smackie9

Let her walk away.

You just made a simple choice to adjust to your new situation. Not sure why there is anxiety surround this. My guess you are anxious about you investing so such in someone you haven't met yet. Yes you need to slow your roll before you end up completely disappointed. Dating is a crap shoot...always a gamble, but life would be boring if we didn't take risks. Whatever happens, like things don't work out...so what, The sun rises and sets, life goes on.

You just simply don't accept her answer and tell her that. If it comes down to it, give her an ultimatum.

It's good that you got your proof, and don't have to waste another minute of your time. Hope you find peace and happiness.

He's obviously getting crabby about not having quality time with you. So try and make time for each other and this will all go away.

OK so you have insecurities, but you shouldn't make it his problem too. He is young and wants to go out with his friends, but won't listen to your command. So this is incompatibility. You are denying him to enjoy some time outside the relationship and that isn't fair. He lies to you about it and that's not fair to you. You have a problem with that so stop dating each other...you are not a match. Set him free.

Try a different way to cope, instead of stonewalling, walk away for 20 mins, then circle back refreshed and relaxed.

Block/delete their number. Stop stalking their SM. Find other things to do with your time. Go for a walk, go pet a dog something that is positive.

So you are saying this has been going on for a year?? I think it opened Pandora's box with your GF....anyone that is triggered that bad over something like that, is already a very insecure person. No matter what you say, she's gonna keep looking through your phone and question your every move. The right thing to do is to end this relationship.

You are being obsessive and it's making you look ridiculous. If a guy came up to you out of the blue and said those things to you what would you think? Get yourself together here, and slow your roll. Was it a rejection...It's possible. Anyways what were you expecting? Him running into your arms? No of course not. Guys don't like girls throwing themselves at them. They do like a little bit of a challenge. Just saying...when a guy is really interested in you he will ask you out. Leave it at that in future.

I say do a trial separation for one year and see how you both feel. IMO it's better to separate for the kids sake, because what kid wants to live in a hostile household with angry disagreeing parents. That's no way to live. You are teaching your kids it's normal relationship behavior to be fighting and screaming at each other. That's way worse than separating.

Don't use them. Maybe at one time they were useful, but now these app have eroded. Time to get back to basics and meet people irl, organically by having a good social circle/network to go out and do things outside of your phone screen.

Could a rebound kinda deal.

So she's upset over some leg incident yet she's letting this ex lover stay at her place. Time to revisit the conversation again about setting boundaries. You may have to end this relationship because if the rules won't go both ways then it's doomed anyways.

I found this on reddit: You can see there are different shades of "having game" negative to positive