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Thanks a lot for all your help, all of you. Much appriciated! Reguards, Brian

She was over my house today too, but my mom was in the basement the whole time we were down there watching the movie....GRRRR. I wish I could get her out of there.... Ok, so say when she was leaning back on the arm of the couch, wouldn't it have been, since she was stretched out, to kinda either climb on top of her or squeeze next to her (both would have been uncomfortable) and it'd be unnatural, akward, and unflowing Gr, maybe I'm just always finding some excuse

Hey, back again for help. I came here for help before in being closer with my girlfriend. We've been going out since Valentines Day (16 days ago) and we're getting a lot closer. I always hug her and put my arm around her, especially at movies and stuff. I haven't kissed her yet though. I had my first kiss over the summer (with my now ex-g/f) in our spa by the pool....incredible, and it was a french, and she said i was a good kisser and everything. (She broke up...emotional stuff....long story)....so it's not like im new to kissing. The thing was, my ex had initiated that kiss. I used to be a shy person, and I;m actually pretty popular now at school and stuff, so I'm moving up in the last few years, but I still always seem to get the guts for things just a little too late. I was over Christine's (my girlfriend) house yesterday and we watched the movie Changing Lanes. We sat on the couch and I had my arm around her the whole time and everything, but I didin't kiss her. I really want to kiss her, but I didn't want to interrupt the movie (she had never seen it before)...I think I always just find an excuse, but really, I didn't want to interrupt. Also, after the movie we just sat on the couch talking for a few minuets. She had gone upstairs for a minute after the movie and when she came back down, being tired, she layed against the arm of the couch, so we we're a little bit apart. Say I was in that poisition now, how would I move in for a passionate kiss without being akward and moving in all...akwardly? Any suggestions, thanks!

Hey, frightened. Love is one of those crazy things that never has a set meaning. If you have doubts or regrets, I'd say it isn't there, though I am not one to judge considering I don't know exactly what caused the negative feelings. It's really hard to tell from my point of view. Gr. Well, love to me is more of an internal feeling that you get. Not butterflies, not that feeling you get when you see someone after being away for a week. It's like, when you're around them everthing is bliss. Everything is perfect, you forget all your problems, the smile never fades, and every time it's the best time you've ever had. It's hard to comprehend in text, but I hope I was of some help. Your friend, Brian.

Hey, sisterlynch. Being a guy, though one that definitely wouldn't cheat, I'd say, that those jerk guys just want ass, really; so when the girlfriend isn't around, they have to get it somewhere else. Then (when they get caught) they try to justify that by saying he didn't understand the boundaries or some BS that he and his girlfriend had set up, or not set up and discussed for that matter. Jerks... Anyway, hope I helped. Your friend, Brian.

Hey, minndawg. Maybe I can help since I'm weird and in between. (I'm a computer nerd and proud, but I hang out with all the ppular kids). The way I see it, when they say they want a nice guy, they want a prep. I know I'm kinda stereotyping, but hear me out. In private the guy is generally nice to her, but there are certain things that go along with that being nice. For one, they're all 'sex fiends', if you will, and they also tend to cheat...but those narrow minded girls see the guy as being nice until he breaks her heart. And the reason you see him as a jerk is because he is a jerk. But he seems nice to her in private, but he's a jerk in public because he shows off around his friends. It all comes down to looking good for the specific person or persons you are with at a given time; it's how they fit in. Hope that light helped. Your friend, Brian

Hey, Jessikate. I hear this a lot from people. It's natural though, people assume the worst. You have to just ignore it unless you actually notice something's wrong, don't assume anything. Plus, think about it, sure he hangs out with them too, he can have other gal-friends, but YOU TWO are going out, he's YOURS, if your assumptions were true, don't you think he might be dating one of them instead? Fact is, he isn't, he's dating YOU, so chill

Hey, Waterlily. That girl jsut wants attention. I know all too many girls like that, act all "slutty" but then cry about it. To deal with it, you need to understand exactly what they're doing. People like that are SO insecure about themselves that they go crazy skimpy on clothes for attention, and then have those instant crying spells to make people comfort her, it's how they get attention. Don't get worked up over it, just ignore it. They really can't be helped, it's their way of life, and don't let their problem be yours too. Your friend, Brian.

Just thought I'd come back and give a little update on the analogy we were using. Instead of thinking that she "dropped the bomb" on you, think about more as she planted a bomb, and that scared you, a lot. So you freak out and eventually the bomb blows up. What you need to do instead is take the time to find the right wire to "cut", but basically just give it time to play out and stay cool, and maybe you can de-fuse the bomb. Later on. -Brian

Hey, prelude. One thing to always keep in mind that many guys always assume too quickly is that just because she's avoiding you doesn't mean it's your fault. She could be having a rough day, rough week. Maybe there's conflict at home and she's just feeling down. One thing you might try is finding a time that you pass her (don't wait for ehr to find you) and ask her what's up. "What's up" as in, "what's the problem". That will show her you really care, and then you can build on your trust and friendship more around that, and really develop some stronger bonds. Again, just some suggestions that you might try working around the situation (since you know it much better than I do.) Good luck, and tell me how it goes! Your friend, Brian.

Hey, Guyuet. I was in a similar relationship a few months ago. I think the reason she keeps calling is because after awhile of living a certain way people begin to adopt habits and ways of living. When things change people need a way to cope with that sudden emptyness. That may sound strange, considering she was the one that ended it, but that may all just be conflicting feelings that she has. Sometimes it takes that emptyness to realize what you've lost. So this could be a way of strengthening a future relationship if you play your cards right. So, let her call you, remain good friends, let her see what she's missing. Don't instantly forget her, since I know you obviously don't want to. So during those times she calls you, talk about your relationship in the past, the feelings, and why things went the way they did. Find out what it is that's holding her back and work a plan around that. Good luck, and tell me how it goes! Your friend, Brian

Hey, man. Wow, well I've walked a mile in your shoes. Same situation I was just in, the whole delay, then jealousy, I know how you feel. See, I had told this girl I liked her a lot, and she told me she liked me too, so that made it a little easir for me. Funny thing was it still took 3 weeks to ask her out because were were never alone enough at any point, and so finally after lots of peer pressure after a Sixers basketball game I asked her kinda on the way to the car...kinda akward, but it worked. For you, now. The signs show that she likes you, and I think the wink from her sister might mean that the 2 of them have "gossiped" about it, and that she knows the whole situation. thereforeeeeeee the wink might be an encouraging approval. Another problem you seem to face is schedule conflicts. What you have to do is ask a week or more in advance. 5 days minimum I'd say for you. She needs time to plan out her week, maybe request of of work or something. Or maybe find out when she has work from her or from her friends or sister, and plan your time around that. So once you get schedules all worked out, just get the nerve, don't think, and go for it! Good luck, man, and tell me how it goes! Your friend, Brian

Hey, curtillyle, I don't know how much help I can be becasue I don't have much experience in your type of situation, but I have just a few things to think about: Are you assuming too much? Don't think that jsut because she mentions her ex's it means she misses them and still has strong feelings for them, it may just be that the thought happens to pop into her head when she goes someplace she's bbeen before with someone. This is natural, you dont completely forget what you did with your ex's. Are you over-reacting? I'm assuming your reaction to this communication about her ex's makes you initiate the argument. Depending on how open she is, consider simply asking her what made her mention that. This could help you to understand what brings back these thoughts, don't just assume it's something bad like regret or something, find out before you flip. She may just be a big communicator, and whatever comes to mind she just says. You know her much better than I, so it's just some things to consider. Good luck, let me know how it goes! Your friend, Brian.

Hey, kbartel, Most times it comes down to having a talk. This, I believe, is one of those times. I think what you need to is find time where you can talk in private for as long as you need, and come to certain understandings with eachother about trust. Relationships wont last if you're both weary of one another, so just set things straight. If you still have trouble right away, it's something you'll need to develop. Maybe bring him along when you go out with outher guy friends, to show him that you are trustworthy. If he completely refuses ever to trust you, you may just consider that he's not the one, especially if he always thinks you're lying to him. Good luck, tell me how it goes! Your friend, Brian.

Thanks, everyone! *thinks* I guess I can already see myself completely able to do those things, and I like the overexaggurated stuff, haha. We're going mall this friday and movies saturday Thanks again, all of you!