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  1. i live in alberta too, and i wouldn't invest in real estate right now. the winter months are generally the best times to buy a home, but that's pretty much over now. right now, i'm playing in the stock market, but these have certain risks associated with it. If you want to play safe, invest in mutual funds, or blue chip stocks. those usually give you a return of ~10% a year. good luck
  2. I agree with kuys. the only reason is because she had some a relationship with this other guy. who knows what his intentions are, maybe he wants to fool around again. it's not unacceptable for you to tag along since you two are now a couple.
  3. i think you need to ask why you're marrying your current fiance. do you love her? other than safe and responsible, what else do you two have in your relationship? why don't you two have any sparks in your private time? other than the intense 'private time' with the blonde, what else do you share? Is it all just physical? You say she doesn't have much of a personality, and doesn't share the same views as you in a lot of areas. Is this 'intense' private time going to last forever? What happens 5-10 years down the road, when things die down a bit... a relationship has to have more than just an intense sex life (although a lack of one is a big problem too) from your post, it sounds like you already know what you want... but you just don't know if it's the right choice. this is a really tough choice... and i don't envy you for having to make it. but i think ultimately, it's what YOU want the most. It doesn't matter what your parents/her parents think. It's better than living in doubt for the rest of your life
  4. why don't you just abstain from sex then. it's your body, u can do whatever you want. nobody is forcing you to have sex, or even do any sexual acts. i watched a documentary about a group of people who boycotted sex completely from their lives... they have a wesite, but I don't remember what they're called. You don't need to give in to the pressures of society. Just b/c other people enjoy sex, doesn't mean you need to. the reason i remembered this documentary was because two of the leaders of this boycott sex group eventually got married... and guess what? they tried out sex for the first time to experiment. at the end of the documentary they said they've stepped down as leaders and have sex frequently. maybe there's just something more you need to make sex good.
  5. Hmm... does your wife know she calls you? Is she okay with that? I find it really strange why you're still in contact with her... Didn't your wife tell you to never contact her again?
  6. She was obviously devastated by what you did. I'm surprised you two stayed together when you initially had the affair at 25 years of age. She obviously cares about this relationship, or else why would she stay? Did you have kids 7 years ago? I think you two need to sit down and have a long chat. From what you say, your wife just can't get over the fact you cheated on her. is there any love left in your relationship? Or is the only reason you're staying together the kids? If you two want to have any sort of romance/love, she's going to have to stop mentioning the affair every chance she gets. It's become so easy for her to mention it, cuz once she does, she usually wins the argument right? Tell her if she wants to have any kind of happy relationship between the two of you, she needs to stop mentioning it all the time. I mean 7 years is a LONG time... I think she's only mentioning it all the time because 1) she despises you, and has not forgiven you yet 2) she uses it to win her arguments 3) she's really hurt, and it's something that bothers her every day of her life.
  7. don't over analyze the situation. you'll only create doubt in your mind, and it will show in your relationship. if you have nothing other than this to base your accusations on, i don't think they are justified. it could be he just likes to mix it up, and being dark adds more erotism for him
  8. slip some viagra into his coffee but yes, male sex drive does go down as we age i hope i'm 50 or 60 before that happens to me
  9. i like slow r&b music. artists like babyface, boys2men, usher, janet jackson, mariah carey
  10. well you are taking money away from her. maybe she only sells once in awhile because people don't buy that much at your office. is there anywhere else you can start selling your products.... or even sell different things?
  11. The best thing for you, and the worst thing for him right now, is for you to ignore everything he does.. completely. If he stalks you, go to a public place and pretend he doesn't exist. If he doesn't stop, get a court order. NO JOKE. Stalkers are really creepy, you never know what's going throught their minds. for all you know, if he sees another opportunity, he might even try to rape you and dominate you again. Please be very careful. If he spreads rumors around, and tells all his friends/your friends, I'd ignore it. It's something you did, and you probably will have to live with it while you're still going to school together. But school ends, and life goes on. He's like your bully now, and like all bullies, they crave attention above all else. Depending on how stubborn he is, he might keep persisting relentlessly, but if you ALWAYS and always ignore him, he could lose interest eventually. Take care of yourself, and I'm glad to hear you're taking steps to correct what you did. He's definitely not worth it. other than his parent's money, he doesn't have much left. i pity him
  12. wow... are u sure you want to be with a woman like that? maybe i'm not as open as everyone else, but doesn't this seem extremely inappropriate? Her ex doesn't know she's playing around with him. She's sleeping with other men willingly. You're encouraging her to do all this. ??? what if the tables were turned and she did the same to you one day. man i'd probably be arrested for assault.
  13. so why are you with her? and yes i believe restraining someone without their consent is considered abuse.
  14. That's strange... why is she so afraid of you cheating on her? Is there something in her past that would make her so insecure? maybe something you did, or a previous relationship? Let her cool off for a bit, and tell her you need to talk things through. she doesn't trust you at all... and if you've been together for 3 years, there should be a solid trust unless something's broken it. i'd reason with her, and tell her that there's nothing to worry about. But you can't have her accusing you of cheating, when a bunch of stuff was just stolen from you...
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