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  1. [/color I have a little bit of a problem, and im not sure exactly what topic it fits under but i thought this one was ok. ok well here it goes. a little backround first- i am currently dating my boyfriend for one year, and my ex was two years long. i broke up with my ex and starting going out with my current a week later. my mother pased away almost two years ago, but i am just now seeking counseling. i did not really get along with my father when i was younger, he was the typical strict father, but after my mother passed away we became closer, but we didnt really develope a relationship. ok so the problem is that i need attention, and i am not sure if this is a bad thing or just a trait. my boyfriend is great but not too emotional, and i get upset when he doesnt take a minuet from work to call and say hi or text me. but he does call just not all the time. i just want him to maybe leave a note, or a flower, just some solid evidence that he cares and thinks about me. we have talked about this, and he improves, but i really think its me. i have insecurities, and i cant always expect him to call just when i am thinking of him and want him to call. can someone tell me what i should think? my friends think iam crazy and i need to relax or i will ruin a good thing. please give me some advice -Emotionally stressed
  2. i agree with what the others were saying, and i just want to say that i had an ex who was jealous, and as we are all starting to learn, jealousy stems from insecurity. i stayed with him for 2 years, but i wasnt happy. he always pulled up my shirt, and told me my pants were too tight. he checked my incoming/outgoing calls, he just always thought i was cheating, and the funny thing is i was with him all the time. he didnt tell me that he suspected me of cheating but it was obvious. he also did not tell me to end my friend relationships with the guys that i knew, but it happened anyway because i was never allowed to call or hang out with them. it took me two years to wake up and leave, but i just want to warn you that the longer you stay in hurtful relationship the more it wil affect you in the future, because now i am with a great guy, but i find myself checking his calls, and it kills me cause i know i shouldnt do it at all. you dont know what you dont know, but when my ex made me aware of the fact that i could be a cheater, then it made me look at people, like well they could be cheaters too. so i am battling this, and my final advice is that you should not have to give up friendships with guys if they are just that. talk to him, and see if things get better but if they dont then i would suggest heading out the door, because until he seeks self help he well never be able to love you and trust you fully. goodluck
  3. Hi. I just wanted to say that your story kinda reminds me of my own situation. my b/f just got a great new job and i am very proud of him and support him all the way. the only thing is this job requires a little, (not nearly as much as yours) traveling. actually he is away right now on a business trip. When he started this job he had to talk to other reps on the phone and some of them are girls, and so naturally i became a little insecure. i have an insecurity problem as well, but i have no idea where it stems from. anyway, one thing that almost always gets me through situations is putting myself in his shoes. i always try to think, well if i was in a new business would i avoid men because they are men? the answer is obviously no. men and women interact everyday, and its perfectly normal. If your b/f has given you no apparent reason to distrust him then i wouldnt worry too much about it, but i dont really like the sound of the nicknames either, but hey- you need to pick your battles, and since your man is away alot, you need to choose them wisely. so just text him at night before bed with something sweet to let him you are thinking of him, and i think that things should work out. but remember-your feelings are real, and if you feel it then it isnt wrong, so youshould try hard to work them out! Hope everything works out
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