LoveLife8888

Interesting that you would put your first name and her first name down. And where might you live? I am in a situation but reversed from yours. The guy I have been seeing is acting bizarre. Things started going weird after he made a verbal commitment to me where: we were one on one in all ways, but 2 weeks after that all went weird. I call him more than he calls me (lately anyways). I have not heard from him for 1 week and 1 day as of today. Why I ask??? Someone told me because he is not thinking about me and is selfish. I left a phone message and email for him a week and 1 day ago yesterday and have yet to hear from him. My friends (female) say wait for him to call me because its HIS turn.

Hopefully this will help anyone who has never experienced these things. This is the first time in my lifetime these senerios have ever happeneded. I am not used to it. No he lives in my hometown which is west of Brampton, but I was trying to say that someone can go online and put in a postal code from Mississauga say and the profile on any of the sites would say that that person lived in Mississauga, when really they lived in Acton (using as an example). Internet dating speeds the process up of meeting people but I say quality is very important in a person

that he had taken it off the site and I checked and I don't see it, but you don';t know, he might now have it up and saying he lives in Brampton or Mississauga and not the same town we live in close to those 2 places in Ontario Canada. He might have met a bunch of us and does not need it now. And has like 3 or 4 girlfriends to fall back on when one does not work out. He said he has a friend (might be that he is really talking about himself) who had a rich gf that gave the guy lots of sex and after 7 yrs of being together the amt. of sex slowed down, so the guy dropped her and went out with his other 2 gf's he had along with her all those 7 yrs. This guy I am (or rather soon might not be seeing) seeing said in the early 90's his wife left him for his brother, and that she had been seeing his brother for quite some time before he found out about it. So maybe he has decided to have more that one gf so that if he loses one he has others to fall back on. Last week I said come for dinner to my house wed. nite, which he usually did. He said he could not because he had to do work at a tv studio in Peterboro, so I thought great, now is my opportunity to say Sat. nite instead. Well he called me back the same nite and said he was now going to the tv studio on Tuesday and would be back Tues. nite, but I was not feeling good anyways so I said Wed was no good, Sat. was still a go, BUT he said he could not Sat. nite because he was getting this package he had to work all Sat. sat nite and Sunday on to get a presentation ready for monday morning at 9:00am. This past Monday. So I saw him Friday nite, but he seemed on edge, and I felt like last week he was juggling things around. He seemed flustered. But he left my place on Friday nite last week, he was calm again and said "You have a great weekend. Oh I might call you Sat.", which he never did. I never heard from him Sat. or Sunday of last weekend. So there you have it. Needless to say I had LOTS to think about this past week and my thoughts were not pleasant ones. So I have decided I want more from a relationship and MY needs are not been met. Who cares what he's doing , WHAT do I want. All women should have thoughts like those eh? Men too for that matter when dealing with their gf's.

My idea of a steady bf is one that sees you weekends and you have met at least one of their friends. My X husband, I saw him every Sat. nite then after 2.5 months he slept over every Sat. nite and left Sunday afternoon, then after 3 months I started to meet his important friends. This guy (he lives in my hometown and his name is Rick) says on Sat. nites he used to take his wife out, and thru the week when they were married and living together she looked after their 2 kids and on the weekends she had the time to do her thing and that he watched the kids. He said she is living in the same part of Mississauga Ontario that they shared a house in and that she now lives with a 70 yr old, and he said when I asked him if he ever saw his X wife, he said when he is in Port Credit sometimes he bumps into her. NoW what do you think???

You see this pattern was hidden from me for all of July and August because I kept leaving our town to go north to the cottage and was gone all of the weekends except ONE, and on that one I saw him Friday nite, then Sat. afternoon until 4:30pm when he said he had to be downtown for a shoot. He is in the entertainment business and they work weekends, BUT, I have NEVER seen him any weekends in Sept. until today. I have asked him and as my friend said he always manages to wiggle out of it. His profile did NOT have a picture and the profile said he made $150,000 per yr. That is NOT why I agreed to meet him. I noticed on the phone we got along great from a conversation standpoint. My friend asked me how tall this guy was (he is 51 but looks 56) and I said 6 feet. She said 6 feet and makes $150,000 per yr? She then went on to say "OH he will have women falling all over him". 8)

to reply. Thanks. I have yet to hear from him and I lasted talked to him on Monday and today is Saturday. And this is the Thanksgiving long weekend. So next time he calls I will say if you cannot see me on a Sat. nite and Sunday then you will NOT see me. And that would include most if not all Saturdays. Thanks again guys, and tell me your stories you have heard re: this train of thoughts.

His words have been great, BUT the actions don't back up the words. I met him ONLINE and he did not have a picture. I feel he sees more than one (in different cities) in Canada and the US.

It is a form of control. He is trying to control you.

Similar situation as "teach1". I have been dating this guy who also lives in my small home town (39,000 people live here approximately) since the end of June which would make it almost 3 1/2 months now. We only have seen each other on MOnday's, Wed and Fridays. Never on a Sat. nite or Sunday or Sunday nite. Only 1 time in the summer did I see him on Sat. until 4:30pm. He is close to my age, divorsed. I have been to his house about 4 times now, one time with my son. He takes me out in our town that we both live in, BUT I have never met any of his friends or family ever. About 2 weeks ago we had a formal conversation where we are both exclusive (re: sex and not seeing other people). I wrote in the past on this site saying that one time I asked him to sleep over (when my son was at the cottage and not here with me at home) and he refused but said sometime in the future he would, he was just not ready yet. Now what do you all think.??? Feedback would be greatly appreciated. Teach1 and I should discuss this topic because we are in the same boat, but I think her situation is better at this point than mine. 8)

problem you have, BUT mine is worse than yours. I have been dating this guy who also lives in my town for about 3 months and 2 weeks (3 & 1/2 month) and I never see him on a Sat. night or Sunday or Sunday nite. It's only on Monday, Wed and Fridays AND - I have not met any of his friends or family which is really starting to BUG me, so I am soon maybe going to be dating other guys. 2 weeks ago we had a discussion and we both agreed that we were exclusive re: sex and not seeing other people. I have been to his house in the day and nite but never on a weekend. What do you think of that.

Starting seeing this guy from the last Wed. in June and its now the last Wed in Sept. (3 months) and I have NOT seen him on a Sat and or/ Sunday? I was away at the cottage for most weekends in the summer so those months don't really count, but all of Sept. I have not seen him on the weekends and we both live in the same sort of small town. I have invited him to hang with me for 3 Sat.'s in Sept. but he refused all 3. Once in the summer he cou,ld have slept over (my son was not with me then) but he refused, but said in the future he would. I have been to his house about 4 times. 2 times with my son, in the day and nite time. Personally I think its a commitment issue, BUT I could be wrong. Any input would be greatly appreciated. And have a great weekend. 8)

Thanks for your reply. WOW. He would not sleep over and when you tried to end it he slashed your tires. Not cool eh?

the nite I asked him to stay over my son was up north at the cottage and I was in town for the night and 2 days and he would not then, but he left my house at 1:30am. Wow he lived in the same town as you and did that? Did he ever take u out in that town. I have gone to various places with this guy all over town so you would think that he did not have a gf. Did you date this guy quite a few times or was it more like a 1 time thing? Hope to hear from you and thanks for the reply

I have been to his house a number of times. He lives in the same small town with me and said I could drop by at anytime. My son and I have also been there and I have gone for walks in the neighborhood more than once (1 time at nite and recently during the day) with him and his dogs. Did your person (that you knew) live with a girl who was his gf? Just curious. and thanks for the reply

you do sound much older than 15. Thanks for the reply