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  1. To be fair, I do get a good amount of time with them (most weekends and one other night a week) but it's just the times that I don't have them, such as this weekend, I don't have any other kind of social life it seems. I'd love to meet someone and be able to have that company and find love, but I've been alone for 3 years and can't ever see that changing! Being alone for an entire weekend with my thoughts and not a single person to see or speak too is such a horrible feeling!
  2. Hello. Firstly, I apologize if I've posted this in the wrong forum! I'm a divorced (2 years ago), single 31 year old guy, with two beautiful daughters (aged 4 and 7). After taking my ex wife through court etc to get a better routine with the children (she stopped me seeing them, for absolutely no reason other than to spite me) I have them three weekends in four and every Wednesday night. This is the weekend where I don't have them. They have gone away for a long weekend with their mum and her partner (who she met and moved in with, within 2 months of leaving me). I hate these weekends alone though, as they bring out my low, depressed and immensely unhappy moods! I don't have a massive number of friends (only 3 or 4 that I see) but they all have their own lives to live so seeing any of them is a rare occurrence. I woke up this morning knowing that I won't speak to another person until I get back to work on Monday morning. I've tried meeting people on dating sites etc and never get a match and I'm just feeling more and more lonely as the days, weeks and months go on. I love my children so much and would not be here if it wasn't for them, but I feel like I need my own life at the same time, I'd love to have someone in my life to spend time with and to talk too, but I can never seem to find that person! I hate these lonely feelings and just wondered what other people do when they are all alone and literally have nobody to see or talk too?!
  3. Unfortunately I've never really had many female friends, so can't really ask anyone to go over my profile! I would join groups etc, but I'm usually either wirki g or with my children, so don't have that much time for groups etc, plus I'm shy in groups of people that I don't know!
  4. Don't get me wrong, the car and job thing isn't a deal breaker, far from it. But it's just having those two things does make that person seem more responsible, makes it easier for her to come to mine other than it always being down to me to go to hers and makes that person seem more attractive in my eyes. I'd happily date a girl without a job etc, but having a job just makes them a little more interesting to me. I would love to join clubs etc, but I work full time and have two children half the week, so things like that are quite difficult to fit in!
  5. As I said, it's only online that I manage to meet people! And I never get any one who matches with me, it's always a very rare moment. Normally the only women that match with me have been the ones that don't work, don't drive, would rather sit at home all day every day, etc. This last girl was honestly the only person I've ever met who had a job, a car, aspirations for the future, she is beautiful. I'm not good looking, so I don't exactly have a good head start on the dating scene! I don't know how to attract more "suitable" people haha, I've always struggled with meeting people!
  6. I think deep down, the problem is within myself. I do t get to meet many new people, I'm fairly shy and nervous at times and the only way I ever meet someone new is on dating apps etc. It's very rare for me to meet anybody and when I do meet someone, they're usually not right for me so I only go on one date or so with them and realise they aren't right. This most recent girl felt different, she did seem to take an interest in me, she was phoning me every day before we had the misunderstanding, she came to mine and I went to hers, we laughed and got on really well and we're getting really close. She's beautiful, hard working with a really interesting job, she drives. I've never met anyone with all those qualities before. Now that's all gone and I'm back to square one of being alone etc, I just don't see myself ever meeting anybody again with those same qualities and outlooks that she has. In the last two or three years of trying to date people, she's the first one to have a job and be able drive, which doesn't sound like much, but it means I wasn't always expected to pay for everything, she could come round mine instead of me always having to go to hers and it just seemed like a much happier balance than I've been used too! I hope I'm wrong, but I can't see someone like that coming into my life again, for a very long time as I've not met anyone else like that in the last 3 years!!!
  7. So this all happened over a week ago now. I phoned her last Monday, and we spoke for a little while. She said she does like me but wasn't sure if she wanted to continue dating because the whole thing went wrong with my comment about the bed, even though the way she took it is definitely not what I meant! She told me she was going to think about meeting me again but it wouldn't be last week just gone as she was busy every night. I've not heard from her all week. I messaged her tonight, just saying that I hope she's well, hope she's had a good week etc and that I was still hoping to meet her if she would like too. I told her that I really like her and was ever so sorry for hurting her etc and wanted to try and put it all behind us. She read the message (it was on WhatsApp), ignored it and half an hour later I got a notification to say she had logged into her dating app (for 5he first time since we first started talking). She hasn't even told me that she doesn't want to meet, after she told me she would think about it and let me know. It's really hurt, I can't stop thinking about her as she honestly seemed to be everything that I was looking for!
  8. Well I decided to try and call her. It rang a few times then she rejected the call, so now I know for certain that it's all over!
  9. I think it's because she was totally different to anyone else I've dated over the last two years. She has a really good, responsible job, she drives, she is beautiful, funny, kind, caring and just made me smile and laugh all the time I was with her. She seemed really keen on me, and just made me happier than anybody else has. I felt stronger feelings for her than I did for my ex wife at this stage! Think this will end up being a big regret of mine to be honest!
  10. I do see what you're saying, and it does give off slight "red flag vibes" with how she's reacted! But at the same time, I do really like her and really enjoyed spending time with her and don't want that to end (although I'm certain it already has). It's hard to explain, but I felt something for her straight away, which I haven't felt with anyone else before!
  11. The thing is, I was round hers on Tuesday evening for a few hours, and she was saying how happy she was to have met me etc, she was kissing and cuddling me constantly and seemed really keen on me. It's my birthday next Friday and she was even saying about how we should try and get baby sitters that evening so we can go out etc. So she went from seeming to be very keen, to now not wanting to know me, just because of one totally innocent message. It's really upset me to be honest!
  12. Theres a bit of bad blood between the dad and her. He is quite an absent father, doesn't seem to want much to do with the boy. He is with a different woman now and they've got a child together. When the boy goes over to see them, he gets ignored by his dad and his partner and they focus all energy on the other child, sometimes they even forget to feed the boy! So he doesn't see him very often. I just really want to talk to her, even if it went badly for me and she told me she doesn't want to speak to me again, then atleast it's 4hen confirmed and I can try and draw a line under it, but just being ignored and not hearing anything from her at all makes it feel worse
  13. I really want to call her later tonight and see if we can talk and sort it out, but as she's ignored both the messages I've sent since Friday (one yesterday morning and the other in the evening) I'm not so sure if that'd be a good idea! But At the same time, I really want to know what made her react the way she did and if there's any way if getting around it!! I'll be honest, I don't actually think I said about her bed bring broken, I think I said something more along the lines of "oh, that's a funny time to be going out to getting a new bed, I didn't even realise you needed one haha, that's a funny acquisition" or something, in a voice note, and I didn't say it in a serious, questioning way or anything. The fact she's not really let me explain myself either is quite upsetting. I want to phone her later (in the evening as it's mother's day today here in the UK so she's probably busy with her boy at the minute) but really don't know if I should or not. But if I don't, then I know 100% we'll never speak again, so I don't really have anything to lose in trying, right?!
  14. I wish I knew exactly what it was that I was supposed to have said! So she sent me a voice note (she sends them quite often instead of texting etc) on Friday evening, at about 8pm, to say she'd just been out to buy a new bed. I sent one back, just saying that that was a random decision to suddenly go out at that time to get a bed, and asked if hers was broken or anything (I'd never been in her bedroom). She sent one back saying that the bed was for her son, and that I was making wrong assumptions about her and was "out of order"for saying what I did, but I literally jokingly said it was a random acquisition to make at 8pm on a Friday evening. But by me saying it was a random acquisition, that got her all riled up and lead to us now not talking! I really don't understand what I've done wrong! It's so annoying though, as I really did like her and was excited to see how we were going to go in the next few weeks and months!
  15. Hello. I'm 30 years old and a divorced dad of 2 girls. My marriage ended a couple of years ago and the divorce was finalized this time roughly, last year. I've had a couple of dates etc in 5he time since we split up, but none of the girls I've dated have really been right for me. However, about a month ago, I started talking to someone online. We soon met up and started dating (she's a mum so most of the dates we had were just chilled evenings at hers while her boy was in bed etc, although we went out a couple of separate days which was nice. She's beautiful, funny, kind, hardworking and I really did like her. Things were going great until this Friday just gone she messaged me about her day, I replied and she somehow took my messages completely in the wrong context (not that I thought there was any way of taking what I said in the wrong context, it was just a normal message that I sent!). We ended up having an argument and I've not heard from her since then. I've messaged her a couple of times but she's ignored them and so it's now all over between us. The thing is, even though we'd only been dating a few weeks, I really do like her and was actually really excited to see how we would go on in the future. So now I'm really cut up and can't stop thinking about what might have been. I do t get to meet many people as I work full time plus have the girls with me half the week (including most weekends), so when I do meet someone (which is always on dating sites etc) it's quite a rare experience, and even more rare to find someone I like as much as I liked this girl! I feel stupid for feeling like this after just a few dates and weeks if knowing someone!!
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