It's abuse to keep you down a notch/in your place. Some use small comments, some use manipulation/gaslighting, and some cases use physical abuse...even tho it's small non life threatening things, he's doing it to control you along with gaslighting to deflect what he is doing. He's being a bully. That's what abusers do....in larger aspects of the relationship it's good to keep you hooked/obligated while they get away with doing those things to you. They make sure that you feel guilty if you call them out on their behavior or try to leave. he's trying to pound down your self esteam...to keep you where he wants you...dependent/in love with him. It's a mental sickness. Over time it can escalate to violence. Since you have been calling him out on it, his defense is going to his family, making them believe it you that's being abusive, to hold up an innocent persona...playing the victim. he's becoming a dangerous guy OP. You need to quietly escape, find a safe place to get away from him. And when you do, do not have any kind of communication with him. He will pull out the guns on you, and become such a problem in your life.