smackie9

It's good that you got your proof, and don't have to waste another minute of your time. Hope you find peace and happiness.

He's obviously getting crabby about not having quality time with you. So try and make time for each other and this will all go away.

OK so you have insecurities, but you shouldn't make it his problem too. He is young and wants to go out with his friends, but won't listen to your command. So this is incompatibility. You are denying him to enjoy some time outside the relationship and that isn't fair. He lies to you about it and that's not fair to you. You have a problem with that so stop dating each other...you are not a match. Set him free.

Try a different way to cope, instead of stonewalling, walk away for 20 mins, then circle back refreshed and relaxed.

Block/delete their number. Stop stalking their SM. Find other things to do with your time. Go for a walk, go pet a dog something that is positive.

So you are saying this has been going on for a year?? I think it opened Pandora's box with your GF....anyone that is triggered that bad over something like that, is already a very insecure person. No matter what you say, she's gonna keep looking through your phone and question your every move. The right thing to do is to end this relationship.

You are being obsessive and it's making you look ridiculous. If a guy came up to you out of the blue and said those things to you what would you think? Get yourself together here, and slow your roll. Was it a rejection...It's possible. Anyways what were you expecting? Him running into your arms? No of course not. Guys don't like girls throwing themselves at them. They do like a little bit of a challenge. Just saying...when a guy is really interested in you he will ask you out. Leave it at that in future.

I say do a trial separation for one year and see how you both feel. IMO it's better to separate for the kids sake, because what kid wants to live in a hostile household with angry disagreeing parents. That's no way to live. You are teaching your kids it's normal relationship behavior to be fighting and screaming at each other. That's way worse than separating.

Don't use them. Maybe at one time they were useful, but now these app have eroded. Time to get back to basics and meet people irl, organically by having a good social circle/network to go out and do things outside of your phone screen.

Could a rebound kinda deal.

So she's upset over some leg incident yet she's letting this ex lover stay at her place. Time to revisit the conversation again about setting boundaries. You may have to end this relationship because if the rules won't go both ways then it's doomed anyways.

I found this on reddit: You can see there are different shades of "having game" negative to positive

The term "having game" is open to interpretation. Commonly people know it as a way to manipulate women. But you can also look at it as understanding the women psyche well and being able to present yourself in a way that attracts them. It's not manipulation, it's just understanding attraction. And BTW women do it too knowing that men are visual creatures, they will attract with their body language, with dressing up, putting on nice heels, certain perfumes, etc. Just that men do it differently because women are stimulated emotionally which is more difficult to navigate.

If you start believing all that stuff, you will be even more alone and be stuck in a deep dark pit of self pity. Confidence is what women/girls are attracted to so stop being a sorry sap on the sidelines blaming other guys for your lack of game. You change your attitude, you will change your world, and how the world perceives you.

He had two personalities going on here...the one that walked you to work, the other a womanizer. Sleeping with someone else behind your back is a selfish, self entitled act. Blaming you was all done to make you feel bad for something he was responsible for. I agree he had the choice to end it before sleeping with someone else. That's pretty pathetic. I agree too you hung on because you loved the good part of the relationship...it was so tough to let go even tho it was time to end it. We all have made this choice. Let the lesson be learned, and let it go.