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I know how she feels. I was terrified of saying anything wrong with anyone after my abusive relationship. However, this was something I acknowledged. Ask her.

Sex is absolutely great, but only with chemistry and practice! And boys, I sure am glad I haven't dated you... The only men I've been with I've had to push away from my pu&&y. They think it tastes great- the ironic thing is I don't like receiving oral sex and just had to anyway for them. And what is with the crappy comment about women needing to swallow in order to get a blowjob? Tisk tisk. And why you so afraid of self-fellatio? I believe you would if you could...

This man is nasty! If you really feel you are learning, learn what you can and drop him for someone your own age. Maybe someday he won't abuse his position as a teacher and will date someone at least older than his own kids. You don't want this guy for the long haul.

Maybe the guys you are with are boring lovers. Do you just lie there and kiss? Maybe you need a very, very... er... aggressive guy to keep it moving and passionate, pulling you around, pushing you down, and doing it fast! That's fine! Some guys just want to lie there and give soft gentle kisses and then... whoo... my mind starts wandering, too.

Really! I'm sexually turned on by men but emotionally turned on by women. Wanna swap?

A few people got breat reductions when I was in high school. No one thought anything of it. I know you think people will judge you, but they probably won't.

Hey. First of all, the pills are terrible for your health. I used to have very small breasts, and was so self-conscious that I even ordered all the pills, but when they came, I just couldn't do that to my body and they're still in my drawer unopened. A healthy body is a beautiful, beautiful thing. I came to terms with my small breasts and started to love how they looked. However, and this may give you hope, a bit less than a year ago they just started expanding and they still haven't stopped. I admit, I think my new boobies are gorgeous, but it does bother me that they will sag in my future, that I always have to wear a bra, and that men fall in "love" with me because of my breasts... which is deeply disappointing when you think your love is real and beautiful. Anyway, I'm not significantly happier now- different problems come with different bodies. Either way, we're young and healthy!

Talk to your friend about it if it comes up in the future. Some people wouldn't mind.

This guys an a-hole. You'll realize this once you get some distance and get a little older. This guy isn't just an a-hole for wanting to cheat on his girlfriend but for trying with a fifteen year old.

All these men who like it completely shaved feels very disheartening to me. I think it's not nearly as pretty completely shaved. I wax the lips and trim it close, which I love to do and I think makes it much prettier, but ... having it all gone is completely unnecessary and a product of our culture (and porn). Though I'd rather have it completely shaved then one of those ridiculous "landing strips;" those are quite ugly, IMO. I dislike how hair-phobic our culture is. As for men, I enjoy hairy chests and hairy bums, and don't like it when the area down there is trimmed too close (though some trimming is recommended). The men in my life have always agreed, they love how I keep myself down there. I have offered to shave it all off numerous time, without any takers.

masturbate before your date?

It's not about whether the guy is attractive... Believe me, it used to torture me that the man who I was dating, who was physically my dream, would never turn me on, though others mysteriously would be able to. Good chemistry is exceedingly rare, and will likely not be found in the person you want to be with. However, getting extremely excited is not necessary. Sexual activity can be very enjoyable for emotional reasons. Personally, I love the intimacy of getting to know another person's body; it is very meaningful. I love looking at bodies, and touching them, and smelling them. I love how it feels psychologically to be underneath someone's weight, and also the power I feel when I'm the one pinning him. I love doing something well. Even though I rarely get excited enough to come with a man, I get such a thrill from everything else that the men are always blown away, the best they've had. I say, if you're frustrated with your body, you might be interested in relinquishing that "need" to be "turned on," forget about your clit, and enjoy how it feels to touch and kiss someone, and be touched and kissed. Stop worrying about being turned on (surprisingly, the one thing that might help you actually be turned on one of these days). And, of-course, there are certainly men out there (though hard to find at our age, especially) who have just as low of a sex drive as you do. And, if you want to swing that way, women. Though I just made a speech about how sexual activity can be enjoyable, I completely agree with you in that I don't find it necessary in any way to my happiness. Even as someone who does enjoy sexual activity, I promise you- you don't need to feel bad or like you're missing out on something vital to happiness.

I didn't masturbate once until I was... eighteen, almost nineteen. The reason I didn't was that I didn't know how. When I was raped, I decided I had better get control of my body now, and never need a man... I figured out how to give myself an orgasm and since then it can be anywhere from 0 to 3 times a day, but I suppose it averages out to once a day, unless I get play that day., of-course. Does your girlfriend know HOW to masturbate? Can she give herself orgasm? I know this is a sensitive subject, but are you sure she isn't deceiving you or herself about orgasm? I was that way before I figured it out.

Have you been honest with your boyfriend? Tell him everything you're sad about. Tell him your confusion about whether to brake up with him. Let him make the decision. What will most likely happen is he will respect your honesty, and do what he can to spice up the relationship. It happened with my bf. I was tired of the routine, and I finally burst and went to him about how I needed excitement. He told me he loved me, and it wasn't long before he started taking me on road trips, and out on dates... I trusted him to make me happy, and he did. The other option is that he'll brake up with you. It's highly unlikely, but part of you seems to want that, anyway.