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  1. Everyone in this thread trust me, you are better off not talking to them... Both the girls I dated last year randomly got back in contact with me this week, uncanny timing. One after maybe 4 months and the other after close to 7 months of no contact. Combined 11 months of no contact between two exes broken in the span of 48 hours. Now both are friends with me on FB again and one of them has called me and texted me even though she has a boyfriend now and seemingly wants to be BFF with me. It's a mess, stay no contact, my life is a lot more confusing and worse off now than if I had ignored them and stayed no contact.
  2. "F U" That is all...that is basically all I want to say to her at this point but there is no reason to break no contact with her and I am better with her out of my life, but I really wish I could tell her off just once. I found out about a lot of horrible things she did and her lies after we went into no contact and she has no clue I know what I do now and I think she thinks I still like her and want her back and that she is "ignoring me". I really so bad want her to know how much I despise her right now.
  3. I am well over a month, probably close to 2 and I casually dated a girl for about a month between so I wasn't counting or thinking about it anymore. But I found out yesterday that my ex was very likely cheating on me while we were dating and now I have the urge to contact her and tell her off. I was never anything but nice to her, and she kind of took advantage of that and now I kind of want to let her know that she hurt me and that I was wrong about her and how she is awful for the way she treated me. But I know I am better off long term just keeping the no contact with her and keeping her out of my life. I wish I didn't find that out because I was almost completely over her and stopped thinking about her except for the occasions where a friend or family member would ask me about her who didn't know we had broken up.
  4. I was all ready to move on, and I just found out my ex was very likely cheating on me while we were dating...I am so pissed off yet I have been finally over a month no contact with her after a long drawn out breakup. I was always so nice to her and polite and even during the break up she was the one going back and forth and I always apologized to her when things got bad and when it finally ended (she refused to break up on the phone and did it by text), I sent her a long text wishing her the best with everything, etc. Now all I want to do is give her a piece of mind and let her know that I am not ok with her. But I know that would just probably make things worse. Ugh....I knew she had pictures up of her with another guy on fb pretty quickly after we broke up, but I just figured it was someone else she met online. I found out it was the guy she dated before me, and her behavior with me while we were dating makes perfect sense now, she was probably still seeing this guy some and during the drawn out breakup she was trying to keep me around as her backup. Everything is clicking now. She even told me at one point while we were still dating that she was talking to this guy again because she "needed him as a reference" on one of her job applications because he was a doctor and it would look good. At the time I was so smitten with her that the comment didn't even make me think twice. So I even know probably when she started seeing him again. I am so pissed off right now that I can't sleep. I have to be awake in 4 hours for work and I can't think of anything other than wanting to text her or call her or send her a message on facebook about how mad I am. But I won't, which is why I am posting here instead to vent.
  5. No, he will not know if you block his posts from your news feed. The most recent girl I broke up with for some reason wants to be friends with me on fb. The first time we stopped talking I de-friended her and she found out and re-added me by sending me another request a couple days later. We ended up getting back together and just broke up again. So this time I just removed her posts from my news feed, because it hurts me to see her posts, similar to what you said. But I don't want her knowing I removed her and her trying to re-add me again or what not. I have actually removed quite a bit of people from my news feed and I am almost certain they don't know, just like if you make them restricted.
  6. Unfriend him on FB, or at least edit it so he doesn't show up in your news feed. Or else every time he updates his FB it is going to hurt the recovery process
  7. I will say I broke no contact a couple times with my last ex and avoided starting it again when she was calling me daily and it burned me and ended up making things WAY worse. I think being burned by avoiding NC has made it easier. Because I haven't even had the inclination to contact the new breakup that happened 5 days ago. I know nothing good is going to come of it. I hope all you guys can get over it too, and I know almost all of you had way longer relationships you broke up with so it is harder, but you are doing the right thing. I wish you all the best of luck
  8. Good luck. My ex has moved on so I don't expect her to contact me, I deleted her contact from my phone, blocked her dating profile and her fb so I would have to go out of my way to try and contact her now. I should have blocked her phone #, but too late now because I don't remember it. But I basically removed any possibility of me contacting her.
  9. I am not friends with her on fb anymore. I actually saw it because I was looking at an old status on my fb wall to find a link my friend posted me and she had commented on that link from when we were friends on fb. I noticed her profile pic was her and another guy and clicked on her profile and saw the rest of it. I should have just ignored it.
  10. Haven't talked to my ex in over a week. Part of reason we broke up is because she told me she needed to be single now and didn't have time for a boyfriend and needed to focus on herself. I ran accross her fb page today (on accident, honestly) and she is already dating another guy and has a bunch of photos of the two of them together all over her fb page. I was fine with the break up but seeing that hurt me. I am not going to contact her, but I am feeling down right now and had to post something. I was doing so well too, wish I didn't see that.
  11. I think I am done posting in this thread. I did it when I felt like contacting her and to put some accountability on myself. But even though I broke down the other day, I don't think I will try and contact her again, nor am i going to count the days since I contacted her. I realized today that I didn't know her that well, that I was missing being with someone and not necessarily her. I am moving and looking for someone else right now and I finally have a sense of finality with her so I don't think I need this thread anymore. I wish everyone else luck in their quest to not contact their ex
  12. 24 hours of new no contact since I broke it yesterday I feel so much better today. I still think about her a little bit, but now I feel like there is finality and closure. I don't have the anxious feeling wondering if she is going to call me again or what is really going on. I have no inclination to call her or try to contact her again. While before I kind of thought it could have been a temporary no contact, now I believe I won't have any contact with her again and it's easier to move on.
  13. Just broke no contact...but I think it will end up being for the better. I just found out today from a friend I hang out with that my phone hadn't been getting his calls last four days, the same amount of time she hasnt called me. Our last conversation was really normal, no reason for her to stop calling me. So the chance that she had been calling me this whole time and if I fixed my phone I would get another call was killing me. So I sent her a fb message and she confirmed in her response she was ready to move on. So I told her goodbye, good luck with life and that was that. I finally feel some closure. So while I broke no contact after only 4 days, I think in the long run this will be good and make it easier for me.
  14. Day 4 I still think about her almost constantly. Its taking a lot of will power not to call her. But knowing it would be a horrible idea plus knowing her, she gets in kind of mood swings and went through stretches of ignoring me instead of telling me something I didn't want to hear, so even if I did call, she probably wouldn't answer. I really hope this means she is over me and its not a stretch of her thinking she is ignoring me. Although this is easily the longest we have gone now without communication. The first three days I was kind of waiting for her to call and was expecting a call eventually. Now I realize she probably isn't going to call. I can't believe how much of a fool I was, answering her calls and talking to her every night for a month after we broke up, thinking it meant she wanted to get back together, while everyone I knew kept telling me she was using me and keeping me on hold until she found someone better to talk to. I wanted to think she was better than that and she told me multiple times that isn't what she was doing. I am a sucker for believing her and it just pisses me off that she lied to me.
  15. Day 3 of no contact Longest stretch of no contact with her since the first day we met. I have gone from missing her to kind of being mad at her. I am shocked she stopped calling me, but I guess she is over me now. Hopefully that will make it easier to ignore her if she tries to contact me again. My urge to contact her is a lot less today than yesterday too, but I am still thinking about her as much.
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