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  1. Ok so ex broke up very wishy washy over text like two weeks ago...I went into NC and now he's been texting really short texts over the last three days...not sure when he wanted the break but couldn't say why. What the heck do I do now? There are three trains of thought that I have: one is not to respond, next is to ask why he's texting when he did the splitting and third is the advice from someone on here (which I've been kind of following) is to just respond short no relationships talk because maybe my expectations were so high and the pressure of the whole thing was making him distanced and that this way he is feeling comfortable getting back talking to me. HELP.. your thoughts? Lynne
  2. Anon12..good advice..you say they have your number..but remember you're not picking it up?
  3. We just broke recently after breaking a year prior...my question is that everyone says go NC but then how do you reconcile if you're going NC...how would they reach you? Wouldn't they just give up and move on?
  4. What if they start to come around more...calling and seeing you (mainly sex...not activities like movies, walks) but they never have said anything about the relationship and you feel like it almost mimics your old boring thing you had....do you say anything or just go NC? I really feel as though I'm a puppet and even though we have been split since Dec. he's come to no real breakthrough.
  5. Here's a MAJOR important question: Is it necessarily crucial to have that 4-8 weeks break before you initiate LC as the dumpee? What if you never stopped talking since the break?
  6. It really almost sounds like to me that couples go through a period (especially guys) before getting serious and/or marrying where they need to re-evaluate the relationship and take a break. I think John Gray mentions this too happening... around 1 year into a relationship. My sister and her husband are HAPPILY married for 4 years and he stuck by her through her committment stuff-she broke up with him twice...but it's good now
  7. Hi guys, I have to tell you that I particularly love this post about NC. I recently posted a question about NC today-really need answers. I am doing NC and everyone says to give them time to either have them realize they miss you...and/or to move on with your life. My question is..if you're doing NC and they did want to tell you they made a mistake...how would you ever know if you wrote them off and are not talking to them. I know it's the best...but sometimes I feel as though it pushes them further away and towards another person. Someone else replied that since he calls and talks about BS...I should say that I don't want to talk unless he's ready to reconcile...but I think that's so pressuresome and puts such an ultimatum on someone. Please HELP Lynne:scramble:
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