smackie9

I say do a trial separation for one year and see how you both feel. IMO it's better to separate for the kids sake, because what kid wants to live in a hostile household with angry disagreeing parents. That's no way to live. You are teaching your kids it's normal relationship behavior to be fighting and screaming at each other. That's way worse than separating.

Don't use them. Maybe at one time they were useful, but now these app have eroded. Time to get back to basics and meet people irl, organically by having a good social circle/network to go out and do things outside of your phone screen.

Could a rebound kinda deal.

So she's upset over some leg incident yet she's letting this ex lover stay at her place. Time to revisit the conversation again about setting boundaries. You may have to end this relationship because if the rules won't go both ways then it's doomed anyways.

I found this on reddit: You can see there are different shades of "having game" negative to positive

The term "having game" is open to interpretation. Commonly people know it as a way to manipulate women. But you can also look at it as understanding the women psyche well and being able to present yourself in a way that attracts them. It's not manipulation, it's just understanding attraction. And BTW women do it too knowing that men are visual creatures, they will attract with their body language, with dressing up, putting on nice heels, certain perfumes, etc. Just that men do it differently because women are stimulated emotionally which is more difficult to navigate.

If you start believing all that stuff, you will be even more alone and be stuck in a deep dark pit of self pity. Confidence is what women/girls are attracted to so stop being a sorry sap on the sidelines blaming other guys for your lack of game. You change your attitude, you will change your world, and how the world perceives you.

He had two personalities going on here...the one that walked you to work, the other a womanizer. Sleeping with someone else behind your back is a selfish, self entitled act. Blaming you was all done to make you feel bad for something he was responsible for. I agree he had the choice to end it before sleeping with someone else. That's pretty pathetic. I agree too you hung on because you loved the good part of the relationship...it was so tough to let go even tho it was time to end it. We all have made this choice. Let the lesson be learned, and let it go.

Maybe he just sucks at interacting with women he's interested in. And yes some people are more into talking than listening ...doesn't always mean they are full of themselves but it's how they cope socially. I say if you enjoy his company just keep at it and see where it takes you. Really is there any harm in that?

This dude is shady as $%^&.

Ask her if she wants to hang out with you and your friends.

If gets angry and shuts you down, then he is wanting something, but you will have to ask him, what does he want, and what kind of support does he feels is needed. Let him talk and work through it. You say "Ok so you want this to happen...what is your plan to reach this goal? maybe I can make a suggestion.....""maybe you need to do this as a first step to get this goal." I think his deal is that he's afraid of failure. His confidence is low...threatening to kill himself just could be a way of him having a tantrum because this is not what he wants. I believe he knows what he has to do, he's just pouting hard about it.

This is all on him....he has to figure it out. I agree being a pharmacist is what's going to pay the bills. He doesn't have to give up on his love for training, he can do that part time. Once he starts making money, he can get a place that has a garage which he can convert into a gym. Not sure why he would feel so defeated. Maybe he just needs some medical attention, and some therapy to get him confident enough to meet his goals and have a happy life. Tell him he doesn't have to be a pharmacist forever...he can work it until he can build a successful business doing what he loves. Many famous people started out as teachers or carpenters to pay the bills while they pursued there dreams

omg you both are grown a$$ adults here. You both kissed because it felt right....it's just kissing, no big deal. I think you are getting the message wrong here. My POV is that it was surprising, but exciting, and she just didn't want to give you the impression she's easy, and was concerned that's what you were going for. You guys hit it off really well. Take it and run with it. It was a positive experience. You should of responded with "It felt right. I haven't hit it off this well with anyone since my divorce. I hope we can meet again and get to know one another better. I had such a great time with you." IMO apologizing made you look guilty. There was nothing to apologize for.

Well same thing....you thought by her being overly nice she was interested in you, and after she found out you were interested, she assumed all that time you were being nice you had an ulterior motive doing so. It's all about perception. You read her wrong, but to no fault of your own. It doesn't matter if she gave you signals or not...if you like someone you just simply ask them out regardless. Saves a lot of grief doing things that way. BTW a come on is the same as hitting on. It's an old skool phrase.