Mr.cactus, both your posts gave me alot to think about. I know you really put my situation into concideration. In your first post you mentioned 'We often think that the person we currently love is irreplaceable and that we could never find someone as wonderful again'. I've been thinking about that alot lately... and i've come to realise that in my previous relationships that was where i had gone wrong. I never want to let go because i convince myself that the relationship i'm currently in is too great to give up and i might be making a horrible mistake. I still strongly feel those feeling, expecially with my current bf because i guess you could say he's my first love. I know everyone experiences a 'first love' but its so hard to let go of. Don't get me wrong, he treats me great and everyone seems to think we're meant for eachother... maybe we are, but since we both seem to have jealousy problems that we can't seem to agree on perhaps we both aren't ready for commitment.
I thank you all for your posts, and maybe some of you are right, maybe i am foolish for being controlling and jealous, but i've come to realise it's somehting i wont be getting over. It's going to piss me off every time my bf and her are together, and i dont feel like being pissed off my entire life. Also, if he's not willing to make an agreement with me, he can't be too serious about our relationship.
however, I'm not ging to jump to conclusions because to be honest the whole 'relationship' thing is quite confusing for an amature like myself, lol. I'm going to talk to him about it somemore, maybe we can figure things out.
If anyone has any advice i'd be glad to hear it. If not, thanx for the help, its appreciated. Ill keep you guys posted.