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I had to end things, but she doesn't want to leave now so I guess I have to go the eviction road. Long story short, she has borderline personality disorder but really crossed the line with a death threat and other things. I can never trust this person again.

I think you guys are right, had to make sure I wasn't the crazy one.

This is my thought too that i expressed as she's had real trouble getting over her last relationship even though logically she says it's over, but she's still there emotionally. I want someone fully devoted to me like I am to them and I take marriage as a life commitment.

Been dating this girl for close to 1 year, she moved in my place 3 months ago. She was supposed to just stay with me 1-2 months but her nation's border shutdown. She doesn't have a work visa so she can't work. So, it may take a year for her to be able to work or we talked about marriage possibly to make the process quicker. Some red flags are that I pay for everything financially now and I own a condo but it's not paid off. She said a pre-nup where I can keep ownership of my place until we officially buy a house together makes her feel like I'm scared and selfish to get married. She also said if her ex who is very rich wanted to apologize and want a family with her, then she would leave me for him. Her future is not settled but she says she is ready to settle with someone. This came up last week and today she's kind of pressuring me like saying she doesn't want to waste time in a relationship without a goal. And, she says what difference does it make getting married now or a year from now. I want to get married one day but I feel it is too soon to give everything up for her now because it is most convenient for her work status. I also want us to be in a better place together financially beforehand and give a proper wedding. I let her know how I feel about things but she still wants to get married in the very near future and I don't want to regret something.

I think you guys are right. Some things shouldn't be forced and are not meant to be. She messaged me this morning wanting to exchange all our things today. So I accept this is truly the end.

I had a previous thread on the first time she dumped me. She eventually said it was because I'm not honest with my feelings. Which was true as I was putting her feelings in front of mine because I was scared of losing her. She appreciated when I opened up my feelings and we got back together. It's not a big deal to me but she also did not want to label us BF/GF even though we were exclusive, she said that's a big deal to her and didn't like me introducing her as my GF to a friend or tagging her on social media. I think she is Narcissistic. One of my problems is projecting my feelings on someone. Like for some reason she picked up a snail at my place and made it her pet for a couple days. My dog knocked over her little cage a few days ago and everything spilled on the floor when she was at school. I released her snail outside. She was upset that I did that without checking with her as stuff that might mean nothing to me did not mean it would be nothing to her.

My 5 month GF broke up with me suddenly 4 weeks ago, and 2 weeks ago she reached out and we moved pretty fast and were with each other 10 days until Wednesday. Thursday I tried reaching out because I wanted to see her again and she said things were moving pretty fast and she needs time to think. Today she reached out and wanted to meet for a drink. I felt a breakup coming because she said she wants to talk about us and to meet her at a nice bar instead of me picking her up on the way and for me to be mentally prepared. She basically said how a lot of my behavior made her feel uncared for and that we are two different people and doesn't think she could be with someone like me as our standards are different. She is easily the most entitled person I have ever met, but she has improved herself over time. I tried being understanding with what she had to say, but I think we also have a language barrier issue since she started learning English 4 years ago and I think she took what I said the wrong way. I drove her home after and she said she felt our meeting was a waste of time like nothing changed. I said earlier that my behavior is something I have to work on my own. I am also seeing a therapist for the first time next week to help with myself. She got in a heated conversation with me and expected me to say that I will change for her when we were back at the bar, she seemed to think that working on myself on my own didn't mean I would change for the better for her. We talked for a bit more in the car about our misunderstandings and said our goodbyes. Neither of us want a toxic relationship and I am all for positive change, but I know it takes time. Our pasts are very different and I accept her. I still want to try to compromise and make it work, but I also don't want to force it. She is a very special person to me that I never fully gave my heart to because of pain in my last relationship. I can accept if we are not meant to be, but I still am not ready to give up. I feel really confused at what I should do.

Not the case for us. I don't want to do it on her period but she doesn't mind. I didn't know until after since it was dark. We're pretty active outside of her period days, usually we do it 2-4 times a day we are with each other.

Thank you everyone. I really had to take a step back and see how poorly I've been treated. I have been really blinded because I've never connected physically with anyone better. I just let things slide too much and lie to her and myself by being silent, then our issues seem to all manifest at once. You're all right, I have been too nice and a doormat. I don't plan on reaching out to her anymore, but I do have things we need to exchange as my laptop is at her place.

I know what you mean. She's foreign and her culture is very different where the men always take the lead and treat women well, but I shouldn't let it get to the point where she doesn't have respect for me. She was staying at my apartment that time and didn't have a jacket with her.

She's 28, foreign, and grew up in a wealthy family and always had rich boyfriends in her past, she's self-proclaimed spoiled and has been working on that. Last time she was upset was a couple weeks ago I forgot to bring a jacket for her to a restaurant that was too cold for her and she eventually got to where she said she needs space for a couple days to review our relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been together about 4.5 months and we just got back from our first trip together a few days ago, which things went great. I left her place Sunday morning to mine as I needed to take care of my dog and things (we live 45 mins away). We had great sex that morning but she also just started her period that morning and she called me 2 hours after I was back at my place to complain about her really painful period cramps. I wanted to comfort her so I went to go see her and for her to let me know anything she would need on the way. I found 2 of the 3 three items for her, as the third was sold out, as well as some food to cook. She was lukewarm when I got to her place as I didn't bring her third item and I got food to cook that she didn't really want. Things just kept going downhill. I walked a few blocks to the restaurant that had pumpkin cake she was craving, they didn't have it and I knew she wanted something sweet so I got her a brownie. She was upset that I got her something that I like and not something she wanted. We tried looking for dessert places open and we started driving to another place 20minutes away. She was really irritable in the car complaining about me not washing the inside and to cut in front of another driver, but I just stayed silent to avoid any further conflict. When we got to the place she didn't want to get out and wanted to go back home saying there was nothing I could do for her now and just to drop her off. I felt really bad at my failed effort to comfort her and apologized over text that night. Today she responded and didn't take my apology well and brought up other issues. I tried addressing what she was upset with, but then she said she had enough and said she can't see herself continuing the relationship with me. This is my first time seeing her on a bad day for her like this and I know I did everything wrong. I'm really falling for this girl and don't want to lose her, but it seemed like she just gave up on us in 1 day and thinks I always do things against her.