Angelindisguise

If you are talking to me trlblazer I am one of the most clean shaven and hygenic "down there" as you can be. The added insucurity of him not going down has made the "grooming" a regular part of my life. And there is no tuna hunny. You should have read my first post better.....

U are a smart man warbeast - way to go!

Good idea ...................

This is discusting. mjones, I really, really feel for you. I have felt some of the things you are feeling (never thought of ending my life tho) and it's ok. Most of the things you have listed CAN be changed - TRUST me! As for your minimum wage job, I know plenty of people who are 23, going to school adn working their spare time at a minimum wage job! No matter how bad things seem to you, there is ALWAYS someone worse off than u!!! Everyone learns from their mistakes, you cannot give up! While you can go on and on about how much you hate yourself, I think, no I KNOW you can list some good things. You need some self esteem and you can give yourself that gift....again I promise. I don't think you are attention starved, but I do think it helps just to vent sometimes and have someone hear your problems....doesn't make you feel so alone...know what I mean? Take it day by day and really try on approving yourself...a total makeover, it's fun sometimes, (even though it doesn't seem that way) and you can really make a 180 in your life. You are so young and have to much to live for. My moto is if things are going too poorly, MOVE, get the heck outta there and start all over again. Keep us "posted" and hang in there!

My first time was utter hell!! I don't even like to think about it. So don't feel alone lol. It DOES get better...and can be a wonderful thing, in a relatioship or casual. Good luck to you in the future

Ok. I don't think she really has anything to pay for. She has a boyfriend, with whome she cheated on with you.........so, your the "other guy". Not to say she isn't at fault - at all....it's totally is partly her fault. My advice is to leave her alone. In my opinion she is totally blowing you off cause she either made a mistake or feels bad for messing around with you on her boyfriend. This is not cool, leave her alone and she has nothing to "pay for"

Ok well here's a little background. I don't like him AT ALL in a romantic way and while I can't speak for him I THINK he feels the same way. I enjoy talking to him because we get along and I broke up with him - lost ALL interest in him a few month b4 we broke up, (because it was love at first sight with my current man - in which we waited to date - long story.....) and I don't think he has ANY doubt in my feelings and commitment for him (current man) Thanks alot for your opinions and the suicide thing creeped me out :S

Ok. Question. I have been with my current boyfriend for 5 years now. Before my current man I had a boyfriend for about 2 years before that. I love the man i'm with while my entire being and we have talked about gettin married soon. So I know I will be spending the rest of my life with him, there's not doubt about that. The only thing is I still talk to my ex online. Almost everyday, but i NEVER see him or EVER talk to him on the phone or anything. It seems to bother my man a little tiny bit, or so he tells me. I have told him and he knows, that my ex means nothing to me, and he really kinda grosses me out. I just enjoy talking to him. If he wanted me to stop talking to him I would in a heart beat. So my question is this. (for the men out there) Would this bother you? Am I being unfair in talking to him? Is this wrong? Thanks

I kind of have to agree with goddess. I do with my girfriends and gay friends but not usually straight males. HOWEVER, I do know people who greet others like this. It's apparently the "posh" thing to do. I love it, it's fun and prissy. Hee he (it can be flirty, but in a completely harmless way) I also agree, if you don't feel comfortable, then don't do it. I can't really see people being offended or see them holding it against you.

Wow, this is totally weird. I really hate to say this, but hopefully my negative experince will help you out. I am the other girl. I am what your friend is doing to you. Our situations are probably different but let me tell you my story. I had been friends with ....let's call her "diane", for over 13 years now. We were very close. Over the past few years we have really changed. Just interests and future plans....we were so different, but we always had our commited relationship to fall back on. It's actually a really long story, so i'll make is short. Point is, I really have to admit i now ignore her. I can't stand hanging out with her and don't know how to tell her properly. I will just advoid her until I either get the guts to tell her or fiqure out what to say. She complains about it to other people and really just doesn't ever bring it up because I think deep down she knows. My advice? Just ask her! If she actually confronted me in an aggressive manner I would most likely tell her. She has asked me b4 and I just play it off as everything is ok cause it's just easier. I know it's terrible, but I really don't know what to do. How do u tell someone you don't want to be friends with them anymore? I'm torn. This isjust my situation and thought my unfortunate situation may be of some help to you. Good luck!

I'm glad to hear you are goin' for it!!!! Cudos do u! Like I said , i am still in school and have been with my man for 5 years. School doens't really matter too much when it comes to your significant other. Becuase your in school your relatioship won't go anywhere? Don't think so. U can have the best of both worlds TRUST ME. Also i'm sure she will really value your dedication and hard work....it's quite a turn on

I agree, thanks again guys. My point was that I would never consider leaving my current man for him, nor would I go out of my way to meet his guy, but I just wanted to know if what I am feeling is normal? If it's wrong? Should I cut him off just cause? I will take all of your suggestion into consideration...it really helped..thanks again!

Sounds like you have a lot of things going for ya! Your a lucky gal. Many people would love to be in your shoes. As far as talking to the friends thing.....we are always here for u! Take it one day at a time and it will get better. Find something you really enjoy, maybe u need a big change in your life. Move and start all over again. I have had negative thoughts b4 but you can never go as far as suicide. What's the worst that could happen? Move to a new city/state/heck country and start ALL OVER AGAIN. It's a small fantasy of mine.....so exciting. U always have options. You need to learn to love yourself and go from there. Dig deep down and learn to respect yourself and enjoy being the person you are I've been there done that, and heck if i can do it you sure can! Good luck and take care!!! Keep us posted!

I have a feeling the exams may be contributing to your feelings a bit. Not to worry. I agree with the above, finish up with your exams so that you can devote all of your energy to fiquring out your relationship. When the time comes, just talk to him about it. That's really the only thing you can do. Sparks do die out, on the other hand people do go through slumps. My man and i call each other less etc., for the simple fact that we are so close that there isn't a whole lot to talk about 24/7. Or it could be that it's just so comfortable that he doesn't feel the need to call or txt all the time. My advice, just ask him.... good luck!

Gawd, go get them checked out. It's a medical issue. U can probably get a prescription for them....whatever they are. I wouldn't worry about it too much. I would stop touching them NO MATTER WHAT and just see if they go away........GL!