amylyn930

I have considered basically the same things as you have said. And I have been looking deep inside. I get attention from so many people so I really dont think that it is attention.. and we are still friends and talk so still get emotional support from him and other things that most people in the situation you mentioned would get. But I know that I am still in love with him... I know that its more then just a comfort thing.. more then attention... its a strong feeling of love.. like we used to have.. and its a feeling that I dont want to have with anybody else... and after living my life without him for about 6 months.. I realized that I cant do it without him.. I cant date other guys because deep inside I think it wouldnt be fair for me to date you.. i still love him.. but I would just push that feeling away and keep being free and meeting new people.. but never able to get close to anybody else.. because i just think about him.. and compare them to him.. when we first broke up i still pictued our future together.. but I figured it was just because I never pictuered anything else... But even after being broken up.. and after having "crushes" and little "flings"... I still picture the future with him... and only him.. and I cant picture my life any other way...

Last August I broke up with my boyfriend of three years because I wanted freedom. And while doing so I was a total and didnt treat him how he deserved to be treated. We spent the summer apart and during that summer I had a lot of fun meeting new people and hanging out. As the summer moved on I started feeling very distant from my boyfriend, and when the summer ended and we started living together again I was hoping the feelings would come back...and it didn't and I just felt my self being very distant and wanting to be free. So I talked to him about it and told him that I want to break up. He was torn and I guess in my head I already accepted it and didnt really feel that upset. Which only hurt him worse. He would be on our bathroom floor crying and basically making himself sick because he was so upset and I would tell him to stop and to be quiet because I was trying to goto sleep... How could I have been so cold? He eventually moved out. We had our ups and our downs in the past few months since then. We had random hook-ups, lots of fights, dinners, talks, movies, hanging out time. In a way its like we havent tottaly broken up because we havent successfully hung out without acting like "just friends" Over the past few months I would get upset and miss him and I would think I was sitll in love with him.. and I would tell him.. then a week would go by and I would be distant from him again.. I drove him crazy.. I would confuse him... and manipulate him.. without even really knowing I was doing it.. but when I look back on it.. I cant believe it... The past few weeks I have really been missing him. It feels a lot different then in the past when I would tell him things and then change my mind the next day. This is way different... I can feel this in my heart..not just my head playing games. We hung out last weekend.. and now he's the one "falling out of love" and "doesnt know how he feels anymore" and he's the one being a jerk and cold... And I tottally deserve it... I have been an emotional wreck... last night I barely slept and kept having nightmares.. I woke up at four this morning and couldnt fall back asleep and I just kept crying and thinking about him.. every minute I think about him... I constantlly look at my phone in hopes he would call or send a text message... and if he does butterflies fill my stomach... I havent felt this feeling in a long time with him... He said I have a lot to change about myself before we can ever even begin to fix things... and I know that this is true. I have a lot to make up for... but where do I start? How do I learn to apperciate life... How do I learn to not be so stressed out ALLLL the time? How do I learn to stop rushing life and to be able to enjoy it? How do I make it up to him? How do I prove to him that I am serious this time... and that he is the only person I will ever care about? Please... any advice will be good...:sad:

well usually people dont go strait to sex.. they mess around for a while to get in the mood and stuff. The guy will probally touch you down there for a while and then put his fingers inside, while doing that you would stroke his member as well getting it hard and stuff, while his goal would be to get you wet (which is needed for lubrication) this may lead to oral or it could go strait to sex. There are many different postions which all feel different, you kinda just move, experiment, and go with it. Tell the other person what feels good and what doesnt for the best pleasure. Watching porn would give a good idea of what goes on and stuff but I must include fourteen is very young to be getting involved in anything sexual activity and I hope that this will help with your curiosity for a while until your a bit older to start doing the real thing!

I am trying to make a decision if I should transfer schools or not. Right now I am at Auburn University and I worked my butt off to get in. I am trying to get a really good GPA and get involved, and take advantage of every opportunity that comes my way. But since I am originally from Florida I am paying out of state tuition and it's really going to kill me. I am taking out loans to pay for EVERYTHING! Rent, Cable, Other Bills, Tuition, etc. If I were to stay at Auburn I would graduate with over $70,000 in loans just for a degree in early childhood education. So lately I have been thinking about going back to Florida to go to school. I think I would move to Gainesville and go to school at UF. But being that I would want to transfer next semester, its too late to get in to UF, so I would move there and go to the community college (which feels like I am going down a level) and then I would hope that I get into UF. If I did that I would save over 60,000$ in loans… and that is huge amount of money to not owe to anyone for the same degree. I just don't want to regret anything.. I mean once I go to G-vile there would be no way I could come back to Auburn if I hated it there, or if I didn't get into Auburn. There are many pros and cons to both sides, the main issue is money though. What I basically need to know is if money should be a reason to not stay in Auburn and get the Auburn experience or if money is a huge deal and it would be smarter for me to go back to Florida. I want to know if people look back at their college years and are glad for every penny spent for them or if they wish they went a cheaper route.. or what… how will my decision effect my life in the future. What would you do, what is the smarter decision?? Any advice or life stories would be awesome...

find someone willing to experiment

First of all, their are a lot of virgins that are 20 years old and above. Next, why have you never had sex? Was the oppertunity not their? Do you feel uncomfortable to have sex? I would say just experiment with both girls and guys and see how you feel.

It was the key to open the secret door. Emotions poured out As if it were gallons of water Flowing everywhere with nowhere to go But straight. She did everything she could To put the wall back up To fake it; to pretend That everything was okay But inside she knew, That she could no longer hold them in. She had lost the battle With nowhere to go, Nowhere to hide, Nowhere to run, Nowhere to go But straight. tell me what you think

sooo what do you do about it? lol

I have been having a lot of emotion problems lately. Basically.. I dont feel any negitive feelings at all. Let me explain some... One of my friends helped me to figure this much out... I guess while I was younger my emotions and feelings were never treated that good... whenever i tried to express myself or let negitive emotions out... i got in trouble, yelled at, or something. Eventually it turned into me crying myself to sleep everynight when I was younger... and I would hide them from people and not talk to people about my emotions. So now I continue to block negitive emotions... but its starting to get really bad. I can not feel ANYTHING no matter what I do lately. I've been trying to make myself cry or something just so I can feel something... but I cant. I've been trying to watch sad movies...listening to sad music... thinking of sad things... but i just sit their. Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend of three years... because i cant feel. I cant even tell if i love him anymore.... ive been nothing but a cold hearted {Mod Edit} to him and I feel no regret, guilt, sadness, anything that i should be feeling... this is really starting to get out of hand... I guess i am just wondering if anybody has any advice... any websites... any way to get my feelings back or something... please help

how old should two people be before they get married?? how long should people be together before they get married??

I was wondering what different peoples opinions on eloping is. ALso, if there is anyone out there who has eloped what is your story? Do you have any regrets about it? What are the pros and cons of eloping. Also how does one go about eloping? Any information, stories, opinions, etc would be great!

There are other things going on in my life, such as work and school but in no way do I feel overly stressed or depressed. That's why I really don't understand. When we do attempt to try something new, etc. It just doesnt feel as good as it used to, and I find myself getting bored and impatient. I understand he has needs, and I try to give him some pleassure every now and then... but it's not the same.. and I am mostly doing it because I feel bad... I dont know anymore?

My boyfriend and I had a 3some with my best friend... and it was great fun! It happened last October and there are no regrets... we laugh about it.. and it brought us closer in a way.. I dont think we would ever do it again.. but it was a good experience

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years now! We have a great relationship... almost perfect. A lot of our friends envy us. When we first started dating we had a great sex life too... sometimes we would have it 8 times in one day! We would do it anywhere and everywhere...it was so addicting... over the years my sex drive has gone down. I don't ever crave it like I used to… He wants it all the time, he tries everything, and I always have a new excuse.. "I'm Tired" "I have to much to do right now" "I don't feel like getting dirty" "I don't feel like having to clean up afterwards" "I don't want to get anything on my expensive comforter" "I just don't feel like it" This has been going on for about the past 9 months… and I keep saying things will get better… but I am starting to realize they aren't… In all honestly I feel like sex isn't that important to keep a relationship alive.. I feel like it's a gross procedure… and a hassle. I know that I really shouldn't feel this way about sex… but it's true A few months ago we started using a vibrator… and I enjoyed it… for a few months (when we lived about 8 hours away from each other) I would sometimes start to miss sex and I would use the vibrator and it really turned me on… but it still didn't make me crave and want sex like I used to. Now we are living together and have been for the past 5 months and we had sex ONE time… we have done foreplay maybe like THREE times… in 5 months!!! That's crazy! Last night was one of the third foreplay times and it really didn't feel like it used to… It only felt good when he did stuff to my clitoris and that was it… He thinks that my vibrating months killed some of my nerve endings and that I will never be able to enjoy it like I used to… and he is really depressed about that.. SO I guess I have 2 questions… 1) Is it possible for a vibrator to kill nerve endings or something like that? …and 2… 2) Where did my want for sex go?? Any help would be great!

I think that it takes a lot to say what you just said and to accept full responsibility! By saying that it shows that you are more ready for this child then some people who are 40 and have kids! As long as you are willing to give it a loving and secure environment and to love it then why not? Yes it is going to be hard.. but everything in life is.. and it was obviosuly meant to happen and this child will teach you so much about life, and about yourself. And I think that it is a blessing that you will be able to experience this and know about this when so many other people don't. Once she is born you won't be able to picture your life without her.. so don't let what other people tell you... just love her and be happy.. because there is nothing you can do stop her from coming now.. and it's better to be happy and okay with it then to let her come into the world hated! Good Luck to ya!