol) i would be right back to square 1....

when you are fooling around with a guy and things are getting more serious...and the pants start to come off...is it weird for him to not be hard? I discovered something about myself yesterday when i was in the middle of stuff with a girl i met...i don't just get a raging hard on and keep it. Maybe its because i was in jeans and she was straddling me and all of the pressure was on it and it kind of hurt...i dunno...whatever this isnt the first time its been like this. There was an awful lot of dry humping which more or less involved crunching it into jeans...does that affect it? When she moved her hands down and started playing it never really got to a full...sort of embarrassing...although that might be caused by the fact that when i looked down expecting to see him standing full and saw a pathetic semi-erection i started to get nervous and pleading with it in my head to just work. I mean i didn't even get hard during some very intense fingering/oral i gave to her, whats the deal? trust me i was very in to it and having alot of fun but what the hell? I thought the mere sight of a woman was supposed to get those things to work. The only reason i give my jeans theory is because when im alone and feel the need i just take off the shorts and it works fine...there is no crushing. I've eliminated the gay theory because i've never even looked at a guy and thought he was attractive, even guys girls obsess over. The other day i was swimming with a girl and the sight of wiggling out of her shorts, the bikini bottom coming down ALMOST all the way before she caught it...and then wrapping my arms around her and touching her underwater had me at full attention...but i wasn't trying to get one then...it seems that when im not trying to get one i get them and they stay for a LONG time. whats the deal with me here?

NC has worked a few times with me. But only a month or two after the breakup. And come to think about it there were some extenuating circumstances that made NC the final piece of the puzzle. When i was like...14-15 i had a girlfriend who dumped me because we got too serious too early (as kids tend to do). I didn't talk to her for a 2 weeks, even though it killed. SHe had called me when she got into a car accident....she said i was the first person she thought of. After that i still didn't talk to her for another week and a half 2 weeks when she called saying she wanted me back. The thing is i was her first true love i guess. She is a commitment-phobe and got scared of her own feelings so she left thinking they would die. They didn't. She still loves me to this day and we are good friends despite a shaky history of trying to make it work. But we both know it will never happen and just left it at that. lets see...another time NC worked... in 6th grade (lol) a girl dumped me after a month and i quit talking to her because i thought she was retarded. She went from hating me to liking me again in a few months. That doesn't count though that was 6th grade...i had 60+ girlfriends (dated em for a day then dumped em lol) i can tell you that NC has never worked on me though. When i ended something and i was positive it was over i was honestly glad that they never called back...wow...theres a bit of self-realization there lol. I remember one relationship, once again, just a kid relationship but still. I was a Jr. in highschool and i dated this girl for 9 months before i ended it. She did everything she should have, didn't call me or talk to me. Made sure to be seen with boys whenever i was around, all of that. But i didn't care haha i got a kick out of watching her do it. Then she broke NC and called me absolutely bawling about 3 weeks after i did it and screaming at me for not loving her and all of that (extreme case of breaking contact but...you know) and i was so annoyed i could hardly stand it. how did your relationship end exactly...?

can someone explain what that "spark" people say you feel for another person is? And if there are any ways to tell if the other person feels the same?

im starting to realize that she'll never realize what shes missing out on when we talk each day. I came to this realization after we didn't talk much at all yesterday (maybe 10 texts between the 2 of us) and she seemed to want to talk to me really badly after i went to sleep. I want to make her realize, can i slowly start to fade away and act more aloof? I realize its a game...but thats just about the only option i have at the moment outside of just continuing on like we had been, which will do nothing but make her feel like im ok without her. What do you guys think?

i know how annoying it must be to hear people say your relationship isn't real, but even though the feelings are real its true...it isn't a real relationship and it won't be a real one...maybe if you were the same age and going off to college it could work, but even then thats a stretch, at 15 if i remember correctly you are either a freshman or sophomore in highschool...too much time left to have fun and date people you see every day then go for the LDR. LDR's are usually for people with the means and money to see their SO's at least once a month. No relationship can be forged on personality alone.

i drove 3 hours to meet my girlfriend for the first time, but we will be going to college together so there is a difference haha you can do it

those pictures make it look thick you poor poor girls

nope part of being a teacher is recognizing problem situations. One day my elementary/jr. high school mentor teachers walked me around between classes and pointed out problem individuals. Usually it was just a girl who, "Wasn't that big around the middle 2 weeks ago" with a knowing look...or a kid with glazed looks in his eyes. Then they taught me lingo to listen for and that came up to my utter disbelief

i do student teaching, turns out starting around 5th or 6th grade kids have these things called "rainbow parties" where all the girls pick the hottest guy, put on different colored lipstick and go down on him as far as they can and kiss, the color that goes down the farthest gets to finish him off. and have you seen the way these little girls dress? good lord