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  1. Oops, forgot to give Another Update: We are together again (that separation last Sept only lasted a month lol) that's my honey and we still have a beautiful relationship that's going strong
  2. Well, at first it was the issue of our distance. He moved back to his hometown when we graduated earlier this year. So we've been long distance since then! I would ask him all the time when would we be able to close the distance between us and he would always say he didn't know. I told him I would NEVER knowingly be in a LD relationship; the only way I feel that LD relationships work is if they are temporary.....if there is light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak. He had no plans of moving back to where I am, so when I suggested that I move to where he is, he was in agreement....HOWEVER i couldn't shake the feeling that it didn't feel right . I felt like if he wanted me to move there with him, he would have at the very least brought up the subject before I did. I don't know I felt funny about it so I made the decision to stay put until I could get something more solid from him. He still couldn't be firm in expressing the desire to be together, so I told him I wanted us to be apart. [-( A month later, we talked and he laid it all out on the table. He suggested that first we do X, then we do Y, then we could do Z. I was very happy that he was finally sounding more convinced that he wanted this to work so I just picked back up where we left off. I just seem to be in the same boat again and I have about had it!! We have such a cute story of when we met. I wrote about it on here last August. I can't believe now, I'm writing about breaking up with him
  3. Any advice or comments would be appreciated.....I'm so troubled by this, I think I may get it over with and do it before I go to bed.
  4. I broke up with him at the end of August....by the end of September, we just picked up where we left off. I love him with all of my heart but everything I hoped for in this relationship is going down the drain. We are Long-Distance; I haven't seen him in 3 1/2 months; he has no goals, no ambition; he hasn't had a job in 4 months; he lives with his mom. He hasn't come to visit me in all this time because he has no money, because he has no job. I really am so frustrated because I'm a very loyal girlfriend and I feel bad about leaving him. But I asked my mother and my girl friend if it's wrong to break up with someone because they have no job, and they both said that if he has no job NOR ambition, then there's nothing wrong with it. I don't know, it's just starting to seem to me as if he's just flat out LAZY!!!
  5. By the way, I feel as if once we decide to be in a relationship and are discussing monogamy, committment, marriage, I think a man should WANT to pay for me--for whatever. And that's all i'm going to say. Off to the other thread!
  6. Thanks so much. I was looking for it earlier
  7. Hazey_amber, its interesting you say that. Whenever you and your bf go out, do you feel as if you are perpetuating the old-fashioned mentality that many think we should leave in the past? Do you ever feel guilty if 4 out of 5 times he pays?
  8. There are many things that give men power in thinking they are superior to women. Is money of them? Or does a man need to take care of his wife and family (or whoever is to become his wife)?
  9. So if we're talking about a couple who is in a committed relationship that could lead to marriage, the woman should still pay 50/50? Or should the man take care of the bulk. Furthermore, if we are talking about a married couple (or 2 people that co-habitate), should the man pay for the larger bills and the woman take care of small things around the home?
  10. ....the man or the woman? Should a man pay all the time? In what situations is it okay to pay 50/50?
  11. ...for someone else? Not meaning you planned it or not even meaning that you cheated. But, have you ever ended a relationship to start dating someone else?
  12. Also, we have visited each other a few times in the past four months, but we are both in between jobs and cannot afford to drive/fly/etc. to visit now.
  13. We are about 8 hours away. Thank you all for responding! Oh man I'm going crazy and am experiencing an anxiety attack right now because I'm so confused and torn. Please read this my original post. Only one person responded to it. So again thank you all for responding thus far
  14. Do I leave this man or do I stay? We've been in LDR for 4 months. I thought he would be the one, but I cannot take this distance.
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