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Totally agree. I even said that to her, she contacted me because she was lonely. She denied it, said she always thought about me, etc Did not buy it

We met through a mutual friend. We don't live in same state 3 hour drive

I only said I would be friends and stay in touch so I could end the conversation with her. She would not let it go, obviously because she knew she treated me poorly and wanted to not feel like she is a bad person. Whatever... I am not going to be friends with her, I am never going to contact her.

Thank you for replying. The thing is she was still asking about getting together and we had discussed multiple times about middle of October worked for both of us and agreed to meet then leading up to me making that reservation. I did not just make a reservation without knowing it would be good with her. That is what makes me so mad. The week I made the reservation we talked about meeting this weekend, I agreed on meeting this coming weekend.

This 100%! So many people now would rather ghost, not deal with someone because they have poor manners, poor people skills, and do not want to deal with any situation where they may feel like they are a bad person due to having esteem issues. So not dealing with it is better than disappointing someone and feeling like they are a bad person. This is rampant now, can't tell you how many times I have heard this happening, let alone to me.

Honestly, it has been a while since I have had a real relationship. It is not because I do not want one I have always wanted one, a wife, kids, etc. Things never worked out for one reason or another. Now, my life really does not allow that as I have been caring for my elderly parents for a few years now I just don't see how I can have a real relationship with that going on. I have tried dating but have run into some less than stellar women who were less than happy with my life situation and let me know about it. Let me know it was a detriment to dating and having a relationship. So i have tried and not been successful, recently got screwed over and lied to. People are selfish, don't care how they treat you for the most part. Dating now is not fun Wish I could give you advice to help....

We live about 3 hours away from each other. We met over a year ago, had a great time for 3 months then she ghosted me. Well in July she got back in touch out of no where and said she missed me and apologized for ghosting me. Told me she was going through some tough times and did not mean to ghost me but could not put any effort towards me and that she regretted doing that as she really likes me a lot and has thought about me all this time. So we start back up communications, things are really good, like before. Great rapport, get along great. I unfortunately can't go visit her then due to lots o things going on and could not get away, then when I could she had things going on and did not have time. so we stay in touch, and things are good or so it seemed. I made a reservation two weeks ago for this upcoming weekend to have a long weekend together as I know she could. Last week things seem to have gotten a little weird with her communication. Talk Sunday night, I tell her I have a surprise, she says I want to tell you something first. I say ok, she says she met someone, has a boyfriend, and we can't spend time together anymore. Tells me I know I am not a good person for doing this, I never should have gotten back in touch with you, I really like you but you live 3 hours away, etc, etc. I ask her when did this happen and how long have you known him. She tells me this week, they met two weeks ago. The proceeds to tell me how much fun they have, how he's a good guy, etc. Like I care. I say really, then she says what did you want to tell me. I tell her I booked a place for this weekend for us to go away, spend time together. She goes silent. Then says, I can't go with you now. Why did you do that without telling me? Tell her, oh I don't know because we wanted to get together and it has not worked out yet. I then say, I am going to have to pay a penalty due to cancelling week of as it is busy season. Then she says we can still be friends, I don't want you to be sad. I tell her I don't need her pity. Then say I guess you really did not like or care about me as much as you said and showed me. Told her don't worry I will delete your number and won't bother you again. You don't have to do that, I still care about you and want to know you, I really do care about you. I tell her I see no reason to stay in contact if you are not interested in me romantically anymore. I do not want to be just your friend. She tells me please don't be mad, you should be happy for me that I am happy. I said and what about me? She tells me you'll find someone that's really good, I know you will. I then say, so I guess you got back in contact with me because you were lonely and just felt like using me for attention to make you feel good. She says no and that I am mean for saying that. lol End the conversation, I agree to be friends to end the conversation, I will never contact her. She tells me she definitely wants to stay in touch and check in with each other, at this point I am laughing to myself. I take the high road with it all, wish her the best, etc. All I have to say is unbelievable and how much people really do suck! How much they lie to you. In two weeks she meets someone and has a relationship Laughable to say the least. Meanwhile all that time invested for nothing, such a waste. On top of I lost a deposit for that reservation this weekend I am so pissed off right now, can't put it into words...

First: I can't stand this thread. F'ing hate this thread!!! Second: Women dumpers pretty much never come back. Once a women is done with you she is done, never to give it another chance. Women seem to really think and wait before they break up and are very sure of their decision. When a women breaks up with you pretty much forget about them and write them off.

Wish I could agree about getting warm and fuzzy feeling viewing this thread. Unfortunately find the thread somewhat depressing about people coming back... Maybe because I would like a special person to come back and I know they wont be.

Just broke up with my girl, she broke with me. Have no idea why, really. She is having a tough time and was not comfortable with how she felt about me. She lvoed me and her feelings were strong but could not deal with them. On top of her mother having cancer... Have a few thoughts but she seems to be all over the place and needs to mature some. I am in nc and hoping we can reconnect some day as she is a very special person. this post gives me some positive hope that it can happen. Unfortunately in my experience it has never happened for me or any of my friends, family, etc. have never heard of anyone getting back together after breaking up. Except in this forum. I want to know where all this reconnecting is happening? and how?

Be careful... Had a gf who was crazy for me and she would say that she will miss me when I am gone and some others... WHen I asked her why she would say these things she did not have an answer... One day she just broke up with me after 1.5 years, never gave me a reason or talked to me about breaking up to this day... Maybe he is not invested in this as much as you are...

I don't see why you are so upset at this... You have basically told him "I don't want to date you" multiple times and you both acknowledge there is something between the two of you... SO he is sick of trying to date you, but really likes you so he figures a f.w.b. is more to your liking... No pressure and you can both have fun without strings... I don't think it can ruin your friendship if you both don't let it... Have been in a similar situation and it was fun... GL in whatever you do...

You should do cardio after you lift... If your main goal is to gain mass and muscle then you are using alot of energy before you lift and not giving max effort to lifting... DO cardio after lifting and on days when you do the big muscle groups I would do lighter than normal cardio... Also within 30 minutes of lifting you need to take in protein, so if you are going to do cardio you need to eat a bar and or drink a shake... The other thing is if your goal is to gain then you must take in at minimum 500 more calories a day than you use...Now I don't know your body type or metabolism so I can't say how many calories is good for you... Good luck on your goals.... If you have anymore ??? I would be glad to help

That statement sums it up for me the last 2 years.. Whole lot of dating people I don't have much interest, chemistry, or connection with...Still give them a chace and go out but nothing... Of course the people I am really interested in have no interest in me...

Sorry to hear this happened to you...I would guess he jsut does not want a relaitonship...It is rude and really shows what he thinks of you and the three years that you spent together to just decide you should break up and not give a reason... Guess he is afraid of a relationship...Good luck and things will get better... Same thing happened to me. She lived with me and one day took her to her parents house and she said it was over, mind you all this after 1.5 years of living together... SHe would not talk with me nor ever give me a reason... Told me she would talk with me when she was ready, still waiting for that day... Now she emails or texts every so often to see what I am up to, acts like my heart has healed and everything is good... Talk about being ignorant towards another person's feelings...My heart still is still in pieces and put away... DOn't reallythink I can ever trust anyone again 100%... If I ever do it will take one special person for me to feel it..